研究生英语unit_4_Love_and_Marriage

1、unit 4 love and marriage reading focus: love and loving relationships text organization task 1: skimming and scanning go through the text and find the main idea of each part. npart i introduction (paras.1-3) love is essential for human survival. npart ii body (paras.4-7) what is love? npart iii conc

2、lusion (para.8-12) what brings people together? and is there a person out there that one in meant for? task 2: go through part i again and find the 6 arguments (why love is essential). a.the family is the earliest and most important source of love and emotional support. b.children deprived of love h

3、ave been known to develop a variety of problems. c.research shows the quality of care infants received affects how they later get along with friends. (to be contd) (contd) d. love for oneself, or self-love, is also essential for our social and emotional development. e. social scientists describe sel

4、f-love as important for self-esteem自尊. f. people who dont like themselves may not be able to return love but may constantly seek love relationships to bolster (改变，提高) their own poor self- images. task 3: go through part ii again and find the arguments (what love is). a. love is an elusive (难以描述的) co

5、ncept supporting evidence: a.people give a variety of answers when asked what love is. b.love has many dimensions. c.it can be romantic, exciting, obsessive, and irrational, platonic柏拉图式, calming, altruistic(无 私的), and sensible. d.it varies in degree and intensity and across social contexts. (contd)

6、 b. three elements are necessary for a love relationship: supporting evidence: a.a willingness to please and accommodate the other. b.an acceptance of the other persons faults and shortcomings. c.as much concern about the loved ones welfare as ones own. (contd) c. love, especially long-term love, ha

7、s nothing in common with the images of love or frenzied sex that we get from hollywood, television, and romance novels. supporting evidence: “real” love is closer to what one author called “stirring-the-oatmeal love”. task 4: go through part iii again and find the arguments (what brings people toget

8、her). a.empirical studies show that cultural norms and values, not fate, bring people together. b.criticism and approval teach us what is acceptable romantic behavior and with whom. c.lust and desire are different from love especially romantic love. d. one should not conclude that desire always culm

9、inates in最终达到 physical intimacy or that desire is the same as romantic love. e. healthy love relationships, whether physical or not (such as love for family members), reflect a balance of caring, intimacy, and commitment. detailed study of the text para. 1 task 1: find the useful expressions and use

10、 them in a sentence (sentence making in dialogues) . nbothand (what 2 cities are the largest in china? ) both shanghai and guangzhou are among the largest cities in china. nbe essential for (what is essential for living?) both air and water are essential for living. n(a) source of (what is the sourc

11、e of happiness?) work, love, friendship and family are a source of happiness. nbe deprived of (what are todays children deprived of?) they are deprived of the free time to play and do whatever they like. nbe known to (do sth) (what are wenzhou people known for? ) wenzhou people are known to have a b

12、rain for making business deals. na wide variety of (what will you find in a shopping mall?) youll find a wide variety of goods in the shopping mall. nlast a lifetime (what is happening to entertainers演员 marriage nowadays?) few of them last a long time, not to mention a lifetime. nin contrast (could

13、you compare todays weather with that not long ago?) it is cool and comfortable today, but in contrast it was very hot not long ago. ngain weight (when do you gain weight?) one gains weight when he/she eats too much and exercises too little. nscore high on (an exam) (what makes a student happy?) scor

14、ing high on exams makes a student happy. task 2: answer the content question: what happens when infants are loved and cuddled? they typically gain more weight, cry less, and smile more than those who are not. task 3: summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. family love is so essential

15、 that without it, babies and children develop a wide variety of problems. can you handle the other paras. of the text in the same way? para. 2 nto receive care nget along with (sb/sth) ndo well at/in school nreact to nform and maintain a relationship nit is for these reasons that content question: w

16、hat can be affected by the quality of care infants receive? it affects how well they can get along with friends, how well they do in school, and so forth. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. the quality of care infants receive affects how well these infants perform in various asp

17、ects of their life. para. 3 nself-love nthe way (sb does sth) nself-centered ndescribeas nself-esteem: confidence in ones own worth or abilities; self-respect 自尊(心),自信 nbe open to (criticism) nbe demanding of (others): making others meet high standards nseeas把什么看做 na prerequisite for: 的先决条件 nself-im

18、age nbringtogether: 使相识/相会/聚在一起 content question: what can be the problems with people who dont love themselves? they may not be able to return love; they may constantly seek love relationships to improve their own poor self-images. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. self-love i

19、s not only essential for our social and emotional development, but also regarded as an important basis for self-esteem. para. 4 na variety of naccording to nrun for ones life nto mean by (saying) sth ndepend on nlove for sb/sth na source of nfor many centuries/years content question: what does the s

20、entence “love is like an avalanche where you have to run for your life” mean? it means love is frightening for a nine-year-old. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. there is a variety of answers to what love is. para. 6 ncare about nfor ones own sake nin ones own way nbe necessary

21、 for nfor the purpose of nbe missing nbe based on content question: what happens when lovers do not respect each other? an unhealthy dependence arise that limits summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. respect and caring are essential for love. para. 5 nvary in nsocial context nat th

22、e very least nbe necessary for na loving relationship na willingness to (do sth) neven if nan acceptance of nas muchas nconcern about nthe loved one nones own nbe in love content question: explain the 3 elements necessary for a loving relationship. lovers should be willing to make the other person h

23、appy. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. love can be defined in more than one ways; three elements are necessary for a loving relationship. para. 7 nlong-term nhave nothing/something in common (with) nbecause of nlead to nin fact nbe close(r) to nneithernor nbe/stay up content q

24、uestion: what would happen if “real”, long-term love is mistaken for what you would see in a hollywood movie? it would lead to unrealistic expectations, stereotypes and disillusionment. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. “real” love is found in everyday life, unromantic and with

25、 little sex involved. para. 8: introduction of part iii- brings up the theme: “what brings people together?” ntake turns (doing sth) nin a romantic setting nwhetheror not para. 9 neach other nin the first place nout there nbe meant for nmillions of ndue to nsuch as content question: is there a perso

26、n out there that one is meant for, according to empirical study? no, there isnt. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. its cultural norms and value, not fate, that brings people together. para. 10 nin a/the sense nlust for 贪恋 nlead sb to (do sth) nfall in love content question: wha

27、t is the meaning of parents selecting neighborhoods and schools? to encourage or limit future romantic liasions. summarize the main idea of this para.in your own words. criticism and approval teach us what is acceptable romantic behavior and with whom. (romance is only accepted when it is acceptable in our culture.) para. 11 ndifferentiate between a and b nin contrast nbe engaged (in sth/doing sth) nequate a with b nbe said to (do sth, be in a