I'll Never Understand My Wife

1、“Ill Never Understand My Wife”by Steven James, A Second Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul AND Gary Smalleys book, Secrets to Lasting Love Ill never understand my wife. The day she moved in with me, she started opening and closing my kitchen cabinets, gasping, “You dont have any shelf paper! Were

2、 going to have to get some shelf paper before I move my dishes in.” “But why?” I asked innocently. “To keep the dishes clean,” she answered matter-of-factly. I didnt understand how the dust would magically migrate off the dishes if they had sticky blue paper under them, but I knew when to be quiet.

3、Then came the day when I left the toilet seat up. “We never left the toilet seat up in my family,” she scolded. “Its impolite.” “It wasnt impolite in my family,” I said sheepishly. “Your family didnt have cats.” In addition to these lessons, I also learned how I was supposed to squeeze the toothpast

4、e tube, which towel to use after a shower and where the spoons are supposed to go when I set the table. I had no idea I was so uneducated. Nope. Ill never understand my wife. She alphabetizes her spices, washes dishes before sending them through the dishwasher, and sorts laundry into different piles

5、 before throwing them into the washing machine. Can you imagine? She wears pajamas to bed. I didnt think anyone in North America still wore pajamas to bed. She has a coat that makes her look like Sherlock Holmes. “I could get you a new coat,” I offered. “No. This one was my grandmothers,” she said,

6、decisively ending the conversation. Then, after we had kids, she acted even stranger. Wearing those pajamas all day long, eating breakfast at 1:00 PM, carrying around a diaper bag the size of a mini-van, talking in one-syllable paragraphs. She carried our baby everywhereon her back, on her front, in

7、 her arms, over her shoulder. She never set her down, even when other young mothers shook their heads as they set down the car seat with their baby in it, or peered down into their playpens. What an oddity she was, clutching that child. My wife also chose to nurse her even when her friends told her

8、not to bother. She picked up the baby whenever she cried, even though people told her it was healthy to let her wail. “Its good for her lungs to cry,” they would say. “Its better for her heart to smile,” shed answer. One day a friend of mine snickered at the bumper sticker my wife had put on the bac

9、k of our car: “Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Is a Work of Heart.” “My wife must have put that on there,” I said. “My wife works,” he boasted. “So does mine,” I said, smiling. Once, I was filling out one of those warranty registration cards and I checked “homemaker” for my wifes occupation. Big mistake. S

10、he glanced over it and quickly corrected me. “I am not a homemaker. I am not a housewife. I am a mother.” “But theres no category for that,” I stammered. “Add one,” she said. I did. And then one day, a few years later, she lay in bed smiling when I got up to go to work. “Whats wrong?” I asked. “Noth

11、ing. Everything is wonderful. I didnt have to get up at all last night to calm the kids. And they didnt crawl in bed with us.” “Oh,” I said, still not understanding. “It was the first time Ive slept through the night in four years.” It was? Four years? Thats a long time. I hadnt even noticed. Why ha

12、dnt she ever complained? I would have. One day, in a thoughtless moment, I said something that sent her fleeing to the bedroom in tears. I wen t in to apologize. She knew I meant it because by then I was crying too. “I forgive you,” she said. And you know what? She did. She never brought it up again

13、. Not even when she got angry and could have hauled out the heavy artillery. She forgave, and she forgot. Nope, Ill never understand my wife. And you know what? Our daughter is acting more and more like her mother every day. If she turns out to be anything like her mom, someday theres going to be on

14、e more lucky guy in the world, thankful for the shelf paper in his cupboard.Ill Never Understand My WifeThis story mainly talked about some details in the authors marriage. He never understands the way his wife deals with everyday life, but he knows when to be silent and to respect her way of doing

15、things. Then on a morning as normal as always, however, he realized suddenly that how much his wife had sacrificed and contributed to this family during the long time of four years without any complain. Though still he couldnt understand his wife, he realizes that he has a very good wife. He also ha

16、ppily finds out that their daughter will also be a good wife for someone in the future just like her mother.After reading this article, the same question that Ive thought millions of times occurred to me again, “What kind of marriage will I have and what kind of family will I raise in the future?” I

17、 admire those who have successful careers as well as happy families. Gradually I understand that, love or family, just like career, needs our careful management.In recent years, peoples concept on marriage has changed. People now marry because of love, rather than the arrangement of parents or some

18、sort of responsibility. But it doesnt mean that we shouldnt take responsibility in marriage. Marriage is more than a red certification announcing that youre man and wife. It also means that one has to be responsible for his or her spouse, as well as the new family.Speaking of love, theres too much t

19、o say. But we cant actually talk about it without mentioning romance. Isnt a fine dinner in a luxury restaurant with lit candles attractive? Isnt a bunch of red roses in the morning surprising? Isnt sweet words that almost have your heart melted touching? The answer will absolutely be “yes”. I, howe

20、ver, think that romance will only play a little part in love. Ive never been in love, therefore I dont know how important romance really means for a couple who love each other enthusiastically. If I have a chance to choose, Ill prefer rational love and sense of responsibility instead of romance.Roma

21、ntic or not, the result of love will be getting into marriage. And Im sure many of you must have heard of a famous saying which says “Marriage is the tomb of love.” Because once a man and a woman marry, theyll have to live together. Then theyll have to accept and adapt to the differences and distanc

22、e between being together and living together. Theyll have to face the endless chores in daily life and plan for their money together. Those will unavoidably lead to disagreements and even give rise to quarrels. Marriage will also throw light upon all the hidden disadvantages and theyll be enlarged b

23、y the magnifying glass of marriage. No men are the same just like no leaves are the same. Because of the differences on living environment and education background, people may have different views on a same question. Many people fail to realize this, thus lost the patience on each other, every detai

24、l just seems unbearable. Ultimately theyll unavoidably bring their marriage to an end. My mother once told me that good couples and good families would all have a period called the transition period. During which time they try to get to know each other better than ever and accept each other totally,

25、 especially their weaknesses. Then they could find a standard that both sides accept the most and adjust it when necessary with each passing day. Through their effort, theyll always be living in a family with tolerance, relaxation and love. Their marriage then becomes the paradise, instead of tomb,

26、of love.For most times in a family, the woman sacrifices and contributes much more than the man. Shell just do it without any complaint. Thats where the greatness of a wife and of a mother lies.As a girl around 20, I also dream of love, but a fairly plain one. Hes tall and gentle, rational and respo

27、nsible. He has big hands which can hold me through difficulties and wide shoulders where I can always find the safest feeling I could ever have every time I rely on. A lit light when Im late for home even its already midnight. A coat on my shoulders when I burn the evening oil for my work. Hug me wh

28、en Im weak and tired, support me when I lose and fail. Be with me when Im wild, be with me when Im quiet. Thats all my expectations towards my marriage. Those will bring me all the warmth I want in love.-Book Report of March, 2007我令人难以理解的妻这个故事主要讲的是作者婚姻生活中的一些细节。他不能理解妻子处理日常生活的方式，但他知道何时应该保持沉默来尊重妻子的选择。然

29、而，在一个再平常不过的早晨，作者却突然意识到在长达四年的时间里，妻子毫无怨言地为这个家付出了多少。尽管他仍旧理解不了妻子的一些作法，他却知道，他有一个好妻子；同时他也欣慰地发现，她们的女儿也会在将来成为另一个男人的好妻子，就像她妈妈一样。读罢了这篇文章，一个我曾思考过无数遍的问题再一次向我袭来-将来，我会有什么样的婚姻生活？会拥有一个怎样的家庭呢？对于那些事业成功、家庭幸福的人们，我总是心生羡慕。渐渐地，我明白了，爱情，或者说，家庭，像事业一样，需要我们悉心的经营。近些年，人们对于婚姻概念的理解改变了。人们现在因为爱，不再是因为父母之命或是什么所谓的责任而结婚了。但这种概念上的改变并不意味着我们在婚姻中不应当承担责任。红红的一纸结婚证书宣布了一对男女结为夫妻，而婚姻不是那么简单，它不仅仅意味着一层法律关系，还意味着双方要对彼此负责，对新组成的家庭负责。提到爱情，这个话题总会让人生出无尽的语言。而每谈到爱情不能不提及的，自然是总与之相伴的浪漫。让我们来一起想象这样几幅画面：一对恋人在一家高档餐厅相对而坐，共享