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At15,Iexcelledacademicallyyetfeltovershadowedandunnoticed.The1tostandoutconsumedme,pushingmetowardsaregrettabledecision.Oneday,duringaclassintheITlabwithmyclassmates,ourteachermentionedmissingcomputerparts.2looksexchanged,everyonewonderedhowitcouldhappenina(n)3lab.“It’spossibletoopenthatlockwithanotherkey,”Isaid.Instantly,eyesturnedtomewithnewfoundinterestandcuriosity.ItwasarushIhadneverexperiencedbefore.Enjoyingalltheeyesonme,I4howtoopenthelock.LittledidIrealizethatsinglemomentwouldruineverything.Thefollowingday,calledtotheheadmaster’soffice,Ifoundmyselfaccusedofstealingthemissingparts.“Ididn’tdoit,sir,”Iargued,butsuspicion5hiseyes.Hisrepeated6intensified,pushingmetotheedgeoffearandtears.Inadesperateattempttoescapethemountingpressure,I7confessed(承认).Theheadmasteraskedmyfathertocometoschool,whoseshakyfaithinmebroughtamixofreliefand8.MyfathergentlyaskedmeifIunderstoodthegravityofmyactions.9,Iconfessedmymisguidedlongingforrecognition.Intheheadmaster’soffice,myfatherlistenedattentively,andthenspokewithquietauthority:“Itrustmyson.Heisnotathief.”Withmyfather’ssupport,Ilearnedavaluablelesson:10cannotbeforced;truerecognitioncomesfromhonourableacts.tationdonedyDfalselysurpriseMostdaysafterschool,IlovewalkingintheforestwithmydogNick.It’s11(peace),especiallyaroundsunset.Nickhasafuntimesmellingtheleavesandrunningafterrabbits.WhenNickrunsahead,Ihearhimbarkingexcitedly.Isometimescallhimback,worriedthathemighthavesomeone12(scare).Thetruth,though,is13couldbeguessedtheresneveranyoneelsehere.Justme,Nick,andthequietforest.Whenwasthelasttimeyoutookonatoughchoice?Maybethismorningyoudebatedwhethertogetuporstayinbedslightly14(long).Makingchoicesispartoflife.Bythetimeyoubrushedyourteeth,you15(make)severaldecisionsevenwithoutnoticing.Somechoicesarequick,whileotherstakemorethought.Usually,betteroutcomes16(achieve)throughathoroughunderstandingofstrategieslikerisktolerance.When17(travel),weengagewithculturesandexperiences.However,accordingtoareportbytheWorldWildlifeFund,tourists18(leave)over1.3billiontonsoffoodwastelastyear,19accountedforabout8%ofthetotalglobalgasreleasein2024.Toreduceourimpact,wecantakesimplesteps:emptythefridgebeforeheadingout,stainablediningoptionsTheseeffortshelpustravelmoreresponsiblyAfterallexploringtheworldshouldntcome20theplanet’sexpense.JoinusforTransForm,theinteractivesummercampthathelpsyouteensfindyourpassionbyparticipatinginvariousactivitiesandconnectingwithothers.TransFormallowsyoutogettofocusonyourchosentrackthroughsubjectmattertalks,hands-onworkshops,andoffsiteexperiencesHoweverifyouareunsurewhattrackyouwantyoustillgettoexploreanyworkshopyouwantaspartofourExploreWorkshops.Besides,yourparentswillalsobeabletoparticipateinworkshopsselectedjustforthemtolearnaboutcutting-edgescience.ogrammingctivitiesLeadtoChangeKick-offgrammeShowcasectivitiesFiresideChatsctivitiesperiencesctivitiesynoteSpeechtion·AgriculturalScience:Introducingyoutoareassuchasbiology,urbanfarming,andenvironmentalsciencesothatyoucanexplorethefieldofagriculture·CommunityBooster:Guidingyoutodevelopinnovativesolutionsforreal-worldchallengesandcreatetransformativeprogresstobenefitallcommunities·HealthyLiving:Empoweringyoutomakehealthydecisionsinsuchareasasnutritionandemotionalwell-being,eadhealthylifestyles·ScienceLab:Leadingyoutoexploretheskillsyouneedtosucceedinlifeinkeyareaslikecomputerscience,roboticsandphysicseteensparticipateinnafarmlabThroughoutourJunioryear,myclassmatesandIhavebeenworriedaboutwhatcollegeswillseewhentheylookatourwholelifestoryreducedtoasingle200-wordessay.Willthegoldenword“success”formintheirmindswhentheyreviewourachievements?Orwilltheyseethebigword“fail”inred?Theshadowofthismysterious(神秘的)institutionstealsawaywhatsuccessmeanstous.Myfirststepofredefiningsuccessbeganwithcourseregistrations.Itisawell-knownfact,especiallyinmyschool,thatJunioryearisthetimeofpackingmanyAPclassesintotheschedule.WhenaskedwhytheychosesomanyAPclasses,myfriendsresponded:“Idon’tknow.”Theythemselvesdon’tknowwhytheyarefollowingthecrowdandlongingforthepressuresofacademicdifficultyThereforetheydonotfeelthesatisfactionofbeingacademicallychallenged.CompletingmanycoursesnolongerbringsoutthefeelingofsuccessbecausemorethanfourAPclassesperyearisanormsetbytopuniversities.Determinedtofollowmyinstincts(本能)onwhatIfeltsuccessmeans,IonlychosetwoclassesthatIknewIwouldenjoy.ThefeelingofsuccesswasnolongerattachedtowhatgradeIreceivedbuttothepurejoyoflearning.Evenmyfailuresareattachedtoafeelingofsuccess;afterItakeastepbackandlookatthebigpicture,Iseethemasalaunchingpad(平台)formynextbigachievement.Intheninthgrade,Iwentinformyfirstgroupinterviewforaleadershippositionasashygirl.Notstandingachanceagainstcompetitiveapplicants,Icameoutoftheinterviewwithanupsetlook.Nevertheless,thisinterviewwasn’tawastedopportunity.Italkedtooneoftheseniorapplicantswhoansweredquestionsinawaythatreflectedthefaithshehadinherself.Thisyear,withanopenmindandnewknowledgeinmind,IwalkedintoanothergroupinterviewwhiletellingmyselfIwasthatcoolseniorImanagedtosecurealeadershippositionUltimatelysuccesscamelittlebylittle.DRecognitionbycollegesrsityiewuccessrtNottoolongago,onacoldwinternight,therewasateenagerwhowantedmorescreentimeandaparentwhosaidno.Theteenagerwasadvocatingforherrighttoscroll(翻屏)foranextra30minutes.Theparentarguedthatnoneofherfriends’parentsletthemhavescreensafter9o’clock.“Ithought,inthisfamily,wedon’tcompareourselveswithotherpeople,Dad?”theteenagerreplied.Theparent—whowasme,bytheway—justgotserved.Sincetheywereyoung,Ihavetoldmykidsnottocomparethemselveswithotherpeople.Ihavearguedcountlesstimesthatcomparisonsarethe“thiefofjoy”.Althoughmydaughterdidn’twin,shedidhelpexposeoneoftheworstpiecesofadviceIhaveevergiven.Inmydefence,Ididwhatwe’vealldonebefore,whichisrepeatreceivedwisdomwithoutexploringthenuances.Butnowisthetimetosettherecordstraight,whichstartswithquestioningtheideathatallsocialcomparisonisunhealthy.Socialcomparisonsdo,ofcourse,oftengetusintoemotionaltrouble.Buttheycanbeharnessed(利用)forourbettermentifweunderstandhowtheywork.Thesocialcomparisonswemake—onesthatleadustofeelgoodorbadaboutourselves—arevitaltoourabilitytothrive(成长).Scienceprovidesaguidewecanusetoharnessthewayweperformthesecomparisonstoreducetheirnegativeemotionalimpacts.Comparingyourselfwithsomeonewhoisoutperformingyoucouldresultinfeelingsofenvyifyoufocusonthethingstheyhaveandyoudon’t,oritcanbeenergizingandinspiringifyouusethesecomparisonsasasourceofmotivation,forexample,“Iftheycanachievethat,socanI.”Comparingyourselfwithsomeonewhoisdoingworsethanyoucouldresultinfearandworryifyouthinkabouthowyoucouldfallintosimilarcircumstances,oritcandrawoutfeelingsofgratitudeandappreciationifyouusethatcomparisontobroadenyourviews—forexample,“Wow,thingscouldbemuchworse;I’mdoinggreat.”WhatIwishItaughtmydaughterearlierarethesenuances.HowwefeelaboutourselvesrestsnotjustonwhomwepareourselveswithbutalsoonhowwethinkaboutthatcomparisonThatssomethingweallhavecontrolovergraphmostprobablymeaneelingsHabitThecallto“knowyourself”hasbeentheresinceancienttimes,butoursenseofselfdoesn’talwaysmatchwhatothersperceiveConsideringthestorieswetellaboutourselvescanhelpustochangeourmindsforbetter.Formanyyears,psychologistssawidentityasacombinationofsomeone’svalues,beliefs,goalsandsocialroles.Then,inthe1980s,BobJohnsoncreatedthelifestorymodelofidentity,inwhichheproposesthat,aswegothroughlife,thesecorefeaturesarebuiltinwithourmemoriestocreateapersonalstorythroughwhichweunderstandourlives.Ourlifestoryissomethingthatstartscomingtogetherinourteenageyears,whenwebegintoorganiseourlivesintochaptersaroundkeyeventsorlifechanges,andbegintoseeourselvesasboththecentralcharacterand,toavaryingextent,thestory’sauthor.Peoplewithmoreconsistentstoriestendtohaveastrongersenseofidentity,andtheyfeeltheirlifehasmoremeaning,directionandsenseofpurpose.Suchpeopleshowgreateroveralllifesatisfaction,too.Johnsonhasalsoinvestigatedthelinkbetweenwell-beingandcertainstorythemes.Hediscoveredthatwhethersomeonedescribeshavinghadsomecontrolovereventsintheirpastisanimportantpredictorofaperson’smentalhealth.Anotherkeythemeinvolvesfindingsomekindofpositivemeaningafterstressfulevents.“Peoplecouldtalkaboutgainingknowledgeorpersonalgrowth,”saysJohnson.HisresearchshowsthatthisisoftenmissingforpeoplewithmentalhealthconditionsThegoodnewsisthatthereisevidencewecanlearntochangeourownstory.LisaGreen,anotherresearcher,soundsafewnotesofcaution(谨慎).Forinstance,hearingaboutthepowerofredemptive(拯救性的)stories,manypeoplemayfeelforcedtofindapositiveangleonhorribleevents.ShesaysthatWesternculturealreadypushespeopletolookforthesilverliningbehindeverycloud.Ifyouwanttoturnoveranewleaf,though,onetoptipisthatithelpstochooseasignificantdatethatsignalsthestartanewchapterContrarytopopulardoubtresolutionsmadeonIJanuaryaremoreeffectiveforthisreasonSowhetheryourgoalissavingmoneyorgettingfit,thereisnobettertimetobecometheauthorofourowndestiny(命运).angedustrateanapproachWhatisadulthood?Societiesallovertheworldviewtheconceptofanadultasself-supportingandself-directed,becauseitidentifiesapointinthelifecycle.AsAliceBlackpointsout,today’sparents’fearoflettingkidsdomorehouseworkhasaddedtotheirinabilitytofeelcompetentand,thus,confidentinthemselves.PsychologistRobertTurnerwroteaboutthisinhisbook,TheLifeCycle,mentioningastagewhenkidslearnself-directionandmastery.35ButTurner’sothercyclesarejustasimportant.36Iftheselifecyclesaredelayed,interrupted,ordenied,youfeelincapableofaccessingyourstatesofself,controllingunpleasantfeelings,andmanipulating(操控)theenergythatputstogetherthefabricofyourinnerworld.Turnerwiselysaidthat“doingwell”psychologicallyisbeingabletorollwiththeflowofemotions,managethem,communicateclearlyandwellwithothers,andmastervariousskills.Thisrequiresaninternallocus(核心)ofcontrol,whichimpliesself-controlofyourthoughts,feelings,andactions.37You’reself-directedandnotreliantontheworldtotellyouwhoyouare.Andyouknowwhoyouarewithinallthis.So,beinganadultisn’tjustholdingajob.Beinganadultisabouthavingarootedsenseofselfwhilebeingcapableofidentifyingandmanagingyouremotionsandactions.38Weareasocialspecies,sothisisimportant.Whileraisinganadultisaparent’sjob,it’salsoourresponsibilityasasocietytoensurethatwesupportschoolsthatnurture(培养)emotionalandidentitydevelopment.39lprepairingincompletelifecyclesemselvesthroughworktingwithothersthegameoflifelifeisntplayingyousidentitysicThere’ssomethingmagicalaboutthewayimaginationworks.Aroundtheworld,kidsareusingimaginationinwaysthatwereonceonlyfoundinsciencefiction.TakethestoryofMarkLee.Helovedbikingaroundhisneighbourhoodbutgrewupsetseeingthatmanyplasticbottleslitteredtheparksandsidewalks.Insteadofsimplycomplaining,hedecidedtodosomethingaboutit.Usinganold3Dprinter,Markstartedexperimenting.Hemelted(熔化)plasticbottlesdownandtriedshapingthemintos
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