李开复给女儿的信(附单词注释).doc

Letter to DaughterOct. 9, 2009Dear Daughter,As we drove off from Columbia, I decided to write you a letter to tell you all that is on my mind. First, I want to tell you how proud we are. Admission to Columbia is a real testament(实际证明) to your academic, artistic and social abilities. Whether it was getting the highest grade in Calculus, completing your elegant（优雅的） fashion design, successfully selling your painted running shoes, or becoming one of the top orators（演说家） in the Model United Nations, you have become a talented and accomplished young woman. You should be as proud of yourself as we are. I will always remember the first time I held you in my arms. I felt a tingling（发麻的） sensation（感觉） in my heart that must have been our “father-daughter connection” which will bind us for life. I remember singing you a lullaby（摇篮曲） while I rocked you to sleep. You have been a wonderful daughter ever since you were born, always quiet, empathetic（移情的）, attentive, and well-mannered. I remember my daughter of three following us around every weekend to get building supplies. You put up with that boring period without a fuss（大惊小怪）, happily eating hamburgers in the car and singing with Barney until you fell asleep. You even went to Sunday Chinese school and studied hard even though it was no fun for you. I cannot believe how lucky we are as parents to have a daughter like you. You have been an excellent elder sister. Sometimes the two of you argued, but in the last few years you have become best friends. Your sister adores you and looks up to you as her role model. As you saw when we departed, she will miss you so much. There is nothing like family, and other than your parents, your sister is the one person who you can always confide in. There is nothing we wish more than that your sisterhood（姐妹之情） will continue to bond as you grow older, and that you will care for each other throughout your lives. While you are at college, do have a short video chat with her or email her every few days. College will be the most important years in your life. You often question “what good is this course”. While you should remain inquisitive（好奇的）, always remember that “education is what you have left after all that is taught is forgotten”. In college you will move from being teacher-taught to master-inspired, after which you must become a self-directed learner. Please take each subject seriously, for even if what you learn isnt critical（关键性的） for your life, the skills of learning will be something you cherish forever. Do not fall into the trap of dogma（教条）. There is no single simple answer to any question. Remember your high school debate class, when I told you to argue the side that you didnt believe in? I did that to show you things are rarely “black and white”, and a problem can always be looked at from different perspectives（想法）. This is “critical thinking”, and it is the most important skill you need in life. You must also become tolerant and supportive of others. I remember when I proposed a new dissertation（专题论文） topic to my Ph.D. advisor. He said “I dont fully agree with you, but Ill support you.” I have come to learn this isnt just flexibility but is supportive of critical thinking. This is an empowering（授权） style of leadership that I try to follow. I hope you will too. Follow your passion in college and take courses you will enjoy. Steve Jobs said when you are in college, your passion will create many dots, and later in your life you will connect them. In his great commencement（毕业典礼） speech at Stanford, Jobs spoke of his calligraphy（美术字） class, and how a decade later it became the basis for the beautiful Macintosh（橡皮布） fonts（字体）, which later ignited（点燃） desktop publishing and brought fabulous（难以置信的）s tools like Microsoft Word to our lives. His expedition(探险) into calligraphy（美术字） was a dot, and the Macintosh became the connecting line. Do not worry excessively（过度） what career you will have, and dont be too utilitarian（功利的）. If you like Japanese, go for it, even if your dad thinks “its not useful.” Enjoy picking your dots, and be assured one day you will find your calling, and connect a gorgeous（极好的） curve（弧线） through the dots. Exert（发挥） yourself in classes, but dont let pressure upset you. Your mother and I have no expectations for your grades. If you graduate and educate yourself in your four years, we will feel happy. Your Columbia degree will take you far, even if you dont graduate with honors. The only thing that matters is that you have learned and the only metric（度量） you should use is that you have tried. Grades are just silly letters that vain（爱慕虚荣） people brag（自夸） about, and lazy people dread（害怕）.You are too good to be either. Most importantly, make friends and be happy. College friends will be the best in your life because they are not only physically closer than your family but the bonds will be strong as you gain independence and enter adulthood together. Choose friends who are genuine（真诚的） and sincere to you. Dont worry about their hobbies or even their personalities. Be self-assured, outgoing and proactive（前摄的）. Keep your high school friends and stay connected to them, but do not use them as substitutes for college friendship. You have chosen wonderful friends from high school, so trust your instincts. Give people the benefit of the doubt; dont stereotype（模式化） and always forgive. People are imperfect, so as long as they are genuine and sincere, trust them and be good to them. This is my secret of success I am genuine with people and trust them (unless they do something to lose my trust). Sometimes I am taken advantage of by dishonest people but that loss is nothing compared to what I have gained from being open. Whether it is for management, work, or friendship, this is something you should ponder（考虑）. Whatever decisions that confront（使对质） you, you must take control of your life. I used to help you, whether it was in extracurricular activities or your college application. I will always be there for you, but the time has come for you to be in the drivers seat. I remember the exhilarating（令人振奋的） feeling when I took real control of my life by deciding to leave academia for Apple, and then go to China and work for Google. Later I decided to start my own business. Being able to decide means you get to live the life you want to. I told your mom Im writing this letter, and asked what she wanted me to say. She thought and said: “just ask her to take care of herself.” Simple but deeply caring that is how your mother is. In this short sentence is her hope that you will become independent in the way you look after yourself whether it be getting sufficient（充足的） sleep, following a balanced diet, taking some exercise, or seeing a doctor whenever you are ill. An ancient Chinese proverb（谚语） goes that the best way to be nice to your parents is to take care of yourself. This is because your parents love you so much, and that if you are well, they will have comfort. You will understand this one day when you become a mother. But in the meantime, please listen to your mother and take care of yourself. College is the four years where you have:the greatest amount of free time the first chance to be independentthe most flexibility to change the lowest risk for making mistakesSo please treasure your college years make the best of your free time, become an independent thinker in control of your destiny（命运）, evolve（进化） yourself into a bi-cultural talent and be bold（勇敢的） to experiment, learn and grow through your successes and challenges. When I faced the greatest challenge and opportunity in my life in 2005, you gave me a big hug and said “bonne chance”, which means “good luck” and “good courage”. Now I do the same for you. Bonne chance, my angel and princess. May Columbia become the happiest four years in your life, and may you blossom（开花） into just what you dream to be.Love,Dad (& Mom)Comments Sep.15.2010While reading this letter, I feel like weeping with emotion. From his words, I can really feel the deep love of Mr. Li to his daughter. He is so great a father that I am envious of his daughter. In his view, his daughter is the greatest, who is clever and elegant, besides, he takes proud of her all the time.In his letter, Mr. Li tell his daughter how to accommodate herself to the coming college life physically and emotionally. And his suggestion