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My Cross-cultural Communication Experience we communicate with more than the words we speak.Words are only one part of commuication.How we use those words is another part.In our lives,there exists more nonverbal communications than verbal communication,and today I would talk about the nonverbal commuication. At first,Nonverbal communication includes gestures, facial expression, eye contact, touch. Gestures refer to specific body movements that carry meaning. Hands can form many different shapes that convey many meanings. Such as “thats expensive,” “Come here,” “Go away,” and “Its OK”.The gestures for these phrases may differ among languages. As children we often imitate and learn these nonverbal movements. When traveling to another country, foreign visitors soon learn that not all gestures are universal. For instant, the “OK” gesture in the American culture is a symbol for money in Japan. Facial expressions vary greatly across cultures and can convey many emotions, such as anger, happiness, sadness, and surprise. For example, nodding can have various meanings across cultures.In U.S the head nodding means “I agree with you.” But in Bulgaria, nodding indicates a negative rather than a positive response. In Turkey, a quick lifting of the chin accompanied by a tongue click indicates disapproval. Next, nodding also is a listening tool. Nodding may indicate “Im listening and agree.” “Im listening, but I dont necessarily agree.” “I m very confused, but I want you to keep talking, so I can try to figure out what you are saying.” “Im trying to encourage you by providing positive nonverbal feedback.” Like other aspects of nonverbal communication, eye contact affects both the sending and receiving of messages. Eye contact is important because insufficient or excessive eye contact may create communication barriers. It is important in relationships because it serves to show intimacy, attention, and influence. Just as our words and gestures are messages carrying our internal thoughts and feelings, so touch, too, conveys messages. In some cultures, it is impossible to communicate successfully one-on-one without touching the other person; for example, in Latino cultures, touching is a natural part of any communication exchange, with many contacts per conversation. In Northern European cultures, touching is less common: men tend not to touch other men while talking in a business context in the United States. In other cultures, touching is permitted or forbidden, depending on the gender; for example, Arab cultures forbid touching women, but Arab men touch each other often when conversing. For we had known a little about the nonverbal commuication,then I would tell a real story happened near me.It was a story told by one of my dads good friend who had lived in Japen for about 15 years.Absolutely he married with a Japenese woman called Mary when he was 40 years old,his wife was only 27 years old and looks very yuong and beautiful.After one year,they had their only child,a lovely boy.As you know,in Janpanese culture,husband must work out and made money to raise the whole family,while women would stop working and begin to take care of their baby after her child born.As Mary transformed from a beautiful young lady to a mother,it made her quite uncomfortable because of her sons continous cry.Too little childs care made her know nothing to stop her child.Though she endevored to take many measures,it seemed to be little effect on his son.such as give some toys to his son,take him out to breathe fresh air.It seemed that his son fought with him on popurse which made her so confused.when he raised him,but he turned around and refused to acceot her.Especially he just cried for whole night,which annoied Mray and drived her crazy.Then one day her son got a severe fever,she was worried about him and ran to a pharmacy buying some medicine pills with her baby.When the staff saw the mother in trouble with communicating with her son.Then she recommended a very special pill called “A pill” that can wake her childhoods memory.In this way,she can commuicate with her son without any obstacle.Also the staff told her that she should obey the instruction of the pill.The instruction is that she should have the pill three times a day and one pill a time.The side effect was very obvious if she have too much these pills.When she got home,she hesitated whether to have the “A pill” or not.But she ate the pill as soon as she heard her son crying again.Suddenly she could know what he son wanted,orginally her son had a itching on his back.Consequently,she grabed for him and hi.s son stopped crying immediately.Gradually,she found the importance of this pill and took more pills when her son was crying.such as when she raised her child,she could understood her son cried because of choosing wrong spoons for him and so on.Unfortunnately she forgot the side effect of this medicine,with the time passing,only one pill a time does not work for her.As a result,she added more pills every time,two,three,four and.Finally,the tradegy happened,she became more and more strange,and she often behaved like a child even when she did such behaviours that she didnt know what she had done.Maybe the effect side of this pill drove her to do these things,such as playing toys on the road and mummed with some children.On a rainy day,she was found on the centre of the road playing with a dog by her husband.There are so many people around her looking at her.My fathers friend shouted at his wife and asked where was their son.At times she woke up and tried to remember wher she left her son and ran to a toilet.Fortunately their son was still there.But when Mary was in insane，she hurt her baby.she was so sorry about what she had done to him.And when she wanted to hug his baby,suddenly a voice came into her ears.“I hate you”.so it was said by her son.She regreted for foolish behaviours which had hurt her son.Later,she gave up taking the pills and threw it into the dustbin.Instead,she loves her son with so many nonverbal commuications.In thisn way,she seems to communicate with her child very well.As little ba