who-is-in-charge-here---done-2003.ppt

WhoIsInChargeHere 1 PART WatchAVideo 5dangerousthingsyoushouldletyourkidsdo Thinkaboutthesequestions Spoilingchildrenisanactoflove Parentsshouldfulfillalltheneedsoftheirchildren Parentsshouldalwaystreattheirchildrenasfriends Parentsshouldneverlayahandontheirchildren Discussingroupandtellmewhatdoyouthink please 对 动手 2 PART Understanding STRUCTUREANDMAINIDEA PARAGRAPH1 Hereisparenting n 养育 抚养 parable n 寓言故事 forourage CarlaWagner 17 ofCoralGables Fla spenttheafternoondrinkingthetequila n 龙舌兰酒 shechargedonherAmericanExpressGoldCardbeforespeedingoffinhrhigh performanceAudiA4 ShewasdialinghercellphonewhensheranoverHelenMarieWitty a16 year oldhonorstudentwhowasoutrollerblading v 滑旱冰 Chargedwithdrunkendrivingandmanslaughter n 过失杀人 Carlawasgivenatrialdate atwhichpointherparentsaskedthejudgewhetheritwouldbeOKifCarlawentaheadandspentthesummerinParis assheusuallydoes Thekidwaschargedwithdrunkendrivingandmanslaughter butherparentsstillwantedtotakeherforfun PARAGRAPH1 这是一则处在我们这个时代关于抚养孩子的预言故事 来自佛罗里达州科勒尔盖布而斯的17岁女孩CarlaWagner在花了一个下午喝龙舌兰酒并把费用记在了她的美国运通金卡上面 她驾驶高性能的奥迪A4超速行驶 当她正拨打手机的时候 撞倒了在外面滑旱冰的16岁优等生HelenMarieWitty Carla被控告酒驾和过失杀人并给出正式审讯的日期 而此刻她的父母询问法官Carla是否可以像往常一样先去Paris度过这个夏天 PARAGRAPH2 ATIME CNNpollfindsthat80 ofpeoplethinkkidstodayaremorespoiledthankidsof10or15yearsago andtwo thirdsofparentsadmitthattheirkidsarespoiled InNewYorkCityit stheBatMitzvahwhere NSyncwastheband inHoustonit sacatered v 提供饮料及服务 20 000pink themedpartyfor50seven year oldgirlswhoallworemink n 貂皮 coats liketheirmoms InMortonGrove 11 it sgradeschoolteachershandingoutcandyandyo yos n 溜溜球 onFridaystokidswhoactuallymanagedtoobeytherulesthatweek Gotothemalloraconcertorarestaurantandyoucanfindtheminthewild thekidswhohaveneverbeentoldno whosesenseofpowerandentitlement n 应有的权力 授权 leavesonlookers n 旁观者 breathless thesand kicking foot stomping v 跺 重踏步 arm twisting wheedling v 讨好或奉承的方法获得某物 whining v 抱怨 牢骚 despots n 暴君 有至高无上权力的统治者 whoseparentspresumablydeservethecompanyofthemonstersthey afterall created Manypeoplethinkkidstodayarespoiled However whentheyareinthewild thekidshaveneverbeentoldno PARAGRAPH2 时代周刊和CNN的一项调查显示80 的人认为今天的孩子们比起10年或20年之前的孩子更是被宠坏了 三分之二的父母承认他们的孩子被宠坏了 在纽约的犹太女孩成人仪式上 NSync到场助兴 在休斯顿有为50名7岁的孩子们举办的价值20000美金且提供饮食服务的粉红主题晚会 晚会上她们像妈妈们一样穿着貂皮大衣 在伊利诺伊州的莫顿格罗夫 一所小学老师在星期五分发糖果和溜溜球给这周努力遵守守规矩的孩子们 去购物中心 音乐会餐厅你会发现孩子们处于一种自然任性的状态下 他们踢沙子 跺脚 交叉手臂 奉承 那种享有权利和拥有权力的感觉令旁观者透不过气来 没有人告诉他们不能这样子 这些爱抱怨又专制的小孩们他们的父母很可能受到这些小恶人们的折磨 毕竟这是父母创造出来的 PARAGRAPH3 Itissotemptingtoacceptthecartoonversionofmodernboomerparentingthatitiseasytomissthepassionatedebateundernearthit 承上启下 PARAGRAPH3 Havewegonetoofar Shouldwenegotiatewithourchildrenorjustinformthemoftherules Is 20toomuchforlunchmoney Whatchoresshouldkidshavetodo andwhichisextracredit Canyoutreatthemwithrespectwithoutsacrificingyourauthority Cheerthemonwithoutdrivingthemtoohard Setthemfree butstillsetlimits Theunendingconcernandconfusionoverwhereandhowtodrawthelines PARAGRAPH3 接受现代婴儿潮一代人的亲子教育的简化版模式是如此的诱人 以至于我们容易忽视其背后的激烈争论 暂且不考虑两类极端类型的父母 即懒惰的 放任孩子的父母和聪明的 能自然做出明智选择的父母 在中间地带你听到对话是这样的 无休止的忧虑和困惑 到底应该在哪些方面 怎样去来实施对孩子的管制 我们是否已经走的太远 给予孩子们的权利已经超过了他们所能够控制的范围 填塞给孩子们的东西已经超过他们可能所需要的 我们是应该与我们的孩子协商制定规则或只是告知他们 20美元的午餐前是不是太多了 孩子们应该有什么家务必须要做 还应该给予额外的奖赏吗 你能尊重他们而不牺牲自己的权威吗 你能为他们加油打气而不是穷追猛打吗 你能给他们自由而不是设置限制吗 PARAGRAPH3 Temptingadj 吸引人的 诱惑人的v 引诱 tempt的ing形式 AromaTempting香气诱人TemptingFate诱惑人的命运Passionateadj 拥有 或表现出 强烈性爱的 情意绵绵的 怒不可遏的adj 热诚的 狂热的apassionateinterestinmusic对音乐的浓厚兴趣leaveasidetonotconsidersth不予考虑 搁置一边A leavesth asideDrawthelinestorefusetodosth tosetalimit拒绝做 给 定界限A drawtheline atsth atdoingsth todistinguishbetweentwocloselyrelatedideas划界线 区分 两个密切相关的思想 B drawtheline betweensthandsth 语言知识 PARAGRAPH4 Someoftheseareeternalquestions 承上启下 parentsmayoftengettheanswerswrongwrestlingwiththeseissuesrebellionbrewing thewobblingeconomygaveparentsanexcusetodowhattheyhavewantedtodoanyway Reducethechild seconomicexpenditure PARAGRAPH4 在这些问题中 有一些争论是长久存在的 现代的父母对于以上问题总是得到错误的答案 可是说他们没有努力去寻找答案也是错误的 和父母浅谈几句你就会发现他们在同这些问题苦苦挣扎 你不必深究就会发现他们正在酝酿揭竿而起 正如如过去一年的经济形势的不稳定 使得显著性的消费变得有点不太显眼 它也给了家长一个借口 做他们想做的事 不给孩子买140 的胶底鞋 解雇园丁 由孩子们修剪草坪 华尔街日报称这种现象为儿童经济衰退 总体消费支出比去年略有上涨 但8至24岁之间孩子的消费支出下降了约三分之一 在华尔街日报引用的一个11月份的调查中发现 12 的孩子表示他们的零用钱已经在最近几个月被削减 相比去年 16 孩子表示接受了更少的礼物 PARAGRAPH4 Wrestlingn 摔跤 扭斗 搏斗 v 与 搏斗 wrestle的现在分词 摔跤 格斗 wrestewithsth挣扎 为取得某物而努力奋斗 Rebellionn anattemptbysomeofthepeopleinacountrytochangetheirgovernment usingviolence谋反 叛乱 反叛rebellionagainstsb sthteenagerebellionBrewvt 酿造 泡 煮 策划 酿成 vi 以酿造麦酒或啤酒为职业 被冲泡 即将发生 n 酿造的饮料 啤酒 brewsth upWobblevt n 使 摇摆 摇晃 犹豫不决 信心动摇 语言知识 PARAGRAPH5 Thisisawarwagedblockbyblock housebyhouse IfitistoomuchtotrytobattletheforcesofHollywoodorMadisonAvenueortheNintendoCorp atleastyoucanresolvethatjustbecausethekidsdownthestreetwatchunlimitedTVdoesn tmeanyourkidsshouldtoo Youcanenforceacurfew assignsomechoresandtryhardtohavedinnertogetherregularly Andthenhopethattheexpertsarerightwhentheysaythat whatkidsmainlyneedistimeandattentionandlove noneofwhichtakesAmericanExpress PARAGRAPH5 wagetobeginandcarryon awar campaign ect blockbyblock housebyhouseeveryhouseholdcurfewthetimeafterwhicheveryonemuststayinsideAmericanExpressit sjustliketheBankofChina 语言知识 PARAGRAPH5 7 Ifitistoomuchto andtryhardtohavedinnertogetherregularly Sentencesabovemeansthatasaparent maybeyoucanchargemore whatkidsmainlyneed noneofwhichtakesAmericanExpress Itmeansthatkidsneedtime attentionandlove ratherthanmoney PARAGRAPH5 7 Thehistoriansandpsychologistshavelotsofthetheoriesabouthowwegethere butsomeperennialtruthspersist everygenerationthinksthenextoneistooslack everygenerationreinventsthejob Parenthood likechildhood isajourneyofdiscovery Yousetofffromyourmemoriesofbeingakid alltheblessings allthescars Youoverreact improviseandovertimemaybelearnwhatworks withluckyouimprove Itischaracteristicofthebabyboomerstoimaginethemselvesthefirsttotakethistrip topacksomanyguidebookstoreadalongthewayandtotrytominimizeanydiscomfort PARAGRAPH5 7 perenniallastingforalongtimeslackgivinglittlecareandenergytoatasksetoffstarttodoblessingGod sfavorandprotectionImprovisedosthtemprorailybabyboomerparentsofbabiesMinimizetoreducetothesmallest 语言知识 PARAGRAPH5 7 Parenthood likechildhood isajourney trytominimizeanydiscomfort Itmeansthatparentshavelittleexperienceaboutbeingadadyoramummy sotheytreattheirkidscarefully PARAGRAPH5 7 Butalotaboutbeingamillennialparentisactuallynew andhard Prosperityisagreatgift andthesearelucky peacefultimes butinsomerespectsitismoredifficulttobeaparentnowthanwhenourparentswereatthewheel Today sprosperityhasbeenfueledbypeopleworkinglongerhoursthanever anditisespeciallychallengingtoparentcreativelyandwellwhenyou restrung outandexhausted Theextended familystructurethatoncesharedtheburdensandreinforcedvalueshasfrayed Nothingbreedswretchedexcesslikedivorcedparentscompetingwitheachotherandfeelingguiltytoboot It snotanoption asitoncewas school bikeovertoafriend shouse hangtoletkidsroamfreeoutsideafteroutwithcousinsorgrandparents Thestreetsarenotsafeandthefamilyisscattered sokidsareoftenleftalone inside withtheTVandallitsmessages PARAGRAPH5 7 Millennialmeans21centuryinthisarticleInsomerespectsinsomewayatthewheelinchargefraytobecomewornroamwanderonthestreet 语言知识 PARAGRAPH5 7 Theextended familystructure withtheTVandallitsmessages Sentencesabovepresentthedifficultiesofbeingaparentinmodernsociety PARAGRAPH8 10 Dowereallyneedthem PARAGRAPH8 10 PARAGRAPH8 10 peerpresure Onestorytellusa goodprovider istopoureverysparecentintochildren PARAGRAPH8 10 Technologyerodesperents authority videogames internet PARAGRAPH11 虽然父母具有多种压力 但他们积极寻求办法解决 Althoughtheparentshaveavarietyofpressures buttheyactivelyseekwaystosolve 压力 pressures 社会 social 商业 commercial 精神 psychic 解决方法 resolvent 网上购物 Shoponline 购买书籍 Buybooks 参与研讨会 Attendworkshops PARAGRAPH11 PARAGRAPH12 描述一种现象 最初 家庭聚会 由传统阶层 业余时间的专业网络 共同的爱好所带动 如今却受到了一些现代化因素的影响 例如在深夜分发糖果的电视节目 Describedaphenomenon Originally Familydating isdrivenbytraditionalhierarchiesofstatusandclass oroff hours professionalnetworking orasharedloveofsailingorbaseball Buttoday 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