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17 How To Handle Criticism Criticism can be of three kinds:1. That which is justified and fair.2. That which may be justified but is delivered in a hostile manner.3. The unjustified or brutal put-down. Most people react badly to all three types of criticism. We tend to take critical remarks as a direct attack on our total worth. People in the arts and professions, if they good at what they do, use constructive criticism to their advantage. But most of us go to great lengths to avoid getting criticized. The first step in learning to handle criticism: make sure you are really being criticized. Most of the time, if you bother to examine the situation, no criticism was really intended. Also, dont invite criticism by such asking insincere questions such as-Did you really like it? Or how did I do? If you cant take a frank or honest answer to such questions you are better off not asking them. If the criticsm is justified, see it in its proper perspective. If a criticism is unjustified, practice control. Stay cool. Do not give the person who has unfairly criticized you the satisfaction of knowing he has scored. Its always a good idea to consider the source. Criticism always hurts. But it should not hurt coming from the ignorant, the rude, the uninformed. It is not good idea to brood on criticism. Try to dispors it quickly by judging it as either deserved or unjustified. If it is deserved, make a resolution to correct the fault and then forget it. Do not let criticism poison a whole day. And, keeping in mind how much it hurts, you should not criticize others. 18 IDENTIFICATION OF GOALS AND PLANNING确定您的目标和完成计划Last night , sitting by the window and gazing into the stars, I momentarily went back to my school days. I was just thinking why we are made to go to school and college and supposed to complete a particular course in a specific span of time. I mean why do I need 12 years of schooling ? Why is it that everyone follows the unchallengeable cycle of Montessori-school-college-graduation-post graduation-work? Then a theory just seeped into my mind, following the electrifying whiz of a busy mosquito that comfortably kissed my ears and buzzed away. Starting from school, we learn the alphabets, the words the sentence that follow. Sentences lead to lessons, lessons to chapters and chapters to a subject. Many subjects form an academic years curriculum. Upon clearing the exams we step onto the next year of education. though we did follow the entire procedure sub consciously and ceremoniously, we never learnt the moral of the unsaid fact. The fact is that school, college and other courses act astool to achieve our goal and dream. We might dream of being a doctor, engineer, lawyer but without proper investment of time to gather intellectual content, our dreams are useless. Every action in life is to satisfy a specific purpose. Purpose or need initiates planning and action on the part of the doer. The person, who wants to accomplish a specific goal, first chalks out plan. The plan is like an ideal curve . By being regular in his duties and responsibilities, he works towards his goal accomplishment in short bursts. After every burst or period of time, he tries to match his practical curve followed to accomplish the goal, with the ideal curve set in the process of planning. The closer the ideal and the practical curves are ,the more is the probability of the goal being achieved in the set time. In short we identify our goals ourselves, but planning of education system is just done by the education ministry of our are. Once we have identified our goals, we pursue specilized coursrs in the direction of our goals. This is done in a systematic manner, starting from the basics like schooling to major specialization like engineering. But many a times it so happens that we loose track and wander around trying to reach unreachable goals. Only realistic goals are reachable . Set achievable goals. After goal setting, debug it into small modules, which have to be achieved within certain time frames. Once all modules have been completed, the integration of them all accomplishes the set goal!昨晚,当我做在窗口凝视繁星的那一瞬间,我突然回想起我的学生时代.我在想为什么我们我们要被送去读小学中学大学,在特定的时间里完成特定的课程.我的意思是为什么我必须上12年的学?为什么每个人必须遵循这个毫无争议的模式:幼儿园-中小学-大学-研究生?随着一只忙碌的蚊子飕飕而过,亲吻我的耳朵后嗡嗡地飞走,一个理论在我的脑海里酝酿成形.从开始上学，我们就学习音标，然后是词语和句子从句子到文章，从文章到章节，从章节再到学科许多学科只是一学年的课程一考完试我们就进入了下一学年的学习，尽管我们下意识的一本正经的去遵守全部的程序，我们从未有学会事实包含的道理事实就是中小学大学和其他的课程都是实现我们目标和梦想的工具我们或许会梦想成为医生工程师律师，但如果不适当的去投入时间收集相关的知识，我们的梦想就是幻想，豪无用处的人生的每一个举措都是为了达到一个特定的目标采取行动的人都会为某个目的和需要而激发了计划或采取了行动的行为想完成某个目标的人首先是做一个计划计划就像个理想的拐角处，因为还要尽日常的责任和义务，他只能用很短的时间为自己的目标奋斗每过一段时间，为达成目标他都尽量的到达某个实际的拐角处，并使与理想的拐角处相之匹配现实和理想的拐角处越是接近，就越有可能在设定的时间内实现目标简而言之,我们自己确定自己的目标,但教育体制是由当地的教育局确定.只要我们认定了自己的目标,我们就要朝着这个方向学习相关的课程.,这就需要一步步的系统的来做就像从基础的学习到专业修某一门课比如工程学.但许多次我们凑巧迷失方向,迂回着试图实现无法达到的目标.只有现实的目标才是可实现的定下可达到的目标，之后分成几个可以在某阶段时间内完成的小阶段一旦所有的阶段都完成了，整个设定的目标也就圆满实现了！19 Routines are the unwritten alogrithms, followed by each one of us, everyday in life. Routines is a chain of events, which never changes their order, once it is prioritized. Following the routines is a schedule of events. For a student it would be writing assignments, attending school, coaching classes or doing a project. For a businessman brandishing the tiniest Mobile phone and shielded by the darker than black shade of Mercedes, schedule is restricted to attending meeting, presentations and entertaining new prospective clients. Sometimes life becomes so hectic that you feel as if you are the only person to whom the whole world has been merciless and that you are the only person who is working harder than anyone else. But this is the thought, which comes due to a thorough introspecttion of us. Even though others will be facing the same shade of destiny like us, still we find others to be very luckier than us. Yes, the other side of the grass is always greener and more fresh. Maintaining your cool, at the times of difficulty and hectic schedules is the key to a bright carrier and successful life. Because unless we ourselves change the pace, with the change in times and keep ourselves abreast of the latest timetable of our organizer, we will fall behind. However the more things one has to do or one is into, more is involved in, the greater the involvement in a mental, physical or social way into the things in which he is involved. Due to this his own personal problems are out of sight, because all the time his mind is thinking of completing the undertaker tasks. Problems once that they are out of sight, imply they are out of mind. Each thing that we do, adds a new dimension to our personality. It shapes our thinking and makes us more organized, experienced, knowledgeable and creative. The time and sweat that we put in everyday into our tasks is the brick and mortar of our future. So friends, it is always better to be busy rather than idle. Now hasnt everyone heard that an idle mind is a devils workshop? Behind every successful man is a devotedly followed hectic schedule rather than a woman. 20 Importance of Time They say Life and Death are not in anyones hands. They are things that just happen every time and with everyone. Same is the case with time. Most of the times we take it for granted that there is always plenty of time. Due to this perhaps we indulge in various activities, which are a wholesale waste of time. The clock is always ticking. The seconds keep on ticking just like busy ants. The ants keep themselves always busy by always hunting for food everywhere. Similarly the seconds always keep on ticking to attain short-term goals of making a minute with 60 ticks. After reaching a milestone of a minute the seconds hand of a clock dont take a break, but start afresh for another round of 60 ticks. The take it minute by minute and inadvertently reach a quarter of an hour, and hour and then a day. They always focus on the smaller targets- that is a minute and the bigger aim of the clock itself gets fulfilled. Thats why the minutes hand have to work less, as the seconds hand does most of the running around. The minute hand just has to make 60 movements on a clock dial. The hours hand is the luckiest of the lot. It just moves for 12 times in an hour. But the seconds hand movies for 3600 times around the dial for the same hour! Parallel to this, in our life to we never realizes that we have lots to do. Between every big task we can always find enough time to fit in a plethora of smaller tasks. If you are waiting for a train at the station, you can always read a magazine or rather chalk out your study timetable for exams. While traveling in the bus too one can find enough time to at least skim through the previous days notes. Be like the clock. Always keep on ticking by involving yourself in various things and learning new things. These small knowledge and experience modules will perhaps one day take you to your bigger goal some day. They say Time and Tide waits for no man. If so, now stop staring at the screen and utilize your time effectively!21 Keep Your Cool Everyone would have heard the famous phrase Anger is one short of danger. It is an age-old adage, but it is tested and still holds ture. Thing said or done during anger have created havoc with a lot of people and things. the tightly packed bag of mental frustation erupts into a volcano of anger. But basically lets try to analyse why oue gets angry? When one is not satisfied with the way things have gone, when someone has been taken in for a ride, when one blames life for treating him badly, and many such trivial things are the various reasons. All the frustrations get collected on one part of our mind and when we can bear it no longer, our feelings are vented in the form of a volcano of emotional tantrums. Anger is one of the major handrances in self-development, because it narrows our outlook. The mind looses its sense of logic and fairness, when it is accelerated by the arrogant mood of anger.Getting angry can get your things done somewhere, but not everywhere. This is because as you grow, you yourself are responsible to clean your recycle bin of emotions and frustrations. No one has the foresight or capacity to judge what has bought you to that violent mood or what hardships you have faced. Angry people hardly go places. The closer one comes to this piece of reality, the better he will get. The best way to counterattack anger is to imbile patience in ourselves. A person with infinite patience has matured mentally, and is the bravest war-horse over the path of anger. He controlled himself every time and got away from trying circumstances using the best lifeline available. Such people are always in peace with themselves and are always enjoying life. Anger is never good and it increases anxiety levels of the individual. When one is angry, the heart pumps a lot more blood than the normal capacity and hence it leads to high blood pressure. This may also cause a heart attack. So always be like the hard working duck, which is calm and composed by ites expressions, but padding like the hell at the bottom. For human beings this means that, we have to keep moving in life by hard work. Never let disappointment and frustrations rule you. You make your own future and destiny, by following the right attitude. After all, its all in a state of mind. Everyone has two opyions. One is anger and the other is maintaining your composure through pacience. I choose the latter one. What have you chosen?22 Kiss of Reality To talk of illusions, aret they great? illusion or day dreaming help us to think of what we want to become in life. We literally see how life revolves us in that position . Its an entirely different world of pleasure, comfort and imagination. Most of our day dreaming or illusions make us more and more egocentric. The word ego means self . Hence by dreaming and visualization we become self-centered. We never realize that things we dream of can be achieved by us by programming ourselves to work for it . But somehow the pleasure of dreaming ourselves as someone important takes us away from the realistic approach to achieve that level of self-satisfaction and self-accomplishment. 幻想对于我们来说不美妙吗？在我们一生中，是幻想，或者是说，是白日梦，让我们去思考成为什么样的人我们认真的观察我们的生命是循着怎样的一条轨道那时严格完全不同的世界，它充满了愉悦轻松和创意我们的大多数幻想和白日梦会使得我们越来越以自我为中心这个词的意思是自我由于幻想，我们变得以自我为中心我们从未有意识到，我们所梦想的事情是可以通过我们周详的计划去实现的但不知何故，幻想成为某个著名人物的愉悦，却使我们远离了能够与满意和成就真实接触的机会This leads to an increase in the frustration levels of our mind . Why frustrations? This is because what we are, and what we dream of are totally different . We raise ourselves to a very high pedestal and we see that we are not able to live up to our expectations. And when this happens, we become mentally restless. 无边际的幻想导致我们挫折感越来越强为什么会这样？那是因为现实中的我们和幻想中的我们完全不同我们把自己提到一个很高的层面，但实际上，我们根本不可能心如所愿而每每想到这，我们便会焦虑不按The vital solution that will dissolve all our problems is to make up our minds to get realistic . This approach will make us come in terms with reality. And there is no better road to self-improvement rather than the path of reality. When you gauge yourself , you subconsciously make two columns in your mind. One consists of the things that you are good at ,and the other consists of the ares where you can improve. And believe it will boost us to work on our weak areas and strengthen them. Fortifying your weak areas will harness your conscience and improve you convert would be to must be. And when someting must happen, it always happens. This new you will improve you for the better and increase your levels of self-esteem.It will change your outlook to things.要想解决所有的这些问题，我们必须让自己变得现实些，这样将使得我们接触现实没有比了解实际情况更能够提高我们自己的了当你评价你自己的时候，在我们脑海中，会下意识的用两种不同的方式一种包括我们所擅长的方面，另一种则是我们能够有所改进的相信我这是一个好的开始，它将促使我们不断的改进完善自我这就像给我们的良知套上了缰绳，使我们的不足的方面得到改善，提高我们的自信有了自信，我们就会收获我们想要的结果当某些事情要发生的时候，它总会发生的崭新的，充满自信的我们又会促进我们的发展，并且提高我们的自信心这将会改变我们对事物的看法 I would like to type the thoughts that have just sprung up in my mind. Read and ponder on each line.I admit that its a sad aim at poetry, but I am allowing my mind to control my typing. 我喜欢把那些从我大脑里跳出来的每一个想法记录下来我静静的读并且认真思考每一行，我承认它也许不是一首好诗，但是，我可以说，我记录下来的都是我思想的每一个微粒 If you want to achieve what you couldnt have 如果你想要做到你能力之外的事情 If you want to be what you want to be 如果你想要成为你所期望的样子 If you want to do what you can do, 如果你想要做你能够做的， but arent doing 但你没有做 If there is a place,you want to be 如果有一个地方，你想要去 but havent been 但却没有去 You will get there, become the one and do it 你今后一定会到那里，成为那个成功到达的人 Cos its all in a state of mind. 因为成和败全都在你的思想 Make up your mind and rule the stars. 下定决心你就可以支配你的命数 Control your mind and make your fate. 管制你的思想就可以改变自己的命运 I hope this conveys my thoughts with clarity.So its some advice and suggestion to all those eyeballs running through this part of the book, to keep their heads on their shoulders without using heads and shoulders! And believe me guys; you guys have it in you to make it big . Just dont let that teenage iconoclastic habit rule over sense. 我希望这些话，清楚的表达了我的思想对正在观看这部分书的人来说它是建议和忠告，使他们能够有自己的想法，无须提醒相信我，你们身上也有这些让幻想成为现实的潜能不要让十几岁的叛逆心理控制了自己的理智 23 Listen to Your Inner VoiceIs there inside you?Very much ,ever since you were brought into this world. when you couldent open your mouth till the first two years on planet earth, inner voice is the one through which you interpreted and understood things.从我们来到这个世界的那一刻起，请仔细聆听你的心灵在来到这个世界的最初的两年里，我们还不能开口讲话，心灵是我们理解事物的一种方式Inner voice is the voice mouth of the subconscious mind .the subconscious mind is always acting as a secondary reflector of thoughts and ideas in the body. It justifies and rationalizes what is right and what is wrong. When we go aganist what the inner voice say we get a guilty conscious and are bothered by it throughout our lives.心灵是诉说潜意识的嘴，潜意识一直是思想和情感的反映它控制着是与非黑与白当我们违心的做了某件事情，我们会有一种负罪感，并且在一生当中还会时时为这种感觉所烦恼At times when we are feeling low or those unforgettable moments when we are let down, we seem to need some kind of emotional or mental support. We usually speak to our closest pal or our dearest family member during times of distress to ease the burden .At such times we get over the initial drizzle of emotional anxiety and mental restlessness,because of the pepping up by our empathic listener. we suddenly feel rejuvenated because our inner voice alerts us to get on with things and leave the things of past on the memory books of our brain.有时，当情绪低落感觉失望的时候,我们需要某种情绪或精神的支柱.通常我们沮丧的时候,我们会将给我们最好的朋友或家人听,以减轻我们的压力.在那时候,我们克服了情绪的不安和焦虑,因为有了为我们打气的听众.我们迅速的恢复了活力,因为我们内心深处告诉我们,处理好一切,把那些烦恼都放在回忆里去吧.The inner voice is always right most of the times because it knows us better than others and probably even ourselves. It is the dare devil child of the intuitions which we have been having since childhood. Its good to go by intuitions most of the tims because its the response provided due to the synchronism between our mental and physical being.心灵在大部分时候都是正确无误的，因为它比任何人都要了解我们，甚至超过我们自己它是我们从孩提时代一直伴随我们直觉的孩子遵从直觉是有好处的，因为他来自于我们的精神和现实之间的同步的反应Whenever you are trying your first cigarette, or whenever you are asked to take sides in an argument, you are always in a sense of dilemma. During these times your inner voice automatically gives its verdict, which when over written, might leave us unhappy in the future. Its up to us to either ignore the morale booster inside us or go out to the world and search for spiritual gurus and happiness, when all these things are very much present within us.当想学着抽第一支烟的时候，当不得不在一个争论里支持一方的时候，你总感到为难在那个时候，心灵会心灵会自动的做出判断，夸张的说，会给我们将来留下不快当我们面临这些问题的时候，我们该决定是否忽略我们内心的道德推动或者接触这个世界来寻找精神领袖和快乐 24 LONELINESSA man is known by the company he keeps they say. If it is so, then everyone is bound to have their baggage of loneliness with them as companions. loneliness is not something that doesnt exist at all with any human being on earth. Every human being feels lonely in his life at some point or other. Its but natural to have such feeling ,because thats what makes us all human and that is why we are as we