American Etiquette

1、 American Etiquette American EtiquetteEtiquette is a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group. Generally casualBlunders that could be offensiveBe direct.Use eye contactPart 1 Brief Introduc

2、tion to Etiquette Good MannersPart 2 Dont be nosy.Personal questions “off limits”for a new acquaintance.Dont get too close.Bubble of personal spaceDont touch.Handshakes are okay. Otherwise only touch people you know well. (no friend hand-holding) Good MannersPart 2 Good MannersPart 2 Dont smoke with

3、out permissionSmoking affects your dining partners taste buds and is unpleasant during any meal. Wait until the meal is over andonly smoke after getting your dining partners permission. Good MannersPart 2 Dont get too close.When conversing with casual acquaintance,Americansa tend to stand closer tha

4、n Asians do and farther than people from Middl East,southern Europe,and Latin America. Good MannersPart 2 Dont touch.Except for a brief,firm handshake as part of an introduction or a farewell,Americans dont unsually touch people they dont know well,so hands off! Good MannersPart 2 Dont make ethnic s

5、lurs.The U.S. is a multi-ethnic,multi-racial culture,and theres considerable social interaction among different groups.Dont say anything negative about any ethnic group. Social Distance -Generally frowned upon in pubic-Generally illegal in public and most private buildings-One should not smoke in an

6、other persons home or car without asking first. -One is under no obligation to accommodate such a request Good Manners Social Distance It is very rude in the West to smoke around others who are not smoking and most restaurants will have a smoking and a non-smoking section. Many places forbid smoking

7、 altogether. Under most circumstances, it is best to go outside to smoke. Good Manners Social Distance Good MannersWhen smoking continued-Generally looked down on to some degree-One does not smoke in or near any doorway-One discards ashes, butts, matches, empty lighters and such in appropriate trash

8、 receptacles and does not litter Social Distance Good MannersWhat difference does distance make?Standing too close may give the impression of forced intimacy or an attempt to dominate.Standing too far away seems formal,aloof and cold. Part 3 Dining EtiquetteBefore the meal When invited to an America

9、n friends home for dinner: Arrive on time.10 or 15 minutes late is acceptable. (No more than 45 minutes.If so you should call the host and tell him your situation .) Its necessary for you to bring a small gift in any circumstances. Part 3 Dining EtiquetteTable setting & Seating arrangement Part

10、3 Dining EtiquetteA quick glance at the table setting Part 3 Dining Etiquette During the meal As soon as the hostess picks up her napkin, pick yours up and lay it on your lap.If a servant passes food around, he will pass the dish in at your left hand so that you can conveniently serve yourself with

11、your right hand. Never serve yourself while the dish is on your right; it is then the turn of your neighbor on the right. It is polite to take some of everything that is passed to you. But if there is something you may not like, you may quietly say: No, thank you. Part 3 Dining EtiquetteAfter the me

12、alLeaving the Table It is impolite for a guest to leave the table during a meal, or before the hostess gives the signal at the end. When the hostess indicates that the dinner is over, she will start to rise from her seat and all the guests should rise from theirs at the same time. Part 3 Dining Etiq

13、uetteOther Rules and SuggestionsSit up straight on your chair; Do not put much food in your mouth at a time; Drink only when there is no food in your mouth; Try not to get into your mouth anything that will have to be taken out;Do not make any nose when you eat; Do not clean your teeth at the table

14、or anywhere in public, either with your finger or a tooth pick(牙签), not even with you tongue. Part 4 The Chinese-American differences in etiquette2021-11-1Thedifferenceofcommunicationmanners2021-11-11.Greeting and Parting In China “Have you eaten yet?” “What are you going to do?” In English “Good mo

15、rning/evening/afternoon.” “Fine day, isnt it? ” “How is everything going?” ,etc2021-11-12.Addressing In China, the surname comes first and then the given name. While westerners names are written and spoken with the given name first and the family name last.2021-11-1 East & West Chinese use “titl

16、e（头衔） +surname(姓氏)” to address（致敬） their superior or elders rather than call them surnames, while the superior or elders call the addressers their names. otherwise, the addresser may be considered as ill mannered, ill educated or rude. In west, Although they are different in age and status, they can

17、 call the other directly, namely, their names, even first names .They demonstrate（证明） the sense of intimacy（亲密） and the conception（概念） of ”Everyone is created equal”2021-11-13.Compliments and Response For example, if a hostess is complimented for her cooking skill ,how she will response in west and

18、china?2021-11-1East & WestA Chinese hostess will apologize for giving you “Nothing”. She will say “I just made some dishes casually and they are not very tasty.” An western hostess is likely to say,” Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. I cook it especially for you.” 2021-11-1Thedifferenceoftablemanners 2021-11-12021-11-1In Chinau Make the elders have a sit first.uWash you hands bef