如何做一个合格的父母？

1、如何做一个合格的父母？多给孩子磨炼的机会中国的一些教育家，在培养孩子的目标上，从来都主张首先要教育孩子学会做人。 俗话说“从小看大，三岁知老”。如果家长能注意从小就有意识地对孩子进行生活能力的培养，进行身体素质、心理素质、思想品德、行为习惯等综合的教育，就会收到事半功倍的效果。著名教育家叶圣陶曾说：“教育就是习惯的培养。”一旦孩子染上了某种不良行为习惯，往后是很难纠正的，甚至会影响这个人的一生。培养孩子良好的行为习惯，首先要注意培养孩子自理生活的能力和习惯，如烧饭、洗衣等，还要培养孩子与人交往的能力，其中首先要学会与同学交往，这是一个人适应生存的最基本的能力。1972年联合国教科文组织国际教育

2、发展委员会报告书中提出“学会生存”：应当培养人的自我生存和发展能力，促进人的个性全面、和谐发展，并使之成为当代教育的基本宗旨。日本人把从小培养孩子的独立性、自主性看成是人要生存所不可缺少的。他们注意培养孩子的竞争能力，帮助孩子克服输不起的心理障碍，教会孩子能谦让，能合作，能吃亏。为对孩子进行磨难教育，在现代化生活环境下，就让孩子用洗衣板洗衣服，用扁担挑水，用煤炉生火，到荒无人烟、气候恶劣的孤岛上去自搭帐篷，自制海盐，自己做饭。其目的就在于使孩子从小学会生存。每个民族都在培养自己的后代，为了使我们的下一代成为强者，能自立于人世间，我们的家庭、学校和社会，对独生子女应当少一点怜悯和照顾，多给他们一

3、些磨炼的机会。重视学习兴趣的培养知识经济时代，人才竞争相当激烈，不难理解为何现在的独生子女家长把孩子的智育看得那么重。但怎样才能使孩子读好书，读书好呢，其中有很多学问。其实，学习是一个循序渐进的过程，需要经常耐心地帮助孩子，其前提是家长与孩子之间的沟通和理解，只有这样才能发现并及时纠正孩子的错误和缺点，对孩子的优点和特长及时加以鼓励。而且学习要靠自觉，要使孩子做到自觉，从小培养学习兴趣是非常重要的。大量研究证明，早期的家庭教育对开发个体潜能有重要意义。在良好的环境和合理的教育下，完全可以把孩子巨大的潜能充分挖掘出来。爱因斯坦说过：“想象力比知识更重要，因为知识是有限的，而想象力概括着世界上的一

4、切，推动着进步，并且是知识进化的源泉。” 创设民主的家庭氛围尊重、理解孩子是教育好孩子的重要条件。爱孩子，就要了解孩子，洞察他们的内心世界和性格特点。孩子在成长期可能发生这样那样的问题，父母是事事去干预，还是给予充分的尊重和理解，这是在家庭教育中经常会遇到的问题。事实证明：让孩子有充分的独立和自由，在民主的气氛中有较多发表意见的机会，这种教育方式是孩子健康成长的必要条件。现在发生在大学中的极个别恶性事件，究其原因，大多是由学生的心理健康问题所致。这些学生往往学习成绩不错，有的甚至一路免试直升到研究生，但恰恰是因为缺少健康的个性而使其无法正视人生的挫折。健康个性的培养与家庭有着直接关系。孩子出生

5、后，和父母的接触最多，因此父母是孩子的“第一任教师”，父母的思想品德、个性品质、知识经验、智慧才能、情感意志和育儿技能等方面都直接影响着孩子的成长，关系到孩子健康个性的养成。独生子女教育成功的家庭另一个共同点是民主型的教育方式：父母对己，注意提高自身修养，以身作则;对孩子则充分尊重、理解。抓学习首先从培养孩子的学习兴趣着手，以使孩子养成学习的自觉性，让孩子在优良和谐的环境中陶冶性格，形成健康的个性。培养一个全面发展的、健康的孩子固然是一项需要学校、社会等各方面因素共同携手的系统工程，但如果在家庭教育这一环节中，能有意识地注意到上述几点，相信独生子女教育一定会取得良好的效果。我们说，独生子女的健

6、康成长，离不开称职家长对他们的培养与教育。How to be a qualified parents?Give the child a training opportunitySome Chinese educator, training children in goal, never advocated first to educate our children to learn.As the saying goes, " child is father to the man, three years old know ". If parents can pay atte

7、ntion to children from an early age in life ability, physical quality, psychological quality, moral character, habit and comprehensive education, can receive the twice the result with half the effort. The famous educator Ye Shengtao once said: " education is to cultivate the habit of. " On

8、ce children contracted some bad habits, later is difficult to correct, and even affect the life of the person.Fostering children 's good behavior custom, first we should pay attention to cultivating children self-care ability and habit, such as cooking, washing, but also cultivate the children t

9、he ability to deal with people, one must first learn with classmates, this is a person to survive the most basic ability.The 1972 UNESCO International Education Development Committee report presented in the book: " learning to survive " cultivating people's self survival and developmen

10、t ability, promote comprehensive,harmonious development of the human personality, and make it become the basic aim of contemporary education. Japanese to cultivate children's independence, autonomy as indispensable to the survival of the people. They pay attention to cultivating children's a

11、bility of competition, to help children to overcome psychological barriers and can not afford to lose, to teach the children to humility, energy cooperation, energy loss. For thechildren suffering education, in the modern living environment, let the children use the washing plate washing clothes, by

12、 means of the shoulder pole carrying water, using coal to fire, no human habitation, climate is harsh island up since the tent, homemade sea salt, cooking for yourself. The goal is to make the children learn how to survive. Every nation in the cultivation of their offspring, in order to make our nex

13、t generation to become strong, can free-standing at world, we are family, school and society, to the only child to be a little less pity and care, gives them some training opportunities.Attach importance to the cultivation of interest in learningThe era of knowledge economy, the talent competition i

14、s quite intense, is not difficult to understand why the current one-child parents their children's intellectual so heavy. But how can the child reading a good book, read it, including a lot of knowledge.In fact, learning is a gradual process, often need to be patient to help the child, the premi

15、se is the communication between parents and children and understanding, the only way to find and correct their mistakes andshortcomings, the child's advantages and strong points in time to encourage. And learn to rely on consciousness, to make the child do it consciously, cultivate interest in l

16、earning is very important. Extensive research has demonstrated that, in early family education on the development of individual potential significance. In a good environment and reasonable education, could have tremendous potential fully excavated child. Einstein once said: " imagination is mor

17、e important than knowledge, because knowledge is limited, while imagination embraces the entire world, promote the progress, and is the source of knowledge evolution. "Creating democratic atmosphere of the familyRespect, understanding of children is the important condition of child education. L

18、ove the child, just to understand children, insight into their inner world and character. A child growing up in period may occur in such and such problem, parents are everything to intervention, or given the full respect and understanding, it is in the family education often encounter problems. Fact

19、s have proved that: let the children have full freedom and independence, the democratic atmospherehave more chance to express their views, this kind of education is thenecessary condition for the healthy growth of children. Now in the University of a few malign incident, investigate its reason, most

20、ly composed of students' mental health problems. These students often have good grades, some even one exemption helicopter to graduate, but precisely because of the lack of healthy personality and make it unable to face setbacks in life. Cultivation of healthy personality and family have direct

21、relation. After the birth of a child, and the parents of the most contact, so parents are their children's " first teachers, parents, " moral character, knowledge, wisdom, experience emotion and parenting skills directly affects children, related to the child healthy personality cultivation. The only-child education successful home another common point is democratic education: parents of oneself, pay attention to improve their own sel