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1、Part II: Success is to be your best selfCaree Go 的目的和核心2本讲目标本讲目标(1)了解什么是成功了解什么是成功(2)了解成功的关键要素了解成功的关键要素(3)了解如何达到成功、自信和快乐的理想境界了解如何达到成功、自信和快乐的理想境界3(1)了解什么是成功了解什么是成功4What is Success?Brainstorming: What do you think first when mention success? Please describe success in just one sentence5What is Success

2、Some Answers“Find Your Mr. or Mrs. Rightand Fall in Love”“Travel to Paris and London with Your Family” “GPA 3.8/4.0,Top 5 of All |Students ”“CET 6 with Excellence, MCSE/MCSD”“Elected as Students Committee Chairman”“Have Your Own Big House and Drive to Work”“Employee of the Year and Get Promotion”“Ge

3、t Offer from Fortune 500”“Oversea Training, MBA Sponsored by Company”Individual EntrepreneuershipSuccessful StudentSuccessful Personal LifeSuccessful Public Life心态境界心态境界SocialEntrepreneuershipCorporateEntrepreneuership6What is Success?Success is not to be always better than othersSuccess is to be yo

4、ur best self-Kai-Fu Lee(Handout)从自我心态的角度定义成功：从自我心态的角度定义成功：了解自己、肯定自己，做能在社会全局中给自己了解自己、肯定自己，做能在社会全局中给自己定位的人。定位的人。7Be Your Best SelfPublic LifeHow we are at work and in other public placesConsists of various works, service, labor, ministry, and leisure activities Private LifeDeep Inner LifeWhat goes on

5、in our heart and our headOnes own inner life and beliefsWhat goes on in our homes and when nobody else is aroundConsists of intimacy, sexuality, family, and friendshipWe all have three lives(生活的三个层面生活的三个层面).Continous Improvement based on your current statusSuccess is self improvement, self satisfact

6、ionSuccess is to be better than yesterday成功就是达到生活三个层面的统一，且不断提高和完善的过程成功就是达到生活三个层面的统一，且不断提高和完善的过程(Handout)Deep InnerLife毛、邓、明星、名人毛、邓、明星、名人全职太太全职太太禅师、和尚、牧师等宗教人士禅师、和尚、牧师等宗教人士8(1)了解什么是成功了解什么是成功(2)了解成功的关键要素了解成功的关键要素(3)了解如何达到成功、自信和快乐的理想境界了解如何达到成功、自信和快乐的理想境界9Key Elements of SuccessWhat you learnt from schoo

7、l- Mathematics, English, Accounting, History, Geographic “What to, Why to” element of successKeep continue learning after schoolWhat you learnt from real-world- Presentation skills, communication skills, people management skillsCan also be trained- JA success skills program“How to” element of succes

8、sWhat you can only learn from yourselfLearn throughout ones life“Want to” element of successWhat wed like to talk hereAttitudeKnowledgeSkillsSuccess 诺奖的有限理诺奖的有限理性：成功就是性：成功就是时间注意力时间注意力Deep InnerLifeSkillsAttitudeKnowledge10What is Attitude? SkillAttitude(Handout)潜意识潜意识意识意识Deep InnerLife113 Levels of

9、AttitudePersonal charactersAlso the values of many successful companiesFundamental for successEQ is even more important than IQIQ is nature born, while EQ can be learntMost important to be a successful leaderWhat great people have in addition to common charactersIncluding humility, persistence and c

10、ourage态度的三个层面的核心EQ and LeadershipGood To GreatBasic CharactersEQ and Leadership12Basic CharactersConsistently earn the trust of others Maintain confidentiality of information Readily admit mistakes Do what they say they will do Share credit for achievement with those involved Take responsibilitySet

11、your own goalImprove your work methodsPromote and present yourselfShare your achievement and what you learnt with your colleaguesCarry your own weather with youFoster candid discussions Share information appropriately and quickly Encourage others to express their viewpoints Maintain objectivity when

12、 conflict arises and dont personalizeShows respect for others viewpoints View each experience as an opportunity for learning Set measurable and challenging goals Look for projects that stretch abilities and foster growth Be visionary but not impractical (Handout)仁义礼智信仁义礼智信SelfChallengeOpenCommunicat

13、ionHonesty and Integrity Be Proactive13EQ & LeadershipKnowing your internal states, preferences, resources, and intuitions - Recognizing your emotions and their effects- Knowing your strengths and limits- A strong sense of your self-worth and capabilitiesAwareness of others feelings, needs, and

14、concerns - Sensing others feelings and perspectives and taking an active interest in their concerns - Sensing others development needs and bolstering their abilities Managing your internal states, impulses, and resources - Keeping disruptive emotions and impulses in check - Taking responsibility for

15、 personal performance - Maintaining standards of honesty and integrity Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others- Nurturing instrumental relationships - Working with others toward shared goals - Creating group synergy in pursuing collective goals (Handout)EmpathySelf-AwarenessEmpathycommun

16、ication skillsBuild Shared Vision14海奇与葛德纳人际智能的四大要素 （1）组织能力。这是领导者的必备技巧，包括群体动员与协调能力。剧院的导演与制作人、军队指挥官及任何组织的领导者多具备这种能力，表现在孩子身上则常是游戏场上的带头者。 （2）协商能力。这种人长于仲裁与排解纷争，适于发展外交、仲裁等事业。表现在小孩子身上则常为同伴排忧解难。 （3）人际关系。亦即罗杰对同伴所表现的关心，这种人深谙人际关系的艺术，善解人意，适于团体合作，更是忠实的伴侣、朋友与事业伙伴，也会是称职的职员或教师。 （4）分析能力。敏于察知他人的情感动机与想法，易与他人建立深刻的亲密关系，

17、心理治疗师与咨询人员正是这种能力发挥到极致的例子，若再加上文学才华则可能成为优秀的小说家或戏剧家。 这些技巧是人际关系的润滑剂，是构成个人魅力与领袖风范的根本要件。具备这些社交智能的人易与人建立关系，长于察颜观色，领导和组织能力俱强。与此种人共处是非常愉快的，因此他们总是广受欢迎。社社 会会 技技 能能同同感感15The Shell Leadership Framework1617Shell Leadership Purpose and ObjectivesBuilding stronger personal leadership and high quality engagement beh

18、aviours and skills will result in better business results. To enhance personal leadership by: o Knowing where you are (insight)o Knowing where you want to be and go (vision)o Understanding how to act accordingly (accountability)To increase your capability to communicate more effectively, build bette

19、r relationships and get better results To understand how to transfer personal leadership and leading people into improvement of better business results (9 Planets Framework) To apply the principles of system thinking to issues To promote a common language of engagement and personal leadership(Handou

20、t)18Outcomes Increased sense of personal awareness and empowerment Increased sense of responsibility for your own choices Increased level of capability for engaging in important conversations with others. Increased sense of personal commitment to your own future 19Good to GreatHumility makes improve

21、mentConsider the experience and knowledge of others Shows a strong sense of certainty and stands firm when appropriate Steps forward to take charge when trouble comesTakes unpopular stands and actions if necessary Creates a clear, strategic, purposeful vision Provides strength and leadership during

22、tough times(Handout)Persistence20(1)了解什么是成功了解什么是成功(2)了解成功的关键要素了解成功的关键要素(3)了解如何达到成功、自信了解如何达到成功、自信和快乐的理想境界和快乐的理想境界21Self-Maintenance Circle of SuccessSuccessHappinessSelf-ConfidencePositive/ReinforcingLoop(Handout)Deep InnerLife陈凯课堂上强调的“大人物要讲唯心”、“心法”其目的均在如何使人成功其目的均在如何使人成功良好心态的维持方法良好心态的维持方法 心法的一种心法的一种2

23、23 Steps to Success成功就是自己展现领导力的过程成功就是自己展现领导力的过程 领导自己走向成功领导自己走向成功Only you know yourself well. Define your own goal and improve yourself step by step. Success is to be your best self Self-assessment for where to be improved- Presentation skills, communication skillsSet action plans- Deliver 2 speeches

24、 every month- Say hello to everyone you meetFocus on what your are most interested in and passionate ofRealize your potential in your most interested fieldGive yourself more choicesWhat is your living goal?- Impact, love, happiness, family, work, learning, creativityThe only one who can tell your li

25、ving goal is yourselfReach your goal step by stepDo what you are most interested inSet goal and be proactiveEQ and Leadership23Gain self-confidence from success Gain self-awareness from failure - Can you accept the worst result?3 Steps to Self-ConfidencePeople with self-confidence are always willing

26、 to try what they dont know and gain improvement. They are easier to be successful and happyDefine specific goals- Must be measurableAsk for negative feedback proactively- Ask your best friends- Anonymous surveyBelieve you are the best- Everyone has his own specialtiesStrengthen your specialties and

27、 control your shortcomingsImprove self-confidence through learningKeep persistence and courage243 Steps to HappinessHappiness can improve effectiveness and creativity. The ultra goal of success is happinessCommunication is the best way to improve EQ and happiness- Be optimistic and keep smiling- Sha

28、re your happiness and sadness with your parents and friendsAlso be a good listenerOpen and respectful- Dont hide yourselfSelf-awareness and self control- Take a deep breath when your are angry- Ask your friends to remind youAccept what cannot be changed- Your parents- Your environment: exams, boring