读书笔记 FBI教你破解身体语言（英文版）

FBIWHATEVERYBODYISSAYINGONEMasteringtheSecretsofNonverbalCommunicationTWOLivingOurLimbicLegacyTHREEGettingaLegUponBodyLanguage:NonverbalsoftheFeetandLegsFOURTorsoTips:NonverbaloftheTorso,Hips,Chest,andShouldersFIVEKnowledgeWithinReach:NonverbaloftheArms109SIXGettingaGrip:NonverbaloftheHandsandFingersSEVENTheMind’sCanvas:NonverbaloftheFaceEIGHTDetectingDeception:ProceedwithCaution!NINESomeFinalThoughtsFOREWORDTELLINGLIES:Drawingfromthelatestdiscoveriesinpsychology,neurobiology,medicine,sociology,criminology,communicationstudies,andanthropology.THEORETICALBASIS:scientificfactsandfield-testedfindingsMASTER:JoeKulis,PaulEkman,MaureenO’Sullivan,MarkFrank,BellaM.DePaulo,AldertVrij,ReidMeloy,andJudyBur,DavidGivens.He,whoteaches,learns.ONE:MasteringtheSecretsofNonverbalCommunicationNOVERBALCOMMUNICATIONS:facialexpressions,gestures,touching(haptics),physicalmovements(kinesics),posture,bodyadorn-ment(clothes,jewelry,hairstyle,tattoos,etc.),andeventhetone,timbre,andvolumeofanindividual’svoice(ratherthanspokencontent).WAYS:1.acuteobserverin2.contextwhichis3.universaland4.personallyspecificandhis5.baseline,thenmakea6.judgmentbetweenfalseandmisleadingnonverbalsignals,categorizetheminto7fortanddiscomfortonesTWO:LivingOurLimbicLegacyneocrotexcorpuscallosumthalumshippocampuscerebellumreptilianamygdalahypothalamusneocortexResponsetodistressorthreats,hastakenthreeforms:1.freeze,2.flight,and3.fight.Freezingyourmovementcanoftenmakeyounearlyinvisibletoothers.Thatmomentarystopisenoughforthebraintodosomequickassessing.FreezeManifestations:1.Breath,2.positionofsecurity,3.diminishyourexposure.TurtleeffectshouldersrisetowardtheearsHumbledorsuddenlyloseconfidence.

Flightmanifestation:1.Blockingbehaviorsmaymanifestintheformofclosingtheeyes,rubbingtheeyes,orplacingthehandsinfrontoftheface;2.Thepersonmayalsodistanceherselffromsomeonebyleaningaway,placingobjects(apurse)onherlap,orturningherfeettowardthenearestexit.;3.shiftawayfromhiscounterpartifhehearsanunattractiveofferorfeelsthreatenedasbargainingcontinues.Peopleleanawayfromeachothersubconsciouslywhentheydisagreeorfeeluncomfortablearoundeachother.Eyeblockingisaverypowerfuldisplayofconsternation,disbelief,ordisagreement.Fightmanifestation:usingyourposture,youreyes,bypuffingoutyourchest,orbyviolatinganother’spersonalspace.小结所有行为分为三种Freeze呼吸、动作、形象静止Flight阻止、远离的行为Fight扩张的行为HIGH/LOWCONFIDENCE:Ingeneral,whenthelimbicbrainisinastateofcomfort,thismentalandphysiologicalwell-beingisreflectedinnonverbaldisplaysofcontentmentandhighconfidence.When,however,thelimbicbrainisexperiencingdiscomfort,thecorrespondingbodylanguageischaracterizedbybehaviorsemblematicofstressorlowconfidence.Knowledgeofthese“behavioralmarkers”.心理状态分类HighconfidenceLowconfidence》》》Pacifyingbehaviors》》》》Pacifying行为的分类触碰、抚摸（额、前后侧脖、鼻、下巴、领带等；手放在大腿）呼气吹口哨Pacifyingbehaviorsrevealsomuchaboutaperson’scurrentstateofmind,andtheydosowithuncannyaccuracy.PacifyingManifestation:1.Whenstressed,wemightsootheourneckswithagentlemassage,strokeourfaces,orplaywithourhair;Coveringoftheneckdimplepacifiesinsecurities,emotionaldiscomfort,fear,orconcernsinrealtime.Playingwithanecklaceoftenservesthesamepurpose.Rubbingoftheforeheadisusuallyagoodindicatorthatapersonisstrugglingwithsomethingorisundergoingslighttoseverediscomfort.Necktouchingtakesplacewhenthereisemotionaldiscomfort,doubt,orinsecurity.Thisventilatingactionisoftenareactiontostressandisagoodindicatorthatthepersonisunhappywithsomethingheisthinkingaboutorexperiencinginhisenvironment.Awomanmayperformthisnonverbalactivitymoresubtlybymerelyventilatingthefrontofherblouseorbytossingthebackofherhairupintheairtoventilateherneck.Cheekorfacetouchingisawaytopacifywhennervous,irritated,orconcerned.Menadjusttheirtiestodealwithinsecuritiesordiscomfort.Italsocoversthesuprasternalnotch.Mentendtomassageorstroketheirneckstopacifydistress.Thisareaisrichwithnerves,includingthevagusnerve,whichwhenmassagedwillslowdowntheheartrate.Mentypicallycovertheirnecksmorerobustlythanwomenasawaytodealwithdiscomfortorinsecurity.Evenabrieftouchoftheneckwillservetoassuageanxietyordiscomfort.Necktouchingormassagingisapowerfulanduniversalstressrelieverandpacifier.Exhalingwithpuffedoutcheeksisagreatwaytoreleasestressandtopacify.Noticehowoftenpeopledothisafteranearmishap.Whenstressedornervous,peoplewill“cleanse”theirpalmsontheirlapsinordertopacifythemselves.Oftenmissedundertables,itisaveryaccurateindicatorofdiscomfortoranxiety.Iftheyaredoinglegcleansing,youwillnormallyseetheupperarmandshouldermovinginconjunctionwiththehandasitrubsalongtheirleg.Soundpacifier1.Whistling;2,thetappingofapencilorthedrummingoffingers;3.ExcessiveYawningWhenfacingstressfulcircumstances,someindividualswillpacifybycrossingtheirarmsandrubbingtheirhandsagainsttheirshoulders,asifexperiencingachill.Ifyouseeapersonwithhisarmscrossedinfront,leaningforward,andgivingyouadefiantlook,thisisnotapacifyingbehavior!Anytouchingoftheface,head,neck,shoulder,arm,hand,orleginresponsetoanegativestimulus(e.g.,adifficultquestion,anembarrassingsituation,orstressasaresultofsomethingheard,seen,orthought)isapacifyingbehavior.Thesestrokingbehaviorsdon’thelpustosolveproblems;rather,theyhelpustoremaincalmwhilewedo.Inotherwords,theysootheus.Menprefertotouchtheirfaces.Womenprefertotouchtheirnecks,clothing,jewelry,arms,andhair.Touchingorstrokingthefaceisafrequenthumanpacifyingresponsetostress.Motionssuchasrubbingtheforehead;touching,rubbing,orlickingthelip(s);pullingormassagingtheearlobewiththumbandforefinger;strokingthefaceorbeard;andplayingwiththehairallcanservetopacifyanindividualwhenconfrontingastressfulsituation.Asmentionedbefore,someindividualswillpacifybypuffingouttheircheeksandthenslowlyexhaling.Whyisthispersonpacifying?USINGPACIFIERSTOREADPEOPLEMOREEFFECTIVELY:1.recognize;2.setbaseline;3.“Whatcausedhimtodothat?”;4.ifanindividualisengagedinpacifyingbehavior,somestressfuleventorstimulushasprecededitandcausedittohappen;5.Thespecificstressorthatcausedit;6.howstrongthestressis.辨别原则Fortellingalie,thelimbicsystemismoreimportantbecauseitisthemosthonestbrain.小结负面感受会引起pacifying行为；类型为触碰、呼气和口哨三大类；辨别原则主要步骤有哪些非习惯性行为的触碰呼吸和口哨行为；什么引起的；强度多大THREE:GettingaLegUponBodyLanguageHappyfeet腿抖动可以表示开心～全身配合一般～仅大腿配合离开～脚指向偏离越剧烈越开心Ifhisfeetarewigglingorbouncing,hisshirtandshoulderswillbevibratingormovingupanddown.Feetmoving~~impatienceIftheymovetheirfeet—alongwiththeirtorsos—toadmityou,thenthewelcomeisfullandgenuine.;onlyswivelatthehipstosayhello,thenthey’dratherbeleftalone.FEETWAVEGOODBYE:oneoftheindividualsturnshisfeetslightlyawayorrepeatedlymovesonefootinanoutwarddirection.Ifyouobserveaperson’sfeetgoingfrombeingtogethertobeingspreadapart,youcanbefairlyconfidentthattheindividualisbecomingincreasinglyunhappy.动作：不开心～合拢到分开Legcrossingisaparticularlyaccuratebarometerofhowcomfortablewefeelaround双脚交叉～自信Wealsocrossourlegsinthepresenceofotherswhenweareconfident.WhenIseetwocolleaguestalkingtoeachotherandtheybothhavetheirlegscrossed,Iknowtheyarecomfortablewitheachother.Iftheyareongoodterms,thetoplegcrossedoverwillpointtowardtheotherperson.Ifapersondoesn’tlikeatopichiscompanionbringsup,hewillswitchthepositionofthelegssothatthethighbecomesabarrier.翘腿的指向自己～正面对方～负面(a)thepersonwillremaininplace,whichletsmeknowheorsheiscomfortableatthatdistance;(b)theindividualwilltakeastepbackorturnslightlyaway,whichletsmeknowheorsheneedsmorespaceorwantstobeelsewhere;or(c)thepersonwillactuallytakeastepclosertome,whichmeansheorshefeelscomfortableand/orfavorabletowardme.接近动作～正面Ifyouaredealingwithapersonwhoissocializingorcooperativewithyou,hisorherfeetshouldmirroryourown.If,however,someone’sfeetarepointedawayfromyouwhilehisbodyfacestowardyou,youshouldaskyourselfwhy.身体与脚的指向一致～正面不一致～负面翘腿+踢腿动作～负面Ifapersonconstantlywigglesorbounceshisorherfeetorleg(s)andsuddenlystops,youneedtotakenotice.腿部动作突然静止～负面突然锁/c藏腿（脚）～负面Thefootfreezeisanotherexampleofalimbic-controlledresponse,thetendencyofanindividualtostopactivitywhenfacedwithdanger.Whenanindividualsuddenlyturnshistoesinwardorinterlockshisfeet,itisasignthatheisinsecure,anxious,and/orfeelsthreatened.However,tolocktheanklesinthisway,especiallyoveraprolongedperiod,isunnaturalandshouldbeconsideredsuspect,particularlywhendonebymales.Ierlocktheirfeetthatlackofmovementisnotinitselfindicativeofdeception;itisindicativeofself-restraintandcaution,whichbothnervousandlyingindividualsutilizetoassuagetheirconcerns.arestraining(freeze)behaviorthattellsus,onceagain,thatsomethingistroublingtheperson.hidethefeetaltogether.ourfeetandlegsarethemosthonestpartsofthebody.小结脚/腿步动作可以分为静止动作交叉自信突然锁/c藏腿（脚）负面指向对方正面偏离负面与身体一致正面与身体不一致负面突然静止负面踢腿负面接近正面合拢到分开负面抖动全身配合正面仅大腿配合中性脚腿不协调负面FOURTorsoTipstorsohousesmanyvitalinternalorgans,suchastheheart,lungs,liver,anddigestivetract,wecananticipatethatthebrainwillseektodiligentlyprotectthisareawhenthreatenedorchallenged.整体偏离～负面距离~负面接近～正面moveawayinstantlyfromthatthreat.whenone’storsodoesleanawayfromsomething,itisbecausethebraindemandsit;sowecancountonthehonestyofthesereactions.wemayalsobladeaway(turnslightly)bydegreesfromthatwhichdoesnotappealtousorwegrowtodislike.Thehumanspecieshasevolvedtothepointthatnotonlyphysicalproximitytoapersonwedislikecancauseustoleanaway,butevenimagesofun-amereshiftingofbodyangleofjustafewdegreesisenoughtoexpressnegativesentiment.Whenonepersoninarelationshipfeelsthatsomethingiswrongwiththewaythingsaregoing,heorsheismostlikelysensingasubtledegreeofphysicaldistancinginhisorherpartner.Ourventral(front)side,whereoureyes,mouth,chest,breasts,genitals,etc.arelocated,isverysensitivetothingswelikeanddislike.ventraldenialventralfronting.useourarmsorobjectstoactasbarriers遮挡～负面越紧越严实，程度越深ClothingornearbyobjectsButtoningajacket,ofcourse,isnotalwaysanindicationofdiscomfort;oftenmenwillbuttontheirjacketstoformalizeasettingortoshowdeferencetotheirboss.Awomanmaycrossherarmsoverherstomach,justunderthebreasts,inanefforttoshieldhertorsoandcomfortherself.Shemaycrossonearmacrossherfrontandgrabtheoppositearmattheelbow,formingabarriertoherchest.Woman:chest-shieldingbehaviorMan:playwithhiswatch,playwithhiscufflinks;fixhistieknot;allowsforthearmtocovertheventralareaofthechestandneck.armsintertwinedacrossthefrontisaverycomfortableposeformanypeople.BowingatthewaistthetorsobowisanonverbalgestureofregardforothersButrightorwrong,allotherthingsbeingequal,itistheirclothingthatoftengreatlyinfluenceswhatwethinkofindividuals.Splayingoutonacouchorachairisnormallyasignofcomfort.躺卧～正面Teenagers,inparticular,oftenwillsitsplayedoutonachairorbench,asanonverbalwayofdominatingtheirenvironmentwhilebeingchastisedbytheirparents.Thissplaybehaviorisdisrespectfulandshowsindifferencetothoseinauthority.Itisaterritorialdisplaythatshouldnotbeencouragedortolerated.胸挺胸～正面胸部收缩～压力puffuptheirchestswhentryingtoestablishterritorialdominance.Whenapersonisunderstress,thechestmaybeseentoheaveorexpandandcontractrapidly.Fullandslightshouldershrugscanmeanalotincontext.肩双肩平～怀疑信息（就事论事）双肩不平～怀疑人乌龟肩～负面halfshrug,Anhonestandtrueresponsewillcausebothshoulderstorisesharplyandequally.Expectpeopletogivefull(high)shouldershrugswhentheyconfidentlysupportwhattheyaresaying.beawareofthepersonwho,whileconversingorinreactiontoanegativeevent,moveshisorherbodysotheshouldersbegintoslowlyrisetowardtheearsinamannerthatmakestheneckseemtodisappearlackingconfidenceandishighlyuncomfortable.hurtmyfeelings小结整体局部指向偏离负面胸距离距离~负面挺胸正面接近正面胸部收缩负面遮挡越紧越严实负面肩双肩平怀疑信息（就事论事）躺卧正面双肩不平怀疑人乌龟肩负面FIVEKnowledgeWithinReach手、臂defensewounds向上～正面向下～负面静止～负面紧握～负面手臂动作因人而异，需要建立baselineThesemovementscanrangefromsubdued(restrainedandconstricted)toexuberant(unrestrainedandexpansive).Whenexcited,wedon’trestrictourarmmovements;infactournaturaltendencyistodefygravityandraiseourarmshighaboveourheadsgravity-defyingbehaviorsareassociatedwithpositivefeelings.NegativeemotionsbringusdownphysicallyWhenweareupsetorfearful,wewithdrawourarms.armwithdrawalbehaviorSelf-restraintcanassistusnotonlyindealingwithothersbutalsoindealingwithourselveswhenweneedtobecomforted.Restrictionofarmmovements,armfreeze,particularlywhenitoccursinchildren,cansometimeshavemoresinisterimplications.Cessationofarmmovementispartofthelimbicsystem’sfreezeresponse.tendedtoholdontothebagtighter,especiallyasshenearedthecustomsdesk.Notonlydoimportantitemstendtobebetterprotectedwiththearms,butalsothosethingswedonotwantnoticed.Ifyouestablishanadequatebaselinebyobservingaspecificindividual’sarmbehaviorsoveraperiodoftime,youcandetecthowheisfeelingbyhisarmmovements.touchisveryimportantforthewell-beingofhumans.挥动与接触～正面Thisarm-distancingphenomenonoccursnotonlywhenweencounterobjectswedon’tlike,butalsowhenwearearoundpeoplewedon’tenjoy.Claimingterritorycanhaveverypowerfulandnegativeconsequences—bothshort-livedandlong-term—andtheresultingbattlescanrangefromsmalltogreat.Noticehowconfidentorhigh-statusindividualswillclaimmoreterritorywiththeirarmsthanlessconfident,lower-statuspersons.placetheirarmsbehindtheirbacks放置位置后～负面Thisbehaviorisoftenmisunderstoodasmerelyapensiveorthinkingpose,butunlessseeninsomeonestudyingapaintingatamuseum,forexample,itisnot.手方后脑勺～正面partoftheirauthoritativetraining,itdoesn’tresonatewellintheprivatesector.前双手叉腰～负面看得到大拇指～好奇（中性）看不到大拇指～权威（负面）Forwomen,arms,akimbomayhaveparticularutility.itisapowerfulnonverbaldisplaythattheycanemploywhenconfrontingmalesintheboardroom.thehandsareplacedonthehips,butthethumbsfaceforwardinquisitive,yetconcernedOften,individualswillusetheirarmstosimultaneouslyemphasizeapointandclaimterritory.双手前置～正面（自信、权威）双手搭放弃他物体～正面armspreadbehaviorInbusinessmeetings,aspeakerwhotakes(andmaintains)alargeterritorialfootprintislikelyveryconfidentaboutwhatisbeingdiscussedtoputhisarmaroundhisdatetrytoencroachonhiswomanAnotherexampleofcourtshipbehaviorsofthearmsinvolveshowcloselyacouplewill(orwillnot)placetheirarmsnexttooneanotherwhentheyareseatedtogetheratatable.borderlinepersonalityNevertheless,evenwithoutgivingahug,peoplecanusetheirarmstodemonstratewarmthand,insodoing,increasetheirchancesofbeingviewedfavorablybyothers.oneofthebestwaystoestablishrapportwithsomeoneistotouchthatpersononthearm,somewherebetweentheelbowandtheshoulder.小结整体动作具体动作向上正面挥动、接触正面向下负面放置位置静止负面前叉腰负面紧握负面看得到大拇指好奇（中性）手臂动作因人而异，需要建立baseline看不到大拇指权威（负面）双手前置正面（自信、权威）双手搭放其他物体正面后负面后脑勺后正面SIXGettingaGrip手动作Peoplerespondpositivelytoeffectivehandmovements.keepyourhandsvisibleduringface-to-facecommunicationwithothers.howhandgreetingsareperformed,forhowlong,andhowstrong.变量：距离、强度指向～负面fingerpointingissodistastefulSnappingyourfingersatsomeoneisalsoconsideredrude小动作响指～不礼貌行为Itisfarbettertogesturewithanopenhand(palmup)atthedefendantthanwithafinger.Preening,however,canalsocreatenegativeperceptions.手指整理妆容～负面Standingwithhandsatthesidewithfingerscurledmayindicatepriormilitaryexperience.Handsalsoindicatehowmuchwecareforourselvesandhowweviewsocialconvention.咬手指～负面sweatyhands,youcanassumeheorsheisunderstress(sincelimbicarousalcausessweating).出汗～负面Sweatypalmsarenotindicativeofdeception.Theyareonlyindicativeofstressor,insomecases,ageneticdisorder.握手shakeinexcitement.Theymayrestraintheirhandsbygrabbingandholdingsomeoneelse’shand,orbytuckingtheirhandsintheirunderarmsorclaspingthemandholdingthematchestlevel.determinewhethershakyhandsareduetofearorjoybyputtingthebehaviorincontextIftheshakyhandsareaccompaniedbypacifyingactions,liketouchingtheneckorpressingthelipstogether,I’dbemorelikelytosuspectthattheshakingwasrelatedtostress(somethingnegative)ratherthansomethingpositive.Itshouldbenotedthattremblinghandsareonlyrelevantasanonverbalcommunicationwhentheyrepresentachangefromsomeone’snormalhandmovements.ifsuchapersonsuddenlyceasestotrembleforamoment,itmayindicateadeliberateattempttofocusmoredeeplyontheparticularsubjectjustmentioned突然的动作停止～注意力集中changeinbehaviorthatismostsignificant.Ahigh-confidencedisplayreflectsahighdegreeofbraincomfortandself-assurance.手呈尖塔～自信（正面）位置越高程度越深Handsteeplingmaywellbethemostpowerfulhigh-confidencewomentendtosteeplelow(perhapsatthewaist),whichsome-timesmakesthebehaviormoredifficulttoobserve.Mentendtosteeplehigher,atchestlevel,whichmakestheirsteeplingmorevisibleandpowerful.Steeplingsignifiesthatyouareconfidentofyourthoughtsorposition.Whenourconfidenceisshakenordoubthasenteredourminds,oursteepledfingersmayinterlaceasinprayer手指交叉～负面手指交叉但拇指向上～正面Itisrecommendedthatwhentestifying,individualsshouldeithersteepleorcuptheirhandstogetherwithoutinterlacingtheirfingers,asthesearegesturesthatareperceivedasbeingmoreauthoritative,moreconfident,andmoregenuine.Whenindividualscarrytheirthumbshigh,itisasignthattheythinkhighlyofthemselvesand/orareconfidentintheirthoughtsorpresentcircumstancesThumbsupisanotherexampleofagravity-defyinggesture,atypeofnonverbalbehaviornormallyassociatedwithcomfortandhighconfidence.手放到口袋仅拇指露出～自信（正面）手放到口袋仅拇指放入～负面手放到口袋仅拇指放入但牛仔姿势～攻击型（正面）ThumbsupFeelingsoflowconfidencecanbeevidencedwhenaperson(usuallyamale)putshisthumbsinhispocketandletsthefingershangoutonthesideGenitalframingisapowerfuldominancedisplay.Researchtellsusliarstendtogestureless,touchless,andmovetheirarmsandlegslessthanhonestpeople解释性手部动作过少或隐藏～负面Whenpeoplewringtheirhandsorinterlacetheirfingers,particularlyinresponsetoasignificantcomment,event,orchangeintheirenvironment,itisnormallyindicativeofstressorlowconfidenceWhenpeopletellthetruth,theymakeeveryefforttoensurethatyouunderstandthem.Theygesticulatewiththeirarmsandfaceandareemphaticallyexpressive.gentlefinger-to-palmstrokingtransitionstomoredramaticrubbingofinterlacedfingersmovetheirhandsawayhandwithdrawalsWhenthehandsstopillustratingandemphasizing,itisusuallyacluetoachangeinbrainactivity(perhapsbecauseofalackofcommitment)andiscauseforheightenedawarenessandassessment.Theinterlacingoffingersisaveryaccurateindicatorofhighdistress手指摩擦/手摩擦其他部位～自我安慰（负面）Peoplewhotouchtheirnecks(anywhere)whilespeakingare,infact,reflectinglower-than-normalconfidenceorarerelievingstress.Thecoveringoftheneckarea,throat,and/orthesuprasternalnotchduringtimesofstressisauniversalandstrongindicatorthatthebrainisactivelyprocessingsomethingthatisthreatening,objectionable,unsettling,questionable,oremotional.Necktouchingisoneofthosebehaviorsthatissoreliableandaccuratethatittrulymeritsourcloseattention.MicrogestureInthesecircumstances,themorereflexiveandshortlivedthebehavioris,themoretruthfulittendstobe.小结基本动作手指动作出汗负面指向负面握手手指整理妆容负面突然的动作停止注意力集中咬手指负面响指不礼貌行为解释性手部动作过少或隐藏负面手呈尖塔位置越高程度越深自信（正面）手指交叉负面手指交叉但拇指向上正面手放到口袋仅拇指露出自信（正面）手放到口袋仅拇指放入负面手放到口袋仅拇指放入但牛仔姿势攻击型（正面）手指摩擦/手摩擦其他部位自我安慰（负面）SEVENTheMind’sCanvas表情universallanguagewecan,toadegree,controlourfacialexpressionsand,thus,putonafalsefront.Negativeemotions—displeasure,disgust,antipathy,fear,andanger—makeustense.额头皱起～负面howitisbeingsaid.表情代表的正负面情绪不是关键，关键是为什么？Positiveemotionsarerevealedbythelooseningofthefurrowedlinesontheforehead,relaxationofmusclesaroundthemouth,emergenceoffulllips(theyarenotcompressedortightlipped),andwideningoftheeyeareaassurroundingmusclesrelax.正面前额放松嘴部放松眼部肌肉放松完整唇Whenwearetrulyrelaxedandcomfortable,facialmusclesrelaxandtheheadwilltilttotheside,exposingourmostvulnerablearea,theneck头部倾斜～正面Remember,lookforclustersofbehaviortosolidifyyourobservations.眼瞳孔放大～正面瞳孔收缩～负面eyesaveryhonestpartofourfaceWehavenoconsciouscontroloverourpupils,andtheyrespondtobothexternalstimuli(forexample,changesinlight)andinternalstimuli(suchasthoughts)infractionsofasecond.Whenwebecomearoused,aresurprised,oraresuddenlyconfronted,oureyesopenup—notonlydotheywiden,butthepupilsalsoquicklydilatetoletinthemaximumamountofavailablelight,cesstheinformationandifitisperceivednegatively(itisanunpleasantsurpriseoranactualthreat),inafractionofasecondthepupilswillconstrict眯眼～负面（瞬间、长时间）Inadditiontosquintingwhenillatease,someindividualswilllowertheireyebrowsafterobservingsomethingunsettlingintheirenvironment.Archedeyebrowssignifyhighconfidenceandpositivefeelings(agravity-defyingbehavior),whereasloweredeyebrowsareusuallyasignoflowconfidenceandnegativefeelings,abehaviorthatindicatesweaknessandinsecurityinaperson眉毛下》》眼睛变小～负面眉毛上》》眼睛变大～正面wesometimesloweroureyebrowsandsquintwhenbeingaggressiveorconfrontational.welowertheeyebrowsinthefaceofrealorimagineddangerorthreats.Wealsodothiswhenweareannoyed,feeldispleasure,orareangry.wedroptheeyebrowstoolow,itisauniversalsignofweaknessandinsecurity.Itisabehaviorofobsequiousness,fawning,orsubmissivenesseyeblocking任何形式的眼部遮挡～负面强度时间越大，程度越深Whileeye-blockingbehaviorsareusuallyassociatedwithseeingorhearingsomethingnegativethatcausesusdiscomfort,theycanalsobeanindicationoflowconfidence.mostreliableandvaluablewhenithappensimmediatelyafterasignificanteventthatyoucanidentify.contentmentandpositiveemotionsareindicatedbypupildilation.eyebrowsrise(arch),wideningtheireyeareaandmakingtheireyeslooklargerflashbulbeyesgravity-defyingbehaviors眉毛放松～放松（中性）眉毛抬起～正面raisetheireyebrowsandflashtheireyescomfortdisplaydownwardgazemaydemonstratethatweareprocessingasentimentorafeeling,conductinganinternaldialogue,orperhapsdemonstratingsubmissiveness.向下看～思考eyeaversionNeverassumethatadownwardgazeisasignofdeception.thosewhoaredominanthavemorefreedominusingeye-gazebehavior.rovingeyesmakeapersonlookdisinterestedorsuperior眼珠转动～不感兴趣，自负（负面）Ourblinkrateincreaseswhenwearearoused,troubled,nervous,orconcerned,anditreturnstonormalwhenwearerelaxed.Aseriesofrapideyeblinksmayreflectaninnerstruggle.眨眼频率↑～（内心活动）负面Eyelidflutterisverymuchindicativeofastruggleeitherwithourperformanceorwiththedeliveryoracceptanceofinformation.Thoughit’stemptingtodoso,Iwouldbeveryreluctanttolabelanyonealiarjustbecausetheirblinkrateincreases,sinceanystress,includingbeingaskedquestionsinpublic,cancausetheblinkratetoincrease.askance斜视～怀疑（负面）Itcantaketheformofasidewaysortiltedheadmotionaccompaniedbyasideglanceorabriefrolloftheeyes.wearesuspiciousofothersorquestionthevalidityofwhattheyaresaying.Arealsmileappearsprimarilybecauseoftheactionoftwomuscles:thezygomaticusmajor,orbicularisoculi,eye.workingtogetherbilaterally,thesedrawthecornersofthemouthupandcrinkletheouteredgesoftheeyes,causingthecrow’sfeetofafamiliarwarmandhonestsmile微笑嘴角指向眼睛～真实微笑嘴角指向耳朵～社交微笑RisoriusRealsmilesaredifficulttofakewhenwehaveasincerelackofemotion.唇压缩～负面唇形越少，程度越深反U嘴～压力（负面）噘嘴～不同意（负面）Whenwearestressed,wetendtomakeourlipsdisappearsubconsciously.Lipcompressionisveryindicativeoftruenegativesentimentthatmanifestsquitevividlyinrealtimeupside-downU.Thisbehaviorisindicativeofhighdistress(discomfort).Thisisaformidablecueorsignalthatthepersonisexperiencinganextremeamountofstress.theturned-downcornersofthemouthisanormalbehaviorandassuchisnotanaccuratesignofdistress.However,forthelargemajorityofus,thisisaveryaccuratetellofnegativethoughtsorsentiments.Thisbehaviorusuallymeanstheydisagreewithwhatisbeingsaidortheyareconsideringanalternativethoughtoridea.auniversalactofcontempt.Itisdisrespectfulandreflectsalackofcaringorempathyonthepartofthepersondoingthesneering.单边唇抬