从《美食、祈祷和恋爱》看女性的自我实现

ChapterTwoTheIntroductionofNovelandTheoryEatPrayLoveisElizabethGilbert’sautobiographicalnovelaboutadivorced,broken-heartedwomanwhotravelsaloneinItaly,IndiaandBaliinsearchofcurefordepressionandhertrue,happyself.2.1TheIntroductionofNovelStarringJuliaRobertsandproducedbyBradPitt,EatPrayLoveEatisourneedtosurvive.Prayisourneedforself-achievement.Loveisourneedtobelong.Eatisourneedtosurvive.Prayisourneedforself-achievement.Loveisourneedtobelong.BestsellingauthorElizabethGilbert(JuliaRoberts),wholivesinNewYork,seemshappilymarried,butisactuallyanxiousandmiserableeveryday.Inordertogetridofthetortureofsuchalife,sheaskedherhusbandforadivorce.Afteralongtugofwar,Elizabethwasfinallyfree.Inordertomoveonwithherlife,shefirstfoundanewboyfriend,butafterabriefandpassionatelove,theyquarreledandsoonbrokeup.Heartbrokenanddisappointed,Elizabethhadtofindanewdirectionforherselfandsetfree.Tomakeacleanbreakwithherpast,ElizabethflewtoRome,theItaliancapital.ShenotonlymadealotofgoodfriendsinRome,butalsotraveledwiththem,learningthelanguageandsoon.Mostimportantly,theyenjoyedagreatdealofdeliciousItalianfoodtogether.Themostfamousofthese,ofcourse,arepizzaandpasta.Everytimeshethoughtaboutherlife,Elizabethwouldhaveapizzaorpasta,asifshewereinpureandharmlesslove.Thiswasdeliciousjourney.AfterItaly,ElizabethmovedtoIndiatolearnandpracticemeditation.SosheputontraditionalIndianclothesandstudiedwithotherseveryday.Butinthebeginning,shewasslowtogetintothemoodandgraspthekey,oftenembarrassinginpublic.Later,withtheteacher’shelpandguidance,shegraduallyenteredthestate,slowlyreachedtherealmofphysicalandmentalunity.Asaresult,shenotonlyimprovedherownmood,butalsohelpedmanypeoplearoundhertogaininnerpeace.Thisismeditationtour.WhenSophiesaidgoodbyetoherteacherinIndia,herteacherhadwarnedhernottogiveuponlove.SoshereturnedtoherbelovedislandofBali,Indonesia,torelivethegoodtimesshehadthere.Byastrangeaccident,shemetatendermiddle-agedmannamedPelippe.Afteramisunderstanding,theyfellinlovewitheachother,butitwasn’tlongbeforeSophiefeltuneasyagain,feelingthatherlifehadlostitsoriginalpeaceandbalance.Fortunately,shesoonfiguredoutthesourceofheranxietyandchosetolivehappilyeverafterwithPelippe.Thiswasthejourneyoffindinglove.TherearemanywomenlikeElizabethwhooftenfaceinnerinsecurityandfeelthattheirliveshavelostdirectionandmeaning.Theymayleadwell-fedorevenseeminglyhappylives,buttheyareoftenunhappyanddistraught.Whentheychoosetodivorceorchangetheirlivingenvironmentinexchangeforinnersatisfaction,theyareoftennotunderstoodandevenaccusedofbeingpretentious,askingfortrouble,etc.Ittellsusmanythings.First,andmostimportantly,itgivesthemthetoolstoachieveindependenceandfinancialsecurity.Secondly,Ithinktheinnerworldisveryessentialforus.Ifourinnerworldisterrible,wewillbeverypainfulandcorruptedandthinkthatourlifeisuseless.Whenweloseourselves,weshouldfaceitbravelyandchangeittomakeusbetter.“Summerinsectscannottalkintheice,wellfrogcannottalkinthesea.Ihopeitdoesn’tmatterwhatageweare,similarwomencannottoomuchgeographywillbetheeyesofoutsiders,aslongasintheirownheart,bravetodowhattheylike,likethepersontheyreallyloves,soastobecomethebest,themosttrueself.2.2TheSelf-achievementTheoryThenovelisbasedonself-achievementtheoryofMaslow.Thistheorybelongstothefifthsmalltheoryinhistheory.Atthesametime,self-achievementtheoryisthehighestlevelsinhistheory.ThetheoryplaysanimportantroleinSophie’slife.Oneisrichinmateriallife,butdoesnotmeanithasrichspirituallife.AbrahamMaslowisafamousAmericansocialpsychologistandthefounderofthethirdgenerationofpsychology.Heproposedhumanisticpsychology,whichcombinespsychoanalyticpsychologyandintegrateshisaestheticthoughtsintoit.HismajorachievementsincludethedevelopmentofhumanisticpsychologyandMaslow’shierarchyofneedstheory.HisrepresentativeworksincludeMotivationandPersonality,ExplorationandExistentialPsychology,andtheStateofHumanPerformance.Maslowbelievedthathumannaturewasoptimisticanduplifting.Hepaidmoreattentiontotheconsciousaspectofpersonalityandregardedpeopleasindividualswithfreewill,alwayslookingforwaysthatwerebothsuitableforthemselvesandrequiredbysocietytosatisfytheirinitialmotives.Hebelievedinexpressinghumanneedsatagraduallevel.Thatis,someneedsmustbemetinorderforotherstobemet.Maslowarrangedtheseneedsintofivelevels,andalthoughtherewereexceptions,wealwaysmetthelowerlevelsfirstbeforefocusingonthehigherones.Physiologicalneedsoffromlowesttohighestaresafetyneeds,loveandbelongingneeds,esteemneeds,andself-achievement.Self-achievementisthehighestlevelofdemand,includingthedemandforobtainingthehighestliferealmoftruth,goodnessandbeauty,therefore,thefirstfourneedscanbemet,andthehighestlevelofdemandcanbegeneratedsuccessively,whichisaderivativedemand,suchasself-realizationandgivingfullplaytopotential.Self-achievementtheoryisatheoryofspiritualascension.Sophieisasuccessfulwriter.Butherhusbandaskedhertohavechildren,butshedoesn’twanttohavechildren.Andthatherhusbandthinksonlyofhimself,notSophie.Sheisintheheartofthelostandconfusedlife.Sheneedsspiritualchangeandinnerstrengthtosupportherself-improvement.Maslow’sself-achievementtheoryprovidesamotiveforSophietorealizeherself.ChapterThreeSophie’sProcessofSelf-achievementEveryoneisthesame.Someonegotmarriedandhavechildrenintheir20swiththepeopletheyloveandboughttheirhouseintheir30s.Buttheysuddenlygetdepressedandfeellikewe’reinhell.However,theyhavetogetupsteamandsitadepressingofficeforwork.Theydonothavetoquitandtheyneedtochange.3.1ThePreviousLifeofSophie’sSelf-achievementNewYorkisthelargestcityintheworldandislocatedinsoutheasternNewYork.Formorethanacentury,NewYorkCityhasbeenthemostimportantcommercialandfinancialcenterintheworld.NewYorkisaglobalworld-classmetropolis.Ithinkshecanlivesocomfortablyinsuchaprosperouscity,winningovermostpeople.Butshewasnothappywiththecurrentsituation.Shehashercomfortzoneandfriendswhoarebasicallyonasimilarlevel.Sheisarepresentativeofanindependentwomaninherearlythirties.Sheisfinanciallyindependent,marriedwellandhasgoodfriends.That’sahellofalotofmoney.Middle-agedwomen,nomatterhowdulllife,nomatterhowdissatisfiedmarriage,willchoosetoliveasafelife.Sophiechosethepathtakenbythefew.Thepathistogiveupeverything,travelalone,findyourself.Ifyoufindyourselflostinyourlife,wouldyoudaretothrowawayeverythingyouyouhavenowandchoosetostartagain?3.1.1TheGoodLifebeforeSophiewasbornintheUnitedStateshighlyeducated,highlymotivatedandfinanciallyindependent,strong,autonomousandself-sufficientwomaninhermarriage.Theheroine,Sophie,isapopularwriterforTheNewYorkTimeswhotravelstheworldwritingabouttravel.Shehasastablemarriage,substantialmaterialpossessions,anenviablejob.Shecangotofancyparty.Shehasmanybosomfriends.Shehasahandsomehusbandwhoisalawyer.Heisveryfondofhiswife.HisnameisSteve.TheyliveinaniceapartmentinMankton.Hermotherraisedhertwodaughtersonheown.SisterCatherinecharacterwithdrawn,competitive,kind,independent.ThethreewomeninElizabeth’sfamilyallshowedtypicalAmericandiligence,frugalityandfreedomintheirmarriage.3.1.2TheGoneBeautySophie,theheroineofEatPrayLove,knowsthiskindofunspeakablepainsowellthatshecannotsleepatnightandcriesfornoreason.Itwasasifshewasaloneintheworld,surroundedbyherhusbandandfriendswhocouldnotunderstandherinnerpain.Finally,shebravelymadeachoiceforherself--totravelalone,tofindtheoriginallivingtrueself.Sophiehasthreeromances.Butshehasunhappymarriage.Inthefirstromance,Sophiefailedtorealizethatmarriageistocooperate,gainandlose,cannotsacrificeoneselfformarriagetyingchosetoescapeandgiveup.Thesecondromanceismeanttocompensateforthelackofloveinthemarriage,andafterthedivorce,theheroinesoonfallsinloveagain,thistimewithahusbandactor.Bythereasonthattheromanceisfar-fetched,thetwowillgotheirseparatewaysafterlosingthenovelty.Atthebeginningshemaybemovedbytheman’sappearanceandbelief,themanappearedinherlonely,andthereisapiousbeliefjusttomeettheemptinessofhermindandbody,butthisisnotthetruesenseoflove.Feelingunhappyandconstrainedintheprocessoflove,shechosetoleaveandembarkonajourney.Ifshecontinuestocomprise,shewillfailtochange.Shewillsinkinpain.3.2TheInitialStageofSophie’sSelf-achievementSophiehasdivorcedwithherhusband.Shegivesallpossessionstoherhusband.Shedoesn’thavemoneyandisunhappynow.SheisgoingtoItaly.ButItalianscommunicateinItalian.Shedoesn’tlearnit.ShestillgoestoItalytochangeherself.3.2.1DestitutionSophiearrivedinRome.Inmeanwhile,sheispoor,becauseafterdivorce,herwholepropertiesweregaveawaytoherformerhusbandasinconditionofdivorce.Sherentahousethatislackofhotwater.Ifshewantstotakeashower,sheneedstomakealittlebitofhotwaterinapot.Itisinconvenientforher.Butlandlordiselderwomanandfriendly.SophiewasfirsttimetocomeRome.Fortunately,shequicklymakeagoodfriend--Sufeiduringbuyingacoffee.Shetalkswithher.SheintroducesherfriendforSophie.HerfriendiscongenialwithSophie.HemakesSophieclear.Aftertalking,theyappointtogoshoppingandseethescenery.Italyisallaboutfood,andshe’s“inlovewithpizza,”staringataplateofpastaforalongtimeandsuddenly,inafitofexcitement,rollingitandgulpingitdown.ShegoestoRome,oneoftheworld’smostfamousfoodcities,whereevenunbuttonedjeanscouldn’tstopherfromeatingdeliciouspasta,andwhereshelearnsanimportantlessonfromagroupofItalianfriendsabouthowtostopherbusypaceandenjoytheleisuretimeofdoingnoting.3.2.2AGroupofFriendsWhenSophiearrivesinRome,sheisataloss.Becauseshedoesnotunderstandtheirlanguage.So,afterhavinganewhouse,sheneedstudytheirlanguage.Luckily,hernewfriendsareverykindandfriendlywhohelpSophiemanythings.Suchaslanguage,lifeenvironment,deliciousfood.Don’tworryaboutgettingfat.Theycometruefreefordeliciousfood.Theygotoaruin.Itwasamagnificentpalaceever.Butitisaruinnow.Sophiecannotwaitthinkingfadethings.Sheislostinthought.Shethinkspastevent.Ifshedoesn’tleave,shewillnothaveanyfriends.3.2.3TheSensestoPleaseLettheheartbehappy.TravelisoneofthetruelovesofSophie’slife.Fromtheageof16,shetakesatriotoRussiawiththesalaryofworkingasananny.Oneofhertraveltalentsisthatshecanmakefriendswithanyone.InordertolearnItalian,shemovestoRomealone,whereshemakesmorefriends,enjoysthefood,wineandscenery,watchesfootball,andtravelsfreelyfromcitytocitywithoutanyagendaforresponsibilities.Shefoundthehappinessdefinedas“doingnothing.”WhenSophiecatchessightofherselfinthemirrorofthebestMichelia’sinNaples,sheseesahappy,bright-eyed,happy,healthyfaceliketheoneshehasnotseenforalongtime.WhenSophiestartsreadingItalian,shefeelshappyandholdsontoit,pullingherselfoutoftroughandpullingherselftogether.Findingyourownhappinessisanactofmeaningandfindingyourowndirectioninlife.Thislifebelongstonoonebutyourself.Sheseeseveryonediningandherheartisveryhappy.SheisnewtoIndia.HerfirstimpressionisnotgoodtoIndia.InIndia,thedriverdrivesfastandenvironmentisthedirtymess,andhasalotofbegging,thateducationsocialsecurityisbackground.Whenachildispickingupawaterbottle,therealityinstinctcannotbesatisfied,sowhydoesIndiahavedevelopedreligion?Becausetherealityinstinctisverybitter,wehavetoaskourselveswhatisthemeaningofliving,andwerelyonreligionfortheafterlife,whileNorthKoreareliesontheWorkers’Party,soweshouldthinkabouttheinstinct,realityandideal.Forexample,primitivesocietyhasstronginstinctbutlittlerealisticideal,Indiahaslittleinstinctualrealitybutverystrongideal,Italyhasstrongfamilyconnectionreality,buttheinstinctualidealisnotsostrong,Somalipiratesareinstinctual,Chinaismostlyinstinctual,Realityispartofit,andreligiousplacesareinsharpcontrasttotheoutsideworld.ThisisIndia’sspiritualpurelandandspiritualescape.Theoutsideisdirtyandmessy,whiletheinsideiscleanandorderly.Sheisrelaxedinherinnerworld.Ifshedoesn’ttraveltoItaly,shewillnothavenoappetite.3.3TheRecoveryStageofSophie’sSelf-achievementAftertravelingtoItaly,sheispleasureandactive.SheisinthemoodtotasteItalianfood.Sheisnotbotheredaboutdoingthingsbefore.Gradually,shehaschangedalittle.SherecallstheDavid’spact.SosheplanstoIndiatolookatthemeditationhousethatDavidsaid.3.3.1InnerIrritabilitySophieleavesRomeandgetstoIndia.ShemovestoIndia,whichwasfullofpilgrimages.TheRepublicofIndiaislocatedinSouthAsiaandisthelargestcountryinthesubcontinent.TheterritorybordersBangladesh,Nepal,BhutanandChinaonthenortheast,Myanmarontheeast,SriLankaonthesoutheastandPakistanonthenorthwest.Heresheistochange,torediscoverherself,tobetruetoherinnermostfears,toovercomeinsurmountableproblems.Intemple-lined,religiousIndia,sittingmeditationisthebestwaytogetthroughtheordeal.ButSophiedoesnotgowellatthebeginning.Everytimeshecloseshereyesandfaceshertrueself,theclutteredemotionsofthepasttriedtoburyherlikeruins.Restlessshedoesnotescape,knowistryingtofindasolution,andthenassailed,onlyonthesongtofacethepast,istounderstandandchangeyourself.Admitimperfection,facevulnerability,theheartwillbecomesoftandstrong.3.3.2InnerCalmnessToIndia’sashram,shethoughtcametothe“source”,thinkcanfindinnerpeace,butstillfeeltrappedintheinnerchaos.ThroughtheinteractionwithRichard,alsodivorced,asRichard’sspiritualguidanceserviceobjectintheAshram,Richardtellstheheroinethatwaitingforherex-husbandtoforgivehimisawasteoftime,heshouldforgivehimself.ShecanfinallyputdowntheguiltofSteveninmyheart,forgivemyself,andinmyheartandStevenreconciliation.Richard’smostpreciouspieceofadvicetoherbeforeheleavestheAshramis,“Believeinloveagain.”Yes,tohavethecouragetobelieveagain,andtomeetanewloveinamorecompletestate,howimportant,howbeautiful!WatchingRichardgo,sheturnsaroundandbuysa“keepsilent”sign.Thisistoletoneselfreallyclamdown.Butthenshewasgivenanewtask,tobewarmandsmile,shereadilyagreed.Infact,wewillfindthatthepracticeofinnersilencedoesnothavetobesilentinordertoachieveit.Thedifferentwaymeansthatthereisdefinitelymorethanone.Sheiscompletelyresignedtoughme.”Withthisrealization,andwithjoy,shemovedontothethirdlegofherplannedtrip:Bali.3.3.3TheMeditationWhenSophiearrivedinIndia,hermindwanderedduringmeditationandshecouldnotcalmherselfdown.Whydidshemeditationtoreachanemptythemind?Takealookatthefollowingintroduction.Experiencelifewithmeditation.Justlikethehealthofthebody,thehealthofthemindisalsoveryimportant.Leavealittletimeandaspaceformeditationeveryday,sothatyoucansortoutyourchaoticthoughts,temporarilyforyourwork,forgetyourtroublesandenteranewrealmofselflessness.Manypeoplemisunderstandcomplexthinkingasmeditation.Meditationisakindofartisticconception.Itistofocusonone’sownbreathandconsciousness,toperceivethechangesineverymomentoflife.Whilefocusingononebreathandonebreath,rememberyouridealstateofbeing,immerseyourselfinavacuumthatleaveseverythingbehind,andfindspiritualbalance.Thetypicaldiseaseofmodernpeopleisallkindsoflifestress,becauseofstresswebecomeirritable,whichleadstovariousdiseases.AndMeditationisagoodwaytotreatstress.Whenapersonmeditates,heorshetakesabreakfromthehustleandbustleoftherealworldandfindsadeepsenseofcalmandconcentration.Inthisprocess,notonlythemindgetsthemaximumstability,ourbodyalsogetsthemaximumrelaxation,findthehealthandbalanceofthebody.Withtheriseofthelifestyleof“BeingLife”,meditation,usuallyunderstoodasbelongingtoBuddhists,hasbeenmoreandmorefavoredbyordinarypeople.TheTimesofLondonalsoreportedthat“meditationisoneofthebestwaystorelievestress”,andanotherexperimentprovedthatafter8weeksofmeditationtreatmentpeoplearemorelikelytofeelhappyandpositive,andtheirbodyindicatorsaremuchhigherthannormalpeople.Meditationisnowwidelyacceptedaspartofa“Well-BeingLife”lifestyle.MeditationhasinfluencedPeople’sDailylifenotonlyaspartofreligionandart,butalsoasahealthylifestyle:theChinesecharacterfor“meditation”means“tomeditatewithone’seyesclosed”.Fullyrelievethetensionofthebodyandmind,withoutanyemotionalfluctuations,quietlyobservethechangesintheheart,andthenperceivethechanges,letoneselfcompletelyintoakindofselflessstate,deeplyfeelthepeaceandstabilityoftheheart.Thefirststageofmeditationistogatherthemindinoneplace,tokeepyourselfcalm,nottobeswayedbyexternalstimuli,andtocontinuetoperformtheinnermovementsofthemind.Thesecondstageisagradualcalmingofthemindandafeelingofpurityandclarity.Finally,themindcompletelylosesthesenseofoppositionbetweensubjectiveandobjective,andentersintoastateofobliviousvacuumandbecomesonewiththeuniverse.Thatis,thereligiouswordfordeliverance.Whatdoesmeditationgiveus?Duringmeditation,thebrainwavesbecomecalm,themoodbecomescalm,andthemusclesofthewholebodybecomerelaxed.Inaddition,thesecretionofhormonessuchasB-endorphins,morphine,anddopamineinthebodybecomesmoreactive.Asaresult,theimmunityofthebodyisstrengthened,andtheabilitytokillbacteriaandresistbacteriaisimproved.What’smore,duringmeditation,wunconsciouslyimproveourpersonalityandbehaviour,makeourselvesmoreobjectiveandstable,andimproveourmemory,thinkingandcreativity.Successfulmeditationclearsthemindoalldistractions,includingsourcesoftension,discomfort,annoyance,painandfear.Proponentsofmeditationsaythatprolongedmeditationsaythatprolongedmeditationcanleadtoheightenedalertness,amoreproductivemind,andmoreproductivemind,andmoresensitiveperception.Somepeoplesaytheygetadeepsenseofconnectionandspiritualgrowthfrommeditation.Meditationisakindoffeeling.Itisahealthywayoflifewherethemindinfluencesthebodyandmakesitbenefit.Itisakindof“enlightenment”oflifeprocess.SpaceofRelease--TheBasicmethodofMeditation.Meditationdoesnotrequirespecialtoolsorplaces.Justgiveyourselfalittletimeandspaceeachdaytoimmerseyourselfinthejoyofmeditation.Beforestartingmeditationwearsaloosetanktopandpants.Thenperformasimpledecompressionexercise.Startwithalightfistandgentlymassageyourabdomentorelaxyourbodygradually.Then,lieonyourbackonthefloorandrollyourbodyfromsidetoside,relaxingallyourmuscles.Finally,imaginebeingenvelopedinabrightlightandfeelingitssenseofeaseandhappiness.Correctposturesitinayogicsittingpositionwithyourthumbandindexfingertogetherandyourotherthreefingersstraightandrelaxed.Finally,placesyourhandsonyourknees,palmsfacingup.Then,relaxthemusclesthroughoutthebodytograduallyrelievethetension.Meditationmethodtofocusontheirown--abreath,findthebreathingandtheunityofthebodyandmind.Youcanalsomeditateinaconcentratedwaybyburningastickofincense,choosinganobject,andlettingyourthoughtsrisewiththepurplesmokeasyoubreathe.Inaddition,youcanuseanoldthing,mountain.3.4TheSuccessfulStageofSophie’sSelf-achievementHaveyouheardofBali,aplacetothesouthofIndonesia?It’sasmallislandbutisbecomingmoreandmorefamousbyitsfascinatingtouristattractionsenjoyedbyhundredsofthousandsofpeoplefromworldatlarge.Baliissopicturesquethatyoucouldbefooledintothinkingitpaintedbackdrop:ricepaddiestripdownhillsideslikegiantsteps,volcanoessoarthroughtheclouds,theforestsarelushandtropical,andthebeachesarelappedbythewarmwateroftheIndianOcean.ButthepostcardparadiseglosshasbeenmanufacturedandpolishedbytheinternationaltouristindustryratherthanbytheBalinesethemselveswhodonotevenhaveawordforparadiseintheirlanguage.3.4.1FullofHopeSophieleavesIndiatoBali.Shedecidestolookforthatsorcerertoproveherchanges.Thesorcererknowsher,itissurpriseforher.Shewritesscripturesforsorcerertoshowhersincerity.Fromdaytoday,Sophieinsistsinwritingforhim.Shehopesherselfclamdowninheartandbecomesbetter.Suddenly,whensheridesabikeinroad,shecomesacrossPhilip.Becausehehitherwithcar.Sophie’sleghasabigwound.ShecomesWayne’hometotreatthewound.Atthesametime,abeautifulladyinvitesSophietoattendapartyinordertorelieveboredom.AtWayne’spersuasion,sheagreesontakingpartintheparty.Unexpectedly,Philipattendstheparty,too.HeintroduceshimselftoSophie.Atfirst,Sophieishatehim.Butaftertalking,Sophiethinksthatheishandsomeandinterested.Gradually,theyloveeachother.3.4.2CultivationEnhancementAftertheyloveeachother,SophieistroubleinbetweenmeditationandPhilip.Shequicklyfindsthesorcerertoaskhowtosettlethequestion.Thesorcerertellsherthatsometimeslosingbalanceforloveispartoflivingabalancelife.Shecrieswhenshesawthathercouldfacehertrueheart.Yeah!Thisisreallife.Youcansay“It’sokay”toyourself.Sophiehasmadepeacewithherself.3.4.3FreedomofSpiritNeartheendofthefilm,WhenSophiesaystoPhilipinItalian,“Let’smoveon,”shehastrulycompletedherjourneyfromself-destructiontoself-reconstructiontoself-acceptance.Iusedtothinkthatlifewasaboutbuildingblocks,thehigherandmorestablethebetter.Recently,Ihavecometorealizethatperhapslifecanonlymoveforwardwithvigor.ChapterFourTheReasonsandEnlightenmentofSophie’sSuccessfulSelf-achievementAfterSophietraveledthreedifferentplaces,shefoundedherselfandherinnerworldhasbeenimprovedgreatly.Theheroinetraveledtothreeplaces,suchasItaly,IndiaandBali.InItaly,sherediscoveredherlong-dormanttastebudsinfood;InIndia,shefoundherheartandselfinmeditation.InBali,shefoundthepowerofloveinthewayofbalance.Threecountries,threeexperiences,eachonebringingherclosertohertrueself.So,whatisthereasontoencouragetheheroinetogoon?4.1ReasonsforSelf-achievement’sSuccessTheremustbesomereasonswhyapersonwantstodosomethingthatmotivatesthemtodoit.Thesereasonsmayberesponsibleforusbecomingbetter.Sophiewasmotivatedtochangeherselffortworeasons.Religiousreasonsandpersonalreasons.4.1.1ReasonofReligionInwesternsociety,inordertomaintainsocialstabilitytoachievethepurposeofcontrol,thestateoftenmaintainspatriarchalsocialrelations.AndtheexpansionofEuropeancolonialismalsopromotedthepopularityofpatriarchyintheworld.Feministideas,promotedthesystematicunderstandingofpatriarchypromotedthedevelopmentofmanyimportantfeministFeminismreferstoasocialtheoryandpoliticalmovementmainlyderivedfromandmotivatedbytheexperienceofwomen.BibliographyMcDowellLinda.Gender,Identity,andPlace:Feminismreferstoasocialtheoryandpoliticalmovementmainlyderivedfromandmotivatedbytheexperienceofwomen.BibliographyMcDowellLinda.Gender,Identity,andPlace:UnderstandingFeministGeography[J].TheUniversityofMinnesotaPress.2003b:4-6McArthur,Melanie.OutofPlace:Gender,Identity,andSpaceandtheExperienceofContemporarySoloWomenTravelers[J].TrentUniversity.1999a:5-7R.DiyahLarasati.EatPrayLovemimiv:Femalecitizenshipandotherness[J].SouthAsianPopularCulture.2010a:1-3RuthWilliams.EatPrayLove:ProducingtheFemaleNeoliberalSpiritualSubject[J].TheJournalofPopularCulture.2014c:3-6VictoriaC.Dickerson.

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