黄维仁博士佳言录-献给亲密之旅的天使们

1、黄维仁博士佳言录 Messages of Heart from Dr. Wei-Jen Huang 献给亲密之旅的天使们 因为您们，使我们有机会 学习、成长并开始全新的生活,生命是一份来自上天的特殊礼物,永远值得我们好好珍惜,Life is a precious gift from Heaven worthy of tender loving care,人最可贵的是 有一颗谦卑 愿意学习的心,Ranking high among the virtues is a humble and teachable heart,一颗受了伤，还愿意不断去学习、 不断去爱、不断寻求医治的心 是一颗最美的心,T

2、he most beautiful heart, is a heart that in spite of being hurt, still keep on learning, loving and growing.,爱就是彼此珍惜,To love is to Cherish Each Other,倾听就是爱，了解中有医治,Listening is Loving; Theres Healing in Empathy,只有当一个人感受到爱的时候 他才会努力超越自己 去做发自内心的有持久性的改变,Only when a person feel loved, from his heart he wi

3、ll seek the real, thorough, and permanent positive change.,当我们愿意去爱，去标明别人的 善意和长处时 就看见了上帝慈爱的面容,When we are willing to love, to highlight other peoples good intention and efforts, we will see the smiling face of the loving God.,我们可以让别人变成天使 也可以让别人变成恶魔,We have the power to bring out either the best or th

4、e worst in others,爱是投其所好，而非 给己所要,To love to is give others what they need, but not to impose what I need onto them,当我们没有感受到爱时，并不代表 别人没有试着爱我们,When we dont feel loved, do not draw the wrong conclusion that others have not tried to love us,当我们觉得受伤时，并不等于 别人故意要伤害我们,When we feel hurt, it does not mean tha

5、t others have done it on purpose,天下人间最难 发展出的能力是 看事情的角度和观点,The most difficult ability to develop, is to perceive the world and people from multiple angles and a loving heart.,了解冲突，寻求双赢,Understand the underlying cause of conflict, strife for win-win resolution,学习成为不断 标明别人长处和善意的 高手,Learning to become a

6、n expert in highlighting other peoples good intention, virtues and strength,解决伤害和愤怒 最好的办法是饶恕,The most effective way to heal our emotional wounds is . Forgiveness,为爱点燃一盏灯,Light up a Lamp of Love,看透不点透,Perceive but do not expose,先解决心情 再解决事情,Problem discussion before problem solving; Soothing Emotion b

7、efore managing Issues,学习为自己的 幸福快乐 负责,Learn to take responsibility for our own happiness,自认倒霉，接受现实 自求多福，反败为胜,Acknowledge our fate and situation, but never give up in changing it for the good,学习用成人的眼光 重新去检视 过去的一些事件和情绪,Re-examine events in our past, view them from the mature perspective of an adult,伤痛+

8、怪罪=四大杀手,Pain + Blame = 4 relationship killers,伤痛-怪罪=亲密关系,Pain - Blame = Intimae Relationship,一个人可以给别人最珍贵的礼物 是他内心深处真正的想法和感受,The most precious gift that a man can offer Is the honest sharing of his innermost thoughts and feelings,让我们以尊重、鼓励、 了解、珍惜、保密的 心态来领受,Lets receive it with a empathic and cherishing heart; Encourage and keep it confidential.,一个真正高质量的亲密关系，需要经过 误解、伤害、饶恕、修复后才能建立起来,Deep, Intimate Relationship are Established after Misunderstanding, Pain, Constant Restoration and Forgiveness.,为爱留一处空间,For the sake of LOVE, graciously give our loved ones some space,健康的爱是 没有你我也可以活得很好,Healthy