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Type Of Stress For Young People 1 Most situations that produce psychological stress involve some sort of conflict between self and society .So long as we satisfy a social demand at the expense of personal need,or vice versa ,the social or personal demand for action is a psychological stress. If,for example, we stay home from work because of a personal problem, we create a new demand(for an explanation, for made-up time) at our place of work. On the other hand, if we devote too much time to the demands of work, we create new demands on the part of family. If we dont manage our energy budgets well, we create more stress than is necessary.2 大多数情况下，产生的心理压力涉及某种自我与社会之间的冲突，只要我们满足了社会的需求，不惜牺牲个人的需要，反之亦然，社会或个人采取行动的需求，是一种心理压力。例如，如果我们留在家里工作，因为个人的问题，我们创建了一个新的需求（制造时间）的解释，在我们的地方工作。另一方面，如果我们花费太多的时间，工作的要求，我们创建了新的要求，家庭的一部分。如果我们不很好地管理我们的能源预算，我们创建了更多的压力是必要的。3 The major task of psychological stress management is to find ways to balance and coordinate demands that come from within with those that come from without. This is where a healthy sense of self and identity comes in. An integrated sense of identity.means bringing together into a working whole a set of attitudes, values, and habits that can serve both self and society. The attainment of such a sense of identity is accompanied by a feeling of self-esteem, of liking and respecting oneself and being liked and respected by others.4 心理压力管理的主要任务是找到如何平衡和协调与那些从没有来自内部的需求。这是一种健康的自我和身份用武之地集成的认同感.汇集成一个工作整体，既可以成为自我和社会的态度，价值观和习惯的一套。实现这样的认同感是伴随着自尊的感觉，喜欢和尊重自己和喜欢和尊重别人。5 More than anything else, the attainment of a healthy sense of identity and a feeling of self-esteem gives young people a perspective, a way of looking at themselves and other, which enables them to manage the majority of stress situations. Young people with high self-esteem look at situations from a single perspective that includes both themselves and others. They look at situations from the standpoint of what it means to their self-respect and to the respect others have for them. This integrated perspective enables them to manage the major types of stress efficiently and with a minimum expenditure of energy personal distress.6 实现一个健康的认同感和自尊的感觉比什么都重要，给年轻人一个角度来说，看着自己的一种方式，这使他们能够管理压力的情况下，广大。年轻的人与高自尊看看从单一的角度，包括自己和他人的情况下。他们意味着什么，他们的自我尊重和尊重他人，有他们的立场的情况下。这种集成的角度使他们能够管理的主要类型的压力，效率和最低的能源开支，个人窘迫。7 The three stress situations8 There are three major types of stress situations that all of us encounter. One of these occurs when the potential stress is both foreseeable and avoidable.This is a Type A stress situation. If we are thinking about going on a roller coaster or seeing a horror movie, the stress is both foreseeable and avoidable. We may choose to expose ourselves to the stress if find such controlled danger situations exciting or stimulating. Likewise if we know that a particular neighborhood or park is dangerous at night, the danger is both foreseeable and avoidable, and we do avoid it, unless we are looking for trouble.9 三个压力的情况下10 主要有三种类型的压力的情况下，我们所有的人遇到。出现下列情况之一时，可预见和避免潜在压力。这是一个类型的应力情况。如果我们想坐过山车，还是看恐怖电影，压力是可预见和避免的。我们可以选择公开自己的压力，如果找到这样的控制的危险情况令人兴奋或刺激。同样，如果我们知道一个特定的社区或公园是在夜间的危险，危险是可预见和避免的，我们避免它，除非我们正在寻找的麻烦。11 The situation becomes more complicated when the foreseeable and avoidable danger is one for which there is much social approval and support, even though it entails much personal risk. Becoming a soldier in times of war is an example of this more complicates Type A danger. The young person who enlists wins social approval at the risk of personal harm. On the other hand, the young person who refuses to become a soldier protects himself or herself from danger at the cost of social disapproval.12 情况变得更加复杂时，可预见和避免的危险是其中有很多社会的认可和支持，尽管它需要太多的个人风险。成为一名军人在战争时期是一个这样的例子更复杂类型的危险。年轻的人谁登记，赢得社会的认可人身伤害的风险。另一方面，年轻的人谁拒绝成为一名士兵保护自己远离危险的社会不满的代价。13 Teenagers are often caught in this more difficult type of situation. If the peer group uses alcohol or drugs, for example, there is considerable pressure on the young person to participate. But such participation often puts teenagers at risk with parents and teachers, and also with respect to themselves. They may not like the image of themselves as drinkers or drug abusers. It is at this point that a sense of identity and positive feeling of self-esteem stand the teenager in good stead.14 青少年常常陷入这种类型的情况更加困难。如果对等体组使用酒精或药物，例如，有相当大的压力，年轻的人参加。但是，这种参与往往使青少年与家长和教师的风险，也尊重自己。饮酒或吸毒者，他们可能不喜欢自己的形象。正是在这一点上，自尊感的认同和积极的感觉，站在有利的小将在。15 A young person with a healthy sense of identity will weigh the danger to his or her hard-won feeling of self-esteem against the feelings associated with the loss of peer approval. When the teenager looks at the situation from this perspective,the choice is easy to make.By weighing the labori-ousiy arrived-at feeling of self-esteem against the momentary approval of a transient peer group,the teenager with an integrated sense of self is able to avoid potentially stressful situations. It should be said,too,that the young persons ability to foresee and avoid is both an intellctual and an enotional achievement. The teenager must be able to foresee events.but also to situations that would jeopardize these felling.16 一个健康的认同感一个年轻的人会权衡他或她对同行的首肯与损失相关的感情来之不易的自尊感的危险。当小将从这个角度看情况.选择很容易做出。称重辛苦抵达自尊的感觉对一个短暂的瞬间批准的对等体组，一个综合的自我意识小将能够避免潜在压力的情况下。应该说，太年轻的人的预见能力，避免是一个智力和情绪的成就。小将必须能够预见事件也将危及这些砍伐的情况。17 A second type of stress situation involves those demands which are neither foreseeable nor avoidable.Thses are Type B stress situations. Accidents are of this type, as when a youngster is hit by a baseball while watching a game, or when a teenager who happents to be at a place in school sudden, unexpected death of a loved one is another example of a stress that is both unforseeable and unavoidable. Divorce of parents is unthinkable for many teenagers and therefore also unforeseeable and unavoidable.18 第二种类型的受力情况涉及这些要求既不是可预见的，也不可以避免的。基因表达谱是B型压力的情况下。事故都属于这种类型，当一个年轻人在观看比赛的同时，被一个棒球击中，或一个十几岁的人恰好是在一个地方在学校时，突然，意外死亡的应力所爱的人是另一个例子，既不可预见和不可避免的。许多青少年父母离婚是不可想象的，因此也是不可预见和不可避免的。19 Type B stress situations make the greatest demands upon young people.With this type of stress teenager have to deal with the attitudes of feelings. Such dtress situations put demands upon young both from within and from without.A youngster who has been handicapped by an accident, like the teenager who has to deal with divorce, has to adjust to new ways of relating to others as well as new ways of thiking about himself or herself.20 B型压力的情况下尽最大后年轻人的需求.这种类型的应力小将不得不面对感情的态度。这种压力的情况下提出的要求后，无论从内从没有年轻。年轻人谁一直受制于一个意外，像小将谁处理离婚，有调整的新方法以及新的方式思考自己有关。21 Again, the young person with a strong sense of identity and a feeling of self-esteem has the best chance of managing these stress situations as well as they can be managed. In the case of divorce, for example,the teenager who incorporateas other peoples perspectives with his or her own is able to deal with the situation better than other teenagers who lack this perspective.For example, one young man, who went on to win honors at an Ivy League school,told his father when he and the mother divorced, You are entitled to live your own life and to find happiness too.22 同样，年轻的人具有强烈的认同感和自尊的感觉有管理这些压力的情况下，以及他们可以管理的最佳机会。例如，在离婚的情况下，结合其他人的观点，与他或她自己的小将谁是能够处理的情况优于其他青少年缺乏这个角度来看。例如，一个年轻人，谁去赢得荣誉的常春藤盟校，告诉他的父亲，当他和母亲离婚了，你有权住自己的生活，也找到幸福。23 This integrated perspective also helps young people deal with the death of a loved one.If it was an elderly grandparent who had been suffering great pain,the young person can see that from the perspective of the grandparent,dying may have been preferable to living a life of agony with no hope of recovery. As one teenager told me with regard to his grandfather who had just died, He was in such pain,he was so doped up he couldnt really recognize me.I loved him so much I just couldnt stand to see him that way. By enabling tof the young person to see death from the perspective of others, including that of the person who is dying,the young person is able to mourn the loss but to get on with life.24 这个综合的角度也帮助年轻人处理与亲人one.If谁已遭受巨大的痛苦，这是一个老人祖父母的死亡，年轻的人可以看到，从这个角度的祖父母，可能已经奄奄一息过着更可取生活中的苦恼与没有治愈的希望。作为一个十几岁的告诉我关于他的祖父刚刚去世的人，他是在这样的痛苦中，他是如此掺杂他不能真正认识我，我爱他这么多，我简直无法忍受看到他这样。通过启用年轻的人从他人的角度看死亡，其中包括谁是垂死的人，年轻的人是能够哀悼，但享受生活。25 The thied type of stress situation is one in which the potential stress is foreseeable but not avoidable. This is a Type C stress situation. A teenager who has stayed out later than he or she was supposed to foreseeable but unavoidable stress situations, being required to spend time with relatives one does not like is another stress situation that the teenager can foresee but not avoid but must learn to accept as inevitable.26 第三个不同的压力的情况下，是一个在其中的潜在应力是可预见的，但不可避免的。这是C类型的受力情况。一直保持比他晚或可预见的，但不可避免的压力的情况下，需要花时间与亲戚一个不喜欢她应该是一个少年小将的另一个压力的情况下，可以预见的，但无法避免的，但必须学会接受是不可避免的。27 To young people who have attained a solid sense of self and identity, foreseeable and unavoidable stress situation are manageable, again, because of self-esteem and the integrated perpective. They look at the situation from the perspective of themselves as wel as that of the other people involved and try to prepare accordingiy. They may decide, as one young man of my acquaintance did, that”with my folks, honesty is the best policy. I get into less trouble if I tell the truth than if I make up stories.” In the case of visiting relatives they do not like, integaers see it from the perspective of what it means to others, such as their parents, And with respect to stress situation like exams, because they want to maintain their self-esteem, they prepare for the exam so that they will make a good showing for themselves as well as for others.28 已经达到了一个坚实的自我和身份感的年轻人，可预见和不可避免的压力的情况下是可控的，再次，因为自尊和集成的角度探讨。他们从自己的角度看情况以及其他涉案人员，并尽量做好相应的准备。他们决定，我认识的一个年轻人一样，“我的乡亲，诚实是最好的政策。我进入少一些麻烦，如果我说实话比我编造故事。“探亲的情况下，他们不喜欢的，综合性的青少年看到它的角度看，这是什么意思，如他们的父母，并与尊重，强调考试的情况一样，因为他们要维护他们的自尊，他们准备考试，让他们好好表现，为自己以及为他人。29 It is important to say, too, that integrated teenagers come in any and all personality types.Some are introverted and shy, others are extrovertad and fun-loving. Some are preocuupied with intellectual concerns, others primarily with matters of the heart. Despite this diversity, they all share the prime characteristics of the integrated teenager:a set of attitudes, values, and habits that enable the young person to serve self and society, and a strong sense of self-esteem.30 说是很重要的