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I devoted my weekends to watching positive psychology on PP videotaped by Harvard University. After that, I kept saying to myself: if only I had known its existence earlier. It pointed out the way out to my problem. As time goes by, I intend to focus on the dark side of society and negative aspects of life. When wewere kids, we look up, cheer up, and stand up;as grown-ups, we look down, feel down, calm down, and sit down. I hope I can happy, at least happier, and not so much to do with my current situation, very much to do with my perspective of looking at things. The course positive psychology provides much enlightenment and inspirationto me, I write down my reflections to enablethem to act a constant remainder of being stronger, being happier. American ancestors are so smart that they put the pursuit of happiness in their Declaration, because happiness indeed is the ultimate currency, the sole goal of our life.1 The very essence of education is not to provide information, but offer transformation for students;2 ABC theory, respectively standing for affect, behavior and cognition. Affect is determined by your cognition instead of your behavior.3 about relationship 3 components: 1intimacy +2passion+3 commitment If you have 1 2 3, luckily, marryhim or her, you have a good relationship. If you have 1 2, which suggests that you have a lover without future. If you have 1 3,which means you haveintimate friends. If you have 2, thats love at first sight. If you have 2 3, that is the marriage between Wang Xiaofei 汪小菲 and 大S. Wait and see how long their relationship can last. If only 3, that is why parents keep together for the sake of kids, money, position instead of love.Six factors in a relationship: closeness, similarity,familiarity, competence, physical attractiveness, gain or loss. Remember the highest compliment paid by a man to a woman is marriage or you make me a better man or you make me want to be a better man.What matters is not whether you can find a good relationship; it matters whether you can cultivate a good one. After honeymoon period, we should not constantly ask what is wrong with our relationship; we should not ask how to improve our relationship. We should concentrate on what works on us, which is the trend, which can work wonders on us. In marriage, please bear in your mind, never feel contempt for each other, never belittle each other, which hurts most, even worse, leads to divorce.4 remember to appreciate all the good things in life, because it can grow and add value; otherwise, it will depreciate.5 keep smiling. There are two categories of smile, greeting smile, which you smile with your mouth,and genuine smile, which you smile with your eyes, virtually no one can fake a genuine smile.6 No one is coming. It is up to you to take action and shoulder responsibility. Human beings are selfish. From the perspective of evolution theory,parents care about their kids so much, because they carry their genes and spread their genes. That explains a lot that human beings are at core selfish.7 Be the change you want to see in the world.8 Do not focus on negative aspects of life, which narrows and constricts your mind; look at the better sideoflife, which can broaden your horizon and build good sense of self.9 It is good to feel good.10 Wellbeing has high correlation with your sense of self-esteem instead of how much you have in your bank account.11 Self-concept is destiny.12 No matter how hard it is, you know what, you can get it over, although it takes time, although it is painful. You will survive, you will pull through, and you will adapt yourself to the new condition. Upon retrospection, you can smile and appreciate. It is good to have life; it is a pity that we all have to leave.13 The more independent we are, the more interdependent we become, that is how I becomes we.14 You fail your way to success. The greatest mistake one makes isrefusal to make one. Learn to fail or fail to learn, you choose.15 Take exercises regularly. A healthy mind in a healthy body. 16 The excellence of a teacher lies in detection of seeds of greatness, watering them, shedding light on them.17 What makes you from ordinary to extraordinary is the belief in yourself and the constant quest for knowledge.18 Three essential eleme