Unit+1+Science+Fiction拓展阅读素材 高中英语人教版（2019）选择性必修第四册+

专攻解题方法与技巧外研新教材必修第三册Unit1拓展阅读1Goodfriendsareworthfightingfor沟通像一缕和煦的阳光，能消除隔阂，拉近彼此的距离。Conflictisanormalelementinanyrelationship.Inwhatevercase,youhavetostartfromthebasiclevel:Howisyourcommunicationwithyourfriends?Hereareafewquestionsyoucanaskyourself:Areyoutalkingbehindeachother'sbacks?Areyouconfrontingor

criticising

eachother?Areyoufocusingon

resolving

theproblemorwinningtheargument?When

resolving

conflicts,youneedto

negotiate.Inanynegotiation,youarenotgoingtogeteverythingyouwant.Thesamegoesforyourclassmates.So,youhavetocometogethertocompromise

(

妥协).That'swhatadultsdo.Wecompromise.Wecan'twineverysinglecase,especiallyifwewantto

weave

meaningfulandsteadyrelationships.Ifyouhavetheideathatyoushouldbeabletogeteverysinglethingthatyouwant,thenyoumightstillbestuckinachild'smindset.That'swhatchildrendo.Theywantwhattheywant.Butthat'snothowadultsshouldbe.Trytoanalyseyourcommunicationwithyourfriends.Areyoulisteningwelltothem?Aretheylisteningwelltoyou?Startfromthere,andbreakthecommunicationdownintoitsparts.Seeifbothpartiesareonthesamepage.Communicationissupposedtobehealthy.Itshouldbeatwo-waystreet.Youcan'thaveahealthyrelationshipwithouthavingahealthyconflict.Whentwohumanbeingsinteract,therearegoingtobedisagreements.Thatisjusthowpeopleare.Itispartofourdesign.But,thereisasilverlining.Fromconflicts,stronger

bonds

cangrow.Whenyoucan

resolve

aconflicttogether,youwilllearnnewthingsabouteachotherandabouttherelationshipitself.Thatwillbringyouclosertogetherasaunitanditwillcreateabondthatisstrongerthanbefore.Fromconflicts,youwillknowwhoyourtruefriendsareandwhoarenot.Becausetruefriendswillstickaroundevenwhenthingsgettough.Butfakefriendswilleasilyget

annoyed

andyouwillgrow

apart

assoonasthingsgosouth.Truefriendsvalueafriendshipandwillfightto

preserve

it.Notesnegotiate:

v.

totrytoreachanagreementbyformaldiscussionbond:

n.

acloseconnectionjoiningtwoormorepeoplepreserve:

v.

tomakesomethingcontinuewithoutchangingReflectionWhatotherwaysdoyouthinkhelpgetalongwithyourclassmates?2HowtoDealwithGoodFriendsGettingMadatYouFriendsarethepeopleyoudependonforeverything,andwhentheyaremadatyou,youwillbe

annoyed.Thebestwaytodealwithafightbetweenfriendsistotalkitout.Then,findwaystomakeamends(

改善)andhelpyourfriendship

bounceback

strongerthanever.★HearingthemoutOfferthemtheopportunitytoexpresstheiragoniesandexplainwhatyoudidtomakethemsomad.Itcanbetoughtolistentosomeonespelloutyourwrongdoing,evenwhenit’strue.However,thekeyisnottogetdefensiveorangryhere.So,hearthemout.Oncethey’vestatedtheircomplaint,trytolistentotheir

concerns.Thishelpsmend

fences

byshowingthattheyarenotcrazyforfeelingthewaytheydo.Letthemknowthattheirreactionmakessensetoyouandthattheyarerighttobeangry.★MakingamendsApologizeandadmititifyouwerewrong.Say,“I’mreallysorryImadeyousuffersuchextreme

embarrassment.Canyou

forgive

me?”Theapologyismostlikelytobesuccessfulifyouspeakinasoftand

sincere

toneofvoice,andmakeeyecontactthewholetime.Insomecases,yourfriendsmayneedalittletimebeforetheycancompletelymend

fences

withyou.Ifthesituationhappenstobeamisunderstandinginwhichyoudidn’tdoanythingwrong,time

apart

mayhelpbothsidestoseethesituationmoreclearly.Askwhatyoucandotomakethingsbetter.Gotoyourfriendsandseehowyoucan

resolve

thesituationsothatyourrelationshipsdon’tsuffer.

Moreover,bewillingtoputinsomeeffortandmeettheirdemands.★StrengtheningtherelationshipAddresstheproblemsthatbrokethe

fences.Simplyaskingwhatyoucandotomakethingsbetterisonlyhalfofthesolution.Ifyouwantthefriendshiptocontinue,committomakingchangeswithinyourselftopreventsimilarproblemsfromhappeninginthefuture.Letthemknowhowimportanttheyaretoyou.Ifyouhavebetrayed(背叛)orhurtafriend,theymayneedtoknowthatyoustillcareforthem.Thebestwaytostrengthenthebondsoffriendshipisbyspendingqualitytimetogether.Thisshowsthemthatyouaremakinganeffort.Lastly,rememberthatconflictcanhelpyougrowasapersonandmakeyourrelationshipscloser!3HowtokeepstronginterpersonalrelationshipsOneofthebiggestkeystohappinessishavingstronginterpersonalrelationships.Ibelievethatrelationshipsarekeytoleadingameaningfullife.Theytakesomeworktodevelopandkeep,though,likeanythingworthhavinginlife.Now,let’slookathowwecankeepstronginterpersonalrelationships.BeopenAnystrongrelationshiprequiresthewillingnesstobeopen.Thismeanstheabilityanddesire(

渴望

)tosharewhatyou’rethinkingandyourfeelingsaboutdifferentsubjects.Itreallymakesalotofsenseifyouthinkaboutit.Whenyouareopenandwillingtoshare,itshowstheotherpersonthatyoucareabouttherelationshipandthatyouwanttocreateacloserconnection.ShowunderstandingOneofthedeepesthumandesiresistofeelunderstood.Whenyoushowunderstanding

towardssomeoneelse,youareshowingthatyoucareenoughtotrytounderstandhowtheyfeel.Andthatgoesareallylongwaytokeepingstrongrelationships.BerespectfulTohelpbuildandkeepstrongrelationships,youwillneedtoberespectful.Ifyouareonateamatwork,thingswillgosomuchbetterandthefriendshipswilldevelopstrongerifyouarerespectfultotheothersinthegroup.

Worktowardsbeingrespectfulofothersingeneralandcertainlyincloserrelationships.BeavailableGivingyourtimeislikegivingagift.Timeistheonethingweallhavethesameamountof—thesame24hoursaday,thesameamountofdaysinaweekandsoon.Howyouchoosetospendthattimesaysalotaboutyou.Andbeingavailableshowsthatyouvaluesomeoneenoughtogiveyourtimetothem.4LetterstoMarge12DearMarge,Alltheotherchildrenlaughatmeatschoolandsaymyclothesarecompletelyunfashionable.Ifeelreallystupid.Iaskmyparentstobuymebetterclothesbuttheysaytheydon’thaveenoughmoney.WhatcanIdo?DearMarge,Isawoneofmycolleagues(同事)takesomepaperfromtheofficephotocopierandputitinherbag.DoyouthinkIshouldreportittothebossornot?Myparentsalwaysteachmetotellthetruthandthatanystealingiswrong.Whatdoyouthink?34DearMarge,I’mworriedaboutmy13-year-olddaughter,whohasrecentlystartedputtingonweight.Itrytolimitwhatshe’seating,butshesaysshe’shungryallthetime.WhatcanIdo?Myhusbandsaysit’sjustpuppyfat(婴儿肥),butIreallydon’twanthertodevelopaweightproblem.DearMarge,Iam16yearsoldandIwanttoleaveschoolthisyear.MyparentssayitistooearlyformeandthatIshouldbetryingtogetintouniversity.IthinkIamoldenoughtomakemyowndecisionsnow.IwanttoworkwithmyfriendSusaninMcDonald’s.Then,Icanstartearningmoneytobuythings.Marge’sreplies12DearJim,Youshouldworryaboutdoingwellatschoolandnotaboutwhatotherssayaboutyou.Thatwillshowrealmaturity(成熟)and,afterawhile,yournotreactingwillconvincethosewhocomplainaboutwhatyouwearthatthereisnofuntobehad.DearMike,Yourparentsarecorrecttoteachyouaboutrightandwrongbutweareonlytalkingaboutsomepaperhere!Theft(偷盗)istheftandIthinkyoushouldatleastsaysomethingtothepersonbeforegoingtoyourboss.Ifyougotoyourbossinyouroffice,youwillbethemostunpopularpersonintheofficeandthenyouwillhaveanotherproblemaltogether!34DearJane,Takealookaround.Alotofearly-teenagegirlsstarttofilloutabit,whichisperfectlynormal.Ithinkthelastthingyoushoulddoismakecommentstoyourdaughterabouthersizeortrytostarveher.Workwithyourdaughtertodevelopsomehealthyeatingoptions(选择)andhavethemreadyinthekitchen.Saythey’rethereforyouandtherestofthefamilytoo.DearMary,Yourparentsareright.Youwouldbebettertostayandcompleteasmuchofyoureducationaspossible.Realopportunitiesandindependencewon’tcomefromearning$150aweekbutfromthequalifications(资历)andexperiencegainedbystayingwithyourschoolfriends.5LivewithourselvesPeopletelllieswhentheythinkit’stotheiradvantage.Weoffersocialpolitenessbecausesayingwhatwereallythinkmightgetusunfriended.Butsometimesawhiteliecanreallybecomeablackone.Adirectorwaslookingforaspeaker.Forabigevent,heneededsomeonewhocouldaddressanimportanttopicwithagoodmixofhumor.Hedecidedtomeetoneofhiscandidates(候选人)forbreakfast.Thisspeakercouldreallycaptivate(迷住)anaudience.Withhermixofperfectlytimedhumorandtruth,shewouldmaketheaudiencelaughandthinkatthesametime.Offstage,sheusedadifferentskill.Shewasquicktomakeexcusesforherlack(缺乏)oforganizationandplanning.Whenevershewaslateormissedanappointment,shedrewfromherlargebagofreasons,suchaswaitingforalatetrain,theunusuallyheavytraffic,orhavingtofinishanimportantphonecall.Thebeautyofherskillwasinmakingherexcusesringtrue.Thedirectorsatatthebreakfasttable,waiting.Wherewasshe?Afteranotherfifteenminutes,hepickeduphiscellphonetofindout.“Areyouwaitingforanotherlatetrain?”Hetriedtohidehisangerbysoundinglikehewasmakingajoke.Silence.“Uh...Ithoughtourappointmentwastomorrow.”“That’sokay,”hesaid,somewhatrelieved.“Wecanmeethereinthemorning.”“Oh,Ican’t,”shesaid.“Ihaveanotherappointment.”Thespeakerhadbeencaughtinherlie.Ifshereallythoughttheirmeetingwastomorrow,shewouldn’thavescheduledtwoappointmentsatthesametime.Thatendedtheconversation.Shedidn’tgetthebooking.Awhitelieturnsblackassoonassomeonethinkswe’venottoldthetruth.Butifwetellthewholetruthandnothingbutthetruth,wecanlivewiththemosthonestpersonwe’veeverknown:ourselves.6Movingonafterafailing-outwithafriend真正的友谊从来不会平静无波。与朋友发生了矛盾，我们该如何解决呢？Arguingisahealthypartofafriendship.Ifyou'vejustfallenoutwithyourfriendanddon'tknowwheretoturnorwhatexactlytodonext,herearesome

strategies

forhowtostartmovingon.★

CooloffThefirstthingyoumightwanttodoafteramajorblowoutwithafriendistosimplygetsomespace.

Looselipssinkships.Tryingtotalkaboutthingstoosooncouldjustsetoffanotherroundoffighting.Youmayneedadayortwotocalmdownandlookatthesituationfromamoreobjectivepointofview.Seeifyoucanviewthingsfromyourfriend'sperspective(视角)before

justifying

yourselfor

criticising

them.However,don'tletfeelingsgotoolongwithoutbeing

resolved,asthiscouldmakeasimpleargumentmore

complicated.★

Acknowledge

yourpartinthedisagreementTherearetwosidestoeveryconflict,andyoumaybeatleastpartiallyat

fault

forwhathappened.Itcanbehardtoadmitwhenyou'rewrong,butit'sani