五个秘密让你成为最快乐的人

五个秘密让你成为最快乐的人 Myth 1 You re either born happy or not it s not something you can change 秘密 1 天生快乐或不快乐 无法改变 Get Happier Now The next time you re grabbing coffee pay for person behind you The feel good mood bump will be worth every penny 现在变得更快乐 下次你喝咖啡 把你身后的人的钱也付 了 感觉好的情绪值每一便士 Myth 2 You can control how you act but you can t control how you feel 秘密 2 你可以掌控你的行为 但无法掌控你的感受 Get Happier Now You guessed it Smile You can even set calendar alerts as reminders to do so regularly and consistently While it s not an instant cure all it will reduce your body s stress response and make you feel better even if you re gritting your teeth behind that grin 现在变得更快乐 你猜 笑 你甚至可以用日历来提醒你有 规律的持续的做 尽管并不会立刻治愈 会减少你身体的 压力反应使你感觉更好 即使拧笑后你在磨你的牙齿 Myth 3 People who are generally happy just have pretty good stress free lives 秘密 3 拥有无忧无虑 毫无压力的生活 Get Happier Now Write down a recent change in your life good or bad and then follow it with three good things that have come out of that change For example My car is in the shop and I have to dip into my savings for the repairs But being car less means I get to carpool with my coworkers who I ve been meaning to get to know 现在变得更快乐 写下你生活中近来的改变 好的或坏的 然 后改变之后会有三件好事 例如 我的车在修车行 我需 要用我的储蓄修理它 但是 无车意味着 我和我要了解 的同事在一个平台上 Myth 4 Having a positive attitude means never getting upset or frustrated about anything 秘密 4 拥有积极的生活态度 就不会对事情害怕或沮丧 Get Happier Now Designate a worry time for yourself each day no more than five minutes during which you will allow yourself to indulge in all the negative thinking you want Set a ritual to conclude your worry time something designed to refocus on the good such as performing a small act of kindness for someone writing down a point of gratitude or making a note of something in the recent past that s made you feel relieved happy etc 现在变得更快乐 每天为你自己标明 担忧时间 不超过五 分钟 期间你允许你自己陷入消极的思考 做计划来总结 你的担忧时间 某事被重新聚焦于好的 例如对某人执行 一次小小的善意行为 写下感激点 做个便条过去使你感 到放松的高兴的事情 Myth 5 Being unhappy makes you work harder 秘密 5 不好的情绪会使你的工作更艰难 Get Happier Now Schedule a five minute Happy Break in the middle of your workday every day for a week Use that time to savor a treat you love I suggest a square of really good dark chocolate listen to your favorite song text a loved one or otherwise do something that you know will lift your mood Don t be surprised if you discover you got more done at the end