积极心理学课件1504-07-perfection

Perfeconizm ti Outline WhatisPerfectionism CharacteristicsConsequencesSuccessandHappinessSourcesofPerfectionismOvercomingPerfectionism Learntofailorfailtolearn Crisis WeiJi DangerandOpportunity Thegreatestmistakeamancanmakeistobeafraidofmakingone ElbertHubbard ThePathofFailure Age22 LostjobAge23 DefeatedforstatelegislatureAge24 FailedinbusinessAge27 NervousbreakdownAge34 RanforcongressanddefeatedAge39 DefeatedagainAge46 RanforsenateanddefeatedAge47 DefeatedfornominationforvicepresidentAge50 DefeatedagainforsenateAge51 16thUSPresident Freedomisnotworthhavingifitdoesnotconnotefreedomtoerr MohandasGandhi Theimportantworkofmovingtheworldforwarddoesnotwaittobedonebyperfectmen GeorgeEliot ThomasWatsonSr IBM AmyEdmondson 1999 PsychologicalSafety Ifyouwanttoincreaseyoursuccessrate doubleyourfailurerate ThomasWatsonSr OriginsofGenius Simonton 1999 Failyourwaytosuccess Klem 1997 Perfectionismisanincapacitatingfearoffailurethatpermeatesourlives especiallythoseareasthatwecareaboutmost Itisanapproach acognitiveandemotionalschema thatweholdtowardthejourneyofourlives towardtheprocessofgettingfrompointAtopointB PerfectionVs ExcellenceCharacteristics Defensive OpentoSuggestions HalfEmpty HalfFull OverGeneralize Realistic NoSelf Acceptance UnconditionalAcceptance Static Dynamic Perfection Excellence Fearoffailure Failureasfeedback FocusonDestination JourneyandDestination PerfectionVs ExcellenceConsequences TemporaryRelief LastingSatisfaction InevitableFailure PossibilityofSuccess Wastestime AppropriateTimeAllocation Pronetodisorders HealthyApproach HurtsSelf Esteem ContinuousImprovement HarmsRelationships AllowsforGrowth Anxiety Stress CreativeTension Perfection Excellence Performance LessPainMoreGain LessPainMoreGain SustainableapproachtogrowthProcrastinationHigherlevelsofself confidenceLearntofailorfailtolearn TheLuckFactor Wiseman 2003 Creativity Simonton 1999 80 20Rule Pareto sPrinciple Increaseinflowexperiences Csikszentmihalyi 1991 SourceofPerfectionism ConditioningDestination Reward AcceptanceJourney Unrewarded MeansOnlySocialenvironmentPermissiontobehuman Emphasizingeffortgivesachildavariablethattheycancontrol Theycometoseethemselvesasincontroloftheirsuccess Emphasizingnaturalintelligencetakesitoutofthechild scontrol anditprovidesnogoodrecipeforrespondingtoafailure IntelligenceversusEffort HarmfulPraise Dweck 2005 Whenyoupraisekids intelligenceandthentheyfail theythinkthey renotsmartanymore andtheyloseinterestintheirwork Incontrast kidspraisedforeffortshownoimpairmentandoftenareenergizedinthefaceofdifficulty FixedversusMalleable OvercomingPerfectionism Awareness OvercomingPerfectionism AwarenessFocuson andreward effortActiveAcceptanceBehaviorchangesattitudeMeditationandvisualizationSettingaliberatinggoalorvisionThePlatinumRuleHelpingothers Applyingthe3P s 1 PermissionAcceptanceRespectforreality2 Positiv