高中英语双语阅读Unit1Friendship为什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1

1、高中英语双语阅读Unit1Friendship为什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1高中英语双语阅读Unit1Friendship为什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1高中英语双语阅读Unit1Friendship为什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1为什么你的好朋友那么少？Making friends can be hard because of ones lack of social skills, because our society is generally making us more isolated, because of our modern busy lifestyl

2、es， or because we no longer have a context for meeting people like we did in college or high school。交友瓶颈产生的原因可以是我们缺乏社交经验，可以是我们被社会侵染得与世隔绝,可以是现代生活变得繁忙，也可以是我们不再有大学或中学那样的环境。There is no single cause that makes this crucial skill hard for us-its actually a group of causes。 In this article, were going to t

3、ackle the main reasons you may find it hard to make friends， and how to overcome them so you can get the happy social life you want。缺乏社交技能不是个别因素造成的-实际上有大大小小的原因。编者将在这篇文章中与大家一起解决所谓的“交友难”问题，并且帮助大家在社会生活里混得如鱼得水.You Think that Everyone Else is Already in a Closed Group of Friends问题一:觉得别人的朋友圈早已“闲人勿进”了Did y

4、ou know that the lonelier the person is, the more they tend to only notice extroverted people who have a great time with friends？ Somehow the mind gets blind to all others who are maybe even more lonely; its just a mental illusion.At the same time， most friendships are superficial. People can hang o

5、ut with others just to avoid being alone. Everyone is craving for more close and loyal friends, so dont be fooled by appearances.你知道性格越孤僻的人就越向往阳光平和的人吗？渐渐地,他们就会看不见那些比他们还要孤僻的人；这仅是精神错觉罢了。与此同时，多数人的友谊都薄如蝉翼。朋友们相约出来可能仅仅是为了驱赶寂寞。因此，不要傻傻地光看表象。不仅是你，其他人都在渴望更亲密忠厚的朋友呢！You Learned That Friends Can be Disappointing

6、问题二:一朝被蛇咬,十年怕草绳If you got hurt by friends in the past, you might think that friendship is risky。 What you may have missed is that these scars are lessons. They are new tricks under your belt. Bad friendship experiences are signals and new skills that allow you to filter people better。You get to beco

7、me more safe as you gather friendship experience， and youll to see the warning signs before you get disappointed。 Its a wealth of knowledge that you shouldnt throw awayyou can learn from them.如果你过去被朋友伤害过，可能就会觉得友情很危险。那些你挥之不去的伤痕也会随时提醒你。你认为新朋友会伤害你，再加上过去糟糕的友情体验所发出的信号,你就会任凭受伤的信去筛选好人作朋友。一旦交友经验日益丰富,你会越来越有安

8、全感。并且在朋友让你失望前就嗅出危险的信号.这可是一笔宝贵的经验-能够让你获益良多的经验.Great Results Dont Seem to Appear at First Attempt问题三：多重原因导致被动交友If its been a long time since you made a new friend, then knowing where to start can be difficult。 A big common mistake is for someone to psych themselves into going out to socialize， then qu

9、ickly get discouraged when they see that other people arent very responsive to them.Your social skills may be dormant or you may never developed them as you could have. If you want a great social life， you cant count on one single action step。 You need new habits that are easy to implement gradually

10、, and a set of great social skills and techniques to use.长时间没有结交新朋友会让你难以迈出第一步.一些人有个共同的缺点:一开始他们会憋足劲去搞人际关系,一旦别人没有做出相应的回应,他们就泄气了.如此一来，本应得到发展的社交技巧也会停滞不前.若你希望有一个很棒的社交生活,就别指望一步到位了。得循序渐进养成新的习惯，再配合着一系列的社交技巧来使用。The “What If They Dont Like Me?” Factor问题四:畏首畏尾Fear of rejection is also a big block. If you try t

11、omake friends with someone and it doesnt work out, you can rarely know why。 Its usually a lot of speculation. Whether you believe that think youre not good enough, or they think that youre too good forthem， its usually just guesswork。 You can never know whats going on with someone you dont know very

12、 well。You dont have to choose a thinking process that discourages you.If someone isnt ready to meet or hang out with you, let it go. It can be anything: they must be busy， they may not be ready for new friends, they may have been hurt lately， etc. It can be anything， so never take a guess that may o

13、nly discourage you。怕被拒绝同样是一大障碍。如果你努力结交朋友,结果却碰了一鼻子灰。天知道这是怎么一回事。你可能认为自己不够好,他们却可能认为你好的过余。原因太难猜了。毕竟对于那些你不了解的人你永远也不会知道他们在想什么。你大可不必让勇气在猜疑中退却。Youre Afraid to Reveal Who You Are问题五:害怕展露真实的自己Revealing who you are (and your secrets) is a key part of making friends。 If youre not ready to open up， that hesitanc

14、e can block you from making new connections。 Please note that you dont need to open up completely at once, and can do so in stages.People are used to having others talking about generalities at first. If you get good at that， you can wait and get to know people before revealing yourself gradually. A

15、t the same time, never think that people are that welladjusted and perfect。 Everyone has their own quirks； everyone has a side of themselves theyre not too proud of, or dont have the courage to reveal。Youre not alone.交友的关键部分就是展露真我（和秘密）。如果你尚未准备好敞开心扉,这份犹豫就会成为阻碍。要知道你并不需要一次性就彻底曝光出来，得按部就班慢慢来。要是你在行人们习惯谈论的

16、日常琐事,便可以先谈着，再伺机吐露心声。同时要注意人们没有你想象中那么有适应性，也并非那么完美.每个人都有怪癖，每个人都缺乏勇气揭露自卑的一面。而你,只是众多人之一.You Cant Acknowledge That You Actually Need People问题六：不承认自己需要朋友This is another common reason why people stay isolated. Its okay to think of yourself as an independent person but， who said that independent people have

17、to be lonely？ If you feel that power means that you dont need other people, its maybe time to rethink that。 The ability to bring other people in your life and have them on your side is more powerful。If you learn how to make friends, then youll never be obligated to be with anybody that doesnt deserv

18、e you。 Thats a more evolved way to see power. Power means that you choose who you hang out with。这也是人们孤立的共同原因。认为自己独立这点无可厚非，但是认为独立等同于孤独就过犹不及了.如果你认为有本事独立的人就会有本事孤独生活，那得好好反思一下。将别人引入你的生活，并让他们拥护你，这才是更大的本事.一旦掌握了交友技巧，你就再也没必要跟不值得的人纠缠了，这是进一步见证本事的方式。这里所谓的本事即选择跟谁出去的权利在你。Your Loner Habits Are Too Strong to Break?问题七:心墙太厚，难以攻破Habits are like rivers: you cant turn if you dont have enough willpower. At the same time， you dont need to be superman to get a social life. All you need is a set of strategic techniques that will allow you to new habits that automatic