How to Make a Good Impression.doc

First ListeningPlease listen to a short passage carefully and prepare to answer some questions.Second ListeningListen to the tape again. Then answer the following questions with your own experiences.1. How long does it take us to judge the people we meet?2. What is one way you can have a positive effect on other people?3. What is the key to being the best person you can be?How to Make a Good Impression Research shows we make up our minds about people through unspoken communication within seven seconds of meeting them. Consciously or unconsciously, we show our true feelings with our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes, causing a chain of reactions, ranging from comfort to fear. Think about some of your most unforgettable meetings: an introduction to your future spouse, a job interview, an encounter with a stranger. Focus on the first seven seconds. What did you feel and think? How did you read the other person? How do you think he read you? You are the message. For 25 years Ive worked with thousands who want to be successful. Ive helped them make persuasive presentations, answer unfriendly questions, communicate more effectively. The secret has always been you are the message. Others will want to be with you and help you if you use your good qualities. They include: physical appearance, energy, rate of speech, pitch and tone of voice, gestures, expression through the eyes, and the ability to hold the interest of others. Others form an impression about you based on these. Think of times when you know you made a good impression. What made you successful? You were committed to what you were talking about and so absorbed in the moment, you lost all self-consciousness.Be yourself. Many how-to books advise you to stride into a room and impress others with your qualities. They instruct you to greet them with power handshakes and tell you to fix your eyes on the other person. If you follow all this advice, youll drive everyone crazy including yourself. The trick is to be consistently you, at your best. The most effective people never change from one situation to another. Theyre the same whether theyre having a conversation, addressing their garden club or being interviewed for a job. They communicate with their whole being; the tones of their voices and their gestures match their words. Public speakers, however, often send mixed messages. My favorite is the kind who say, Ladies and gentlemen. Im very happy to be here while looking at their shoes. They dont look happy. They look angry, frightened or depressed. The audience always believe what they see over what they hear. They think, Hes telling me hes happy, but hes not. Hes not being honest. Use your eyes. Whether youre talking to one person or one hundred, always remember to look at them. Some people start to say something while looking right at you, but three words into the sentence, they break eye contact and look out the window. As you enter a room, move your eyes comfortably; then look straight at those in the room and smile. Smiling is important. It shows you are relaxed. Some think entering a room full of people is like going into a lions cage. I disagree. If I did agree, I certainly wouldnt look at my feet or at the ceiling. Id keep my eye on the lion! Lighten up. Once in a staff meeting, one of the most powerful chairmen in the entertainment industry became very angry over tiny problems, scolded each worker and enjoyed making them fear him. When he got to me, he shouted, And you, Ailes, what are you doing? I said, Do you mean now, this evening or for the rest of my life? There was a moment of silence. Then the chairman threw back his head and roared with laughter. Others laughed too. Humor broke the stress of a very uncomfortable scene. If I had to give advice in two words, it would be lighten up! You can always see people who take themselves too seriously. Usually they are either brooding or talking a great deal about themselves. Take a good hard look at yourself. Do you say I too often? Are you usually focused on your own problems? Do you complain frequently? If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you need to lighten up. To make others comfortable, you have to appear comfortable yourself. Dont make any huge changes; just be yourself. You already have within you the power to make a good impression, because nobody can be you as well as you can.NEW WORDSimpressionn. 1. the effect produced in sb.s mind 印象，效果2. an idea or opinion that one forms about sth. 感觉，感想consciousa. 1. realizing sth. 感觉到，意识到2. fully awake; knowing what is happening around 处于清醒状态，有知觉的consciouslyad. 意识到地，感觉到地，神志清楚地unconsciouslyad. 无意识地，无感觉地，神志不清地self-consciousa. 1. nervous or embarrassed about the way one looks or appears 不自然的，难为情的，忸怩的2. strongly aware of who or what one is or what one is doing 有自我意识的self-consciousnessn. 害羞，忸怩；自我意识attituden. 1. a position of the body 姿势，姿态2. the way one thinks and feels about sth. or sb. 态度，看法reactionn. 1. the way a person reacts to something 反应2. a course of change that occurs when two or more kinds of matter are put together 反应，作用rangev. 1. occur (between certain limits)（在一定幅度或范围内）变动，变化2. put things in rows; order in a line or lines 排列；把排成行n. 1. a choice; a variety 种类；广泛（性）2. the distance over which an object can be sent or thrown; the distance over which a sound can be heard, etc. 射程；距离，范围introductionn. 1. the introducing of one person to another 介绍，（正式）引见2. the introducing of sth. 引进，采用spousen. a husband or wife 配偶（指夫或妻）interviewn. 1. a meeting and discussion with sb. seeking a job, etc.（对求职者等的）面谈， 2. a discussion in which a television or radio reporter asks a person questions that he thinks listeners would like to hear the answers to 记者等的）采访，访谈vt. question a person in an interview 对进行面谈（或面试）；对采访encountern. a meeting with sb. that happens by chance 意外（或偶然）相遇vt. meet or have to deal with (sth. bad, esp. a danger or difficulty) 遇到，遭遇（尤指危险或困难）focusv. direct attention, etc. to one point 使（注意力）集中persuasionn. the act of making sb. do sth., or not do sth., by arguing with them and advising them 说服，劝说persuasivea. able to persuade sb. to do or believe sth. 有说服力的，能使人相信的presentationn. the presenting of sth. 表现，描述physicala. 1. having to do with ones body 身体的，肉体的2. having to do with things that can be seen 物质的，有形的，实物的appearancen. 1. what can be seen of a person, thing, etc. 外观，外貌，外表2. the act of beginning to exist or becoming within ones reach 出现raten. 1. the speed with which sth. happens or is done 速度，速率2. the number of occasion within a certain period of time when sth. happens 比率，率pitchn. the highness or lowness of a voice or a musical note（说话等）声音（或音调）的高低度；音高tone n. the quality of a sound, esp. of the human voice 音调，音gesturen. a movement of the hand, head that expresses something 手势，示意动作absorbvt. 1. hold sb.s attention completely or interest sb. greatly 吸引的注意力，使感兴趣 2. take in and hold sth. 吸收stridevi. walk with long steps, often because one is feeling very sure and determined 大踏步走，阔步行进 n. a long step 大步；步态，步法impress vt. make sb. feel admiration and respect 给深刻的印象，使钦佩consistenta. 1. always having the same opinions, standard, behaviour, etc. 一贯的2. agreeing 一致的consistently ad. 一贯地，一直speaker n. a person who makes a speech to a group of people 演讲者，演说家depress vt. make sb. unhappy 使抑郁，使沮丧audience n. a group of people who watch or listen to a play, concert, speech, the television, etc. 观众，听众contactn. 1. a state in which two people or things touch each other 接触2. communication with a person, official group, country, etc. 接触，联系，交往relaxv. make or become less worried or stressed; spend time not doing very much 使（困难等）减少；（使）休息，放松lighten v. make or become less heavy or forceful 减轻，放松entertainmentn. things that interest and humour people 娱乐；供消遣的东西roar vi. make a loud, deep sound 大声叫喊，咆哮humor (英 humour)n. the funny or pleasing quality or qualities of sb. or sth. 幽默，诙谐broodv. (over, on) worry, or think a lot about sth. that makes one sad （不快或怨忿地）想；忧伤；考虑PHRASES AND EXPRESSIONSmake up ones mind decide 下定决心，打定主意range from. to. occur from.to. 从到（范围或幅度内）变化focus ondirect (sth. such as ones attention) firmly on (a subject); pay attention to 使（注意力）集中在drive sb. Crazy make sb. feel very angry or annoyed 逼得某人发疯或受不了at ones best in ones best state or condition 处于最佳状态，在全盛时期communicate with speak to; send a message to; be understood by (sb.) 与交谈，与交流lighten up sth. you say to tell sb. to stop being so serious or annoyed 放松，不要生气take .seriously treat a thing or person as important 认真地对待PROPER NAMES Ailes 艾尔斯（人名）怎样给人留下好印象有研究预示，咱们对他人的判断是按照咱们最初碰到她们的七秒钟里所进行的无声交流形成的。无论是成心识照旧无意识，咱们都会用咱们的眼神儿、面部表情、形体动作和立场来表现咱们的真实感情，从而使他人产生从恬静到害怕等一连串反映。想一想那一些让你最为难忘的碰面：被先容给你将来的爱人或丈夫、一次求职面试、与生疏人的一次邂逅。将注重力集中在最初的七秒钟，你当时有何感想?你是怎样解读他人的?你以为他又是怎样解读你的?你本人就是信息。25年来，我在工作中和数千个想要乐成的人打过打交道。我帮助她们，使她们所作的演讲有说服力，教她们怎样回覆不友善的提问，和怎样与人更有效地沟通。而所有这一切的法门都在于要懂患上你本人就是信息。如果你能利用你的长处，别人就会愿意跟你在一起，而且愿意帮助你。这些长处包孕：外表、活力、语速、语音语调、用手做姿势、眼神儿，和使他人对你连结乐趣的能力。别人对你的印象就是按照这些因素形成的。想一想有哪几次你切当懂患上你给人留下了好印象。你乐成的缘故原由又是什么?那是因为你对你所谈论的工作非常投入，你当时完全沉浸此中，以至于完全没有了羞