研究新发现：每个父母都偏心.docx

您现在的位置： Language Tips News English Bilingual News 研究新发现：每个父母都偏心Be honest, EVERY parent has a favourite child. 2011-11-28 08:58 Parenting taboo: Many parents wont admit to it but numerous children can cite examples of favouritismGet Flash PlayerAll parents tell their children little white lies from time to time. Of course Father Christmas comes down the chimney! Eat your spinach youll get as strong as Popeye. No, I didnt put that pound under your pillow. It was the Tooth Fairy, . and so on. Its all part of the magic of childhood.However, theres one fib thats bigger than all the others. Its I dont have a favourite child.In his fascinating new book, The Sibling Effect: What Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us, Jeffrey Kluger, a father of two daughters, aged eight and ten, claims that 95 percent of parents in the world have a favourite child and the other 5 percent are lying.Kluger may be exaggerating the figures for dramatic effect but despite every parents vehement denial that they have a favourite child scientific research shows that he is not far off the truth.According to one recent study by researchers from the University of California which followed 384 sibling pairs and their parents for three years 65 percent of the mothers and 70 percent of fathers exhibited a preference for one child. As this was among families that knew they were being monitored, theres a strong possibility the true figures could be significantly higher.Favouritism is certainly a controversial topic. When raised as a subject for discussion on parenting websites, it always elicits a stream of outrage and angry denials.But interestingly, a lot of personal anecdotes appear from parents who say they were overshadowed by a favoured sibling, or were, indeed, their mother or fathers favourite. It seems everyone knows favouritism exists but nobody wants to put their hand up and say theyre guilty of it themselves.Other research, where siblings have been asked to say who their mother and father favour, suggests that mothers do tend to a show a preference for their first-born son, but fathers often dote on their youngest daughters.Parents will often be drawn to the child who is easiest to get along with or the child that shares similar traits to them. For example, mum will have a special bond with her sensitive, arty son, while dad lavishes attention on his sporty daughter.Professor Scott says being least favoured in a family can colour our behaviour as adults. Children who feel they are less loved within their family are more likely to develop low self-esteem, anxiety and depression.But some experts believe being less favoured can have positive consequences. Professor Scott agrees that favoured children can sometimes find life difficult when they have to rub along in the real world.(Read by Lee Hannon. Lee Hannon is a journalist at the China Daily Website.)点击查看更多双语新闻(Agencies)所有的父母都会时不时地告诉孩子一些善意的小谎言。“圣诞老人当然是从烟囱里下来了！”“把你的菠菜吃了你会像大力水手一样强壮的。”“不，我没有把那一英镑放在你的枕头下。是牙仙干的。”诸如此类。这都是童年神奇色彩的一部分。然而，有一个谎言比所有其他谎言都要大。这就是“我没有对哪个小孩偏心”。在他引人入胜的新书同胞效应：兄弟姐妹纽带大揭秘中，杰弗里克鲁格称，“世界上95%的父母都有偏爱的孩子而其他5%是在说谎。”克鲁格有两个女儿，分别是8岁和10岁。克鲁格可能是为了戏剧化效果夸大了数字，不过尽管每个父母都强烈否认自己有特别偏爱的小孩，但科学研究显示，克鲁格所说的离真相并不远。根据加利福尼亚大学研究人员的一项新研究，65%的母亲们和70%的父亲们都表现出对某个小孩的偏心。该研究在三年间跟踪调查了384名有兄弟姐妹的孩子和他们的父母。因为这些家庭知道他们正受到监视，所以极有可能真实的比例还要大得多。偏心确实是一个备受争议的话题。当育儿网站将偏心作为讨论的话题时，总会有许多愤慨的父母生气地表示否认。不过，有趣的是，许多父母在讲述自己的个人经历时会提到自己曾因为兄弟或姐妹更受父母宠爱而受冷落。似乎每个人都知道偏心的存在，但没有人愿意举手承认自己也偏心。其他研究让有兄弟姐妹的孩子们说出父母更宠爱谁，结果显示，母亲一般更宠爱她们的大儿子，而父亲则往往更宠爱他们的小女儿。父母们通常会更愿意接近那些相处起来最轻松的小孩，或是和自己有相近特质的小孩。例如，母亲也许和她那个敏感、喜欢附庸风雅的儿子特别亲近，而父亲则会十分关注自己爱好运动的女儿。斯科特教授说，在家里被冷落会影响我们成年后的行为。“那些感觉自己在家中没人疼的小孩更可能出现自卑、焦虑和抑郁情绪。”不过一些专家认为，不受宠也会带来积极的影响。斯科特教授承认，当受宠的孩子不得不在现实世界中勉强度日时，有时会感到人生很艰难。相关阅读“宝贝老大”情结普遍 妈妈偏爱长子长女研究：为什么肤色白皙的女子受到偏爱？研究：男性偏爱红衣女郎妈妈多关爱 宝宝成年后少忧虑研究：多金女偏爱年长魅力男（中国日报英语点津 陈丹妮 编辑：Julie）Vocabulary:white lie: 善意的谎言spinach: 菠菜Popeye: 大力水手，美国的漫画人物Tooth Fairy: 牙仙。牙仙是美国的一个民间传说。有两个版本，一个是说小孩子在换牙的时候，他们把换下的牙齿放在枕头底下。当他们睡着的时候，牙仙就会把牙齿收走，然后给他们一点零花钱；另一个是说牙仙是专门杀害换乳牙的小孩子，并带走他们的牙齿。fib: 小谎；无伤大雅的谎言vehement: 强烈的；猛烈的favouritism: 偏爱，偏心dote on: 溺爱arty: 附庸风雅的；装作爱好艺术的sporty: 具有运动家品格的；参加多种体育运动的colour: 歪曲；影响rub along: 勉强维持中国日报网英语点津版权说明：凡注明来源为“中国日报网英语点津：XXX（署名）”的原创作品，除与中国日报网签署英语点津内容授权协议的网站外，其他任何网站或单位未经允许不得非法盗链、转载和使用，违者必究。如需使用，请系；凡本网注明“来源：XXX（非英语点津）”的作品，均转载自其它媒体，目的在于传播更多信息，其他媒体如需转载，请与稿件来源方联系，如产生任何问题与本网无关；本网所发布的歌曲、电影片段，版权归原作者所有，仅供学习与研究，如果侵权，请提供版权证明，以便尽快删除。窗体顶端讨论本文 (total 0) 保存打印发送E-Mail推荐给MSN或QQ好友进入英语学习论坛窗体底端相关文章 Related Story英国人更爱说cheers不爱说thank you为防伴侣出轨 半数女性假装性高潮英国人压力太大 睡着了也在发短信美国感恩节聚会变身财务大讨论英3/4男性不介意妻子成为家庭经济