人际关系 英文.ppt

1、Personal relationship,Excellent Relationships,The second goal that we all have in common is to enjoy excellent relationshipsintimate， personal or socialwith the people we like and respect， and who like， love and respect us in turn. Fully 85% of your happiness will be determined by the quality of you

2、r relationships at each stage，,and in each area， of your life. How well you get along with people， and how much they like， love and respect you， has more impact on the quality of your life than perhaps any other factor. 人生的第二大梦就是完美的人际关系，与亲人、朋友和同事，以及社会上一般人融洽相处、互动良好。我们爱且尊敬他人，而他人也爱且尊敬我们。人们在任何一个人生阶段或居住在

3、任何一个地区是否觉得幸福快乐，其中有百分之八十五取决于融洽的人际关系。你与他人相处的情形，他人是否喜欢你、爱你、尊重你，构成了你是否觉得幸福快乐的关键因素。,To build up a good relationship with others helps you a lot. First, friends can offer their help to you whenever you meet troubles. And if you have a good relationship with others, then you can ask for all kinds of help f

4、rom them. Second, relationship is a symbol to make us human different from animals. We all need it. We can hardly live without love, friendship, etc. Generally speaking, people hates loneliness,Respect for those who do not like you,To shake hands with people when they are little more grip. Are the s

5、incere.,On the issue rather than the person; or callous thing for people to love; or being first, followed by work,Not to others, and be taken for granted. Thanksgiving should know,How to deal with our personal relationship,Every relationship experiences some conflict. Some experience more than othe

6、rs, some are playful, and some are hateful. Then there are those that are never ending patterns of conflict that seem impossible to break.,If you do want to stop the cycle of conflict, consider these 10 steps to bring harmony back to your relationship. Note that this doesnt only apply to parent and

7、girlfriends, these can apply to work conflicts as well.,1.Cool Down Time. If youve found yourself in a heated argument, the best thing you can do is walk away for a little while. Blow off some steam with a walk or by talking things out with a clear headed friend. If you just need some rest, take a n

8、ap or a meditation nap.,Before going separate ways, take a deep breath and agree to discuss the issue later. The whole goal of separating should be to come back together with a better ability to work things out.,2.Mutual Respect. No matter how divided you are in your positions, always remember the h

9、umanity of the other person. Keep in mind their weaknesses and frailties. Think about the respect you want and then give it unconditionally to the other person. Be kind even if you are angry. If that makes you cry instead of screaming, youll probably find that yourself getting closer to the true roo

10、t of the issue. When you get to the root, you can start solving things.,3.Start with Yourself. Ask yourself what part of the argument is your responsibility. How did you contribute to this argument? What can you do to resolve it? Do you need to apologize? Do you know how? This video taught me the 3

11、steps to a proper apology:,Im sorry. It was my fault. How can I make it right again?,4.Whats It All About? From your perspective, what is the argument really about? What would the other person say the argument is about? What common goals do you both share that could be used as a vehicle to reach a r

12、esolution?,5.Needs vs. Wants. Figure out what it is that you want. Then ask yourself, what do I really need? Go for what you need and be flexible on your wants. A need is something you cant live without and a want is more of a preference. A resolution doesnt mean you get everything you want, but hop

13、efully you get everything that you need. If you cant get what you need then you may need to re-evaluate the relationship,5.Needs vs. Wants. Figure out what it is that you want. Then ask yourself, what do I really need? Go for what you need and be flexible on your wants. A need is something you cant

14、live without and a want is more of a preference. A resolution doesnt mean you get everything you want, but hopefully you get everything that you need. If you cant get what you need then you may need to re-evaluate the relationship,6.Compassion and Empathy. How is the other person feeling? How would

15、it feel to be in their shoes? Be honest. What are their fears behind the anger? Focus on the good qualities in the other person and consider what their goals are.,7.Wisdom and Strengths. What are the best qualities of this person? What wisdom do they possess? Everyone is smart about something. How c

16、an you tap into that wisdom to help you move forward out of conflict? What can you learn from your partner?,8.Better to Be Happy than to Be Right. Conflict can be hurtful and damaging to a relationship when allowed to run wild. Take a step back to view the big picture. What do you really want? What

17、is your goal?At the end of your life, how will you view this argument? What will you wish you did? How can you emerge from this conflict and return to a light and peaceful state?,9.Mutual Caring. What good things do you want for your partner? How can you help that person get what they need while you

18、 get what you need, either actively or by taking a step back?,10.Good Times Together. Often we can get into a pattern of conflict with partners and friends when we are not finding time to share fun together. So once the immediate conflict is resolved or at least semi-resolved, take some action that

19、will have long-term benefits. Schedule in fun time together on a regular basis. A good place to start is once a week. Designate this time to be Fun Time Only together. No discussion of trigger topics, just fun. Enjoy!,The skill of build relationship,Communication is the best way of build personal re

20、lationship. The skill of communication is a power weapon to build you personal relationship .,Sometimes it can be tough to keep a conversation going. Take this familiar scenario: 有时如何让对话继续是件难事，比如说下面这个场景有没有一点似曾相似？,Youre talking to someone you have just met, and the conversation is starting to stall.

21、With every passing second of silence comes more and more awkwardness. You rack your brain, trying to come up with a new topic, but your mind is blank. You make your excuses and then leave. As you walk away you start to ponder where it all went wrong,Dont worry; it happens to the best of us. But know

22、ing how to keep a conversation going is a great skill to possess. If you have trouble keeping a conversation going , you might miss an opportunity to get to know a great person. Here are 5 tips to make sure you never find yourself in that situation again。,1. Listen,Intently listening to what the oth

23、er person is saying is the best way to keep a conversation going. Many people forget that listening is an active task; nodding your head in acknowledgement without really paying attention isnt going to help you. Taking a genuine interest and really paying attention to what the other person is saying

24、 will。,2. Ask open ended questions,Questions which require more than just a “yes” or “no” answer encourage people to talk for longer, taking the pressure off you. For example, if you ask, “Do you like this restaurant?” a one word answer might be given. However, asking, “What do you think of this res

25、taurant?” offers a much greater possibility to keep the conversation going。,3. Talk about your passions,Have you ever noticed that when you talk about something you are passionate about, time seems to flow? You are able to talk for hours without any awkward silences。 If you find a conversation stall

26、ing, direct the conversation towards something you would have no trouble talking about; your passions。,4. Just say it,Sometimes you have no problem thinking up things to say. The problem is that you fear the other person wont enjoy the subject you have in mind. This fear is usually unfounded. Next time you find yourself stuck in conversation, just say what is on your mind. You might just be pleas