20XX年关于爱的英语演讲稿.doc

演讲稿 20xx年关于爱的英语演讲稿 eversincethedawningofthehistoryofmankind,therehavebeenmyriadsofdiversifedinventions,discoveries,andevenexplorationsofthemysteriesoftheuniverse.infact,thehumanbeingsaresointelligentthatwehavesolvedalmostallkindsofproblemswehaveconfrontedwith.however,nobodyhasevermadeoutwhattheword“love”reallyconnotes,noteventhemostfamouspeoplesuchasgreatpoliticians,saintsandphilosopherscanclarifythemeaningof“love”,neithercantheydealwiththevariousaffairsconcerninglove.loveislikeahugeboundlessnetthatshroudsusallin.wecanneitherbreakawayfromitnorescapefromit.likeitornot,wearealwaysentangledinit.itisaninvisiblenetwithoutanyform,thatshroudsindifferentpeoplefromdifferentangels;itisamercilessnetthatupsetsusoreventorturesustodeath.itisalsoasupremenetwhichalmostnohumancansurpass.eveniftheyareheroes,emperors,wisemenorsaints,theycandonothingbutshowtheirhelplessnessinitsface.thosewhocanbreathethroughtheholesofthenetshouldberegardedbeyondmonnessandvulgarity.lovecanbringustemporaryfortandhappiness,butmostlytheybringaboutannoyanceandsufferings.maybethisisthereasonwhymanypeoplehaveseenthroughtheillusionsofthemortalworld.howeveritisnotsoeasytobreakawayfromthisboundless,ever-existingandindifferentnetoflove.loveisvariedandchangeable,butroughlyitcanbedividedintothreecategories:familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylove.notlikemonkeykingwhojumpedoutoftherocks,wewereallbornaftermotherspregnancyofaboutninemonths,hencewehavecountlessrelativeswithoutanychoice:parents,grand-parents,andgrand-parents-in-law,unclesandaunties,brothersandsisters,etc.andoncelookingatthegenealogicaltree,wellseenoend.familyloveiswhateveryonelongsfor,butthewarmthandsupportfromourbelovedonesarewhateveryoneyearnsforthemost.buthowmanyofusaredeterminedtocontributetoourbelovedone?andhowmanydontexpectrepaymentandrelaxed.conscienceeveniftheyhavethedesireandpreparationtocontributetotheirbeloved.thedistancebetweenrelativesisdifferentandsoaretheirexpectations.butsinceitsverydifficulttoknowhowmuchweshouldexpect,alotofworriesanddistressesemerge.parentsalwaysexpecttheirchildrentoshowtheirfilialobedience,oratleastpaythemfrequentvisitsaftertheyhavegotmarried.ifthechildrenfailtodothis,theyfeelhurtandupset,andtheyllevenplainabouttheirchildren,becausetheyjustcantunderstandwhytheirchildrendontcareaboutthemafterwhattheyhavedoneforthechildrenforsomanyyearstobringthemup.nevertheless,onesexperiencedetermineshisideology.youngchildrenarenaturallyattachedtotheirparents,butwhentheygrowup,speciallywhentheyhavemadetheirownfriends,andgotmarried,whattheyneedmostisindependenceandfreedom,andparentssometimesmightbeetheirburden.oncethereisgenerationgap,itbeesmoredifficulttomunicateandthiskeepsthemawayfromtheirparents.objectivelyspeaking,hepresentsociety,whatthechildrenwanttohavemostistheeconomicsupportfromtheirparents,nottheirmoralsupportorguidance.theywouldplainifyoureconomicsupportisnotuptotheirexpectations.thelovefromunclesandauntieswouldnaturallydwindleaftertheyhavehadtheirownchildren.onlythelovefromgrand-parentsandgrandparents-in-lawispureanddemandsnorepayment,andtheyarealsotoooldtowaitforanyrepayment.asforthedistantrelatives,theirlovedependsontheirneeds,justastheoldsayinggoes“thepoorhavenofriendseveniftheyliveindowntownwhiletherichhavedistantrelativeseveniftheyliveindeepmountains”.grannyliu,adistantkinsfolk,inadreamoftheredmansions,claimskinshipwiththewealthyjiafamily,thinkingthatshemaybenefitfromitinsomeways.liumighthaverunawaywithoutanytracesifthejiafamilyhadbeenapoorone.anothersayinggoes“closeneighborsarebetterthandistantrelatives.”themostdifficultistomanagetherelativeswhendoingbusinesstogether,justaswhatthetvseriesprogramliulaogendiscloses.itisallrighttostaypoortogether,butassoonasthebusinessgrowsprosperous,thegroupwillbeeestrangedandevendissolvebecauseoftheunfairdistribution.familyloveislikeamazewhichweshouldntgotoofarintoit,otherwise,wellsurelygetlost.loveisabilateralmatterandunilaterallovecanonlyleadyoutonowhereinspiteofyourgoodintentions.familyloveis,sometimes,likeanarrangedmarriage,leavingnochoicestoyou.duetothedifferentexperiencesandtastes,stayingtogethertemporarilycanbeentertaining,whilelivingtogetherforalongtimecanonlybeboringduetothelackofmoninterestandunderstanding.howcanwemunicatewitheachotherwithoutunderstanding?parentshavethedutytosupportthechildrenwhoarenotyeteconomicallyindependent,andchildrenhavetheresponsibilitytoprovidefortheelderlyparentswhoarelackofeconomicabilitiestosupportthemselves.exceptthesetwokindsofdutieswhichwemustfulfill,otherkindsoflovebeeconventionalformalitiessuchaspayingvisittothesickorthedeadandgivingpresentstothenewly-bornetc.noloveamongrelativeshasbeeanormalphenomenonwhichneednttobefussedabout.whatsworseiswhenloveiscontaminatedbymoney.soonerorlaterwewillgethurt.thesoonerwegetoutofthisnetoflove,themorewecanpreservebeautifulmemories.wearenotlivinginvacuum,andthesocietyisformedofvariouskindsofpeople.aslongaswewanttolive,study,orwork,wehavetocontact,municateandcooperatewithothers.thosewhoenjoymoninterests,mutualunderstanding,monundertakingsandmonbenefitsbeefriends.somefriendsarecalledfair-weatherfriends,becausetheyaretogetherjustforentertainingthemselvesbyeating,drinking,andgossiping.oncetheresnothingtoeatanddrink,theirfriendshipisfinished.somearespiritualfriendswhosharemonambitions,pursuitsandeducation.“theyenjoytalkingandlaughingwiththegreattalentsandnevermakefriendswiththegood-for-nothings”.thebestexampleswouldbeyuboyaandzhongziqioftheancienttimeswhoarefamousnotonlyfortheirloftymusicbutmainlyfortheirloftycharactersandmutualunderstandingandappreciation.theycaredverylittleaboutmaterialwealth,sotheirfriendshipisknownas“gentlemensfriendshipaspureaswater”.thethirdtypeoffriendshipbelongtothosewhoshowtheirutterdevotiontoeachother.theyarereadynotonlytosharewealandwoebutalsotodieforeachother,likethethreebrothersliu,guanandzhanginthenovelromanceofthethreekingdoms.weallwishtohavethiskindoffriendship,butitsofgreatdifficultyfortheordinarypeopletobeasdevotedastheywere.fraternalloveorfriendshipiswide-rangedandflexible.generallyspeaking,everyoneisourfriend,justaschairmanmaosays“ourfriendsareallovertheworld”.buttranscendage,sex,nationality,stateandeconomicconditions.tothemthemostimportantismonbenefit,moninterestandunderstanding.friendshipisformedduringthecourseofstudying,workingandfighting.thebattlepanionswhohavesurvivedmanyhazardsusuallyenjoylong-lastingfriendship. however,fraternalloveisnotstable.beingawayfortooalongtime,losingallmonbenefits,friendswillbeeestranged.oncetheirinteresthaschanged,theynolongerunderstandeachother,andeventhiswouldharmfriendship.atalltimesandinallcountries,manyclosefriendsandbattlepanionswhoonceworkedtogetherandfoughttogetherbecameenemiesintheend.quietafewoftheemperorsinancientchinaevenkilledthosewhohadhelpedthemfoundtheirdynasties.thetaipingheavenlykingdomwouldnothavefailedifithadntbeenforthecontendingandmassacringamongthethosewhofirstroseinrebellionatthebeginningoftheuprising.whatelseweneedtopayattentiontoisthatsomefriends,afterbeingawayfromeachotherfortoolongatime,havelostsomuchoftheiroriginalcharactersthatwhenmeetingagain,youwillfeelthatyouarestillthesameasyouwere,whiletheyarenolongerthemselves.theymayhavethesamefeelingaboutyou,sosometimesitsbetternottomeeteachotheragain.asthechineseproverbgoes“friendshipcannotlastforthreeyearsandflowerscannotstayinblossomforthreemonths”.itsnotsoeasytomaintainrealfriendshipwhichneedsmutualunderstanding,toleranceandsacrifice.anykindsofharshtreatmentwilldamagefriendship.amatorylovehasbeenamysteryforages.theresneitheracriteriontojudgenoramonruletofollow.nobodycantelltheexactreasonswhyloveemerges.itisnotalwaysbecauseofbeauty(theuglydoorkeeperquasimodointhehunchbackofnotredameislovedbythebeautifulgypsygirlesmeralda),norkindness(hitleralsohashismistress),norwisdom(eventheblockheadmaysometimesmarryabeautifulgirl),norstrength(somelovestartsfromsympathy).trueloveislikegettinganelectricshock,shakingoursoul.itisasweetdream,akindofintoxication,indulgence,andendlesspassion.truelovedoesntneedalongtimetogrowup,tomakeclearthefamilytreeoftheother,neitherdoesitneedsthetimetolookaheadandbehindagainandagain.loveisnotmarriage,whichusuallystartsfromlove,butdoesntalwaysdependonlovetomaintain.long-lastingmarriagecaneventuallyturnintoakindoffamilylove,akindofpanionshipwhichpreservesthepanionbutlosesthepassion.loveisoftenanwinkoftheeye,orasmilethathintsmutualunderstanding.inspiteofthegreatdistancebetweenthem,peoplemayfallinloveincidentally.hencethesaying“adistantmarriageistiedupwithamysteriousthread”.loveneedspassion,anditcanstandbumpsandstumbles,upsanddowns,plaintsandblames.whenitturnsintoapoolofwater,especiallydeadwater,withoutanybillowsorwaves,itstimeforittodie.delicaciesaretasty,buteatingeverydaycanstillmakeoneloseappetite.happinessiswhateveryonelongsfor,buttoomuchhappinesscanspoilpeoplewhomaynotcareaboutthehappinesstheyalreadyhave.itsuniversaltoliveinhappinesswithoutknowingit.thesameistruewithlove.veryfewpeoplecanlovethesamepersonpassionatelyalltheirlives.alllovestoriesetoanendnomatterhowbeautifultheyare,whichalsodemonstratethechangeabilityoflove.whatonehasbeenchasingwildlymayturnintosomethingonewantstogetridofdesperatelyintheend.besides,loveisusuallyblind,especiallythosewhofallinloveatthefirstsight.attheverybeginning,bothtrytodemonstratetheirbeautifulsideandcoveruptheirweakness.fooledbythemysteriouscoloroflove,oneoftenmistakestheweaknessesasmerits.however,astimepassesby,frequentcontactsmakeonebored,andevenmeritsbeedefects,andthentheendofloveising.whatsmore,therearethecapriciousmenandwomenwhonevertakeloveseriously,leavingthedevotedonessufferingalone.thesayingthatthedevotedisalwaysabandonedbytheheartlesshasalmostbeethetruthofloveaffairs.whatwecantneglectisthatlovemayturnintohatred,andloversmayalsobeeenemies.thebestproofisthenumerousdivorces.eventhoughtrueloveishardtofindnowadays,westillcanseesometrueandinfatuatedboysandgirlswhoreadilygiveuptheirfamilies,theirparents,theirstudies,theircareersandeventheirlivesforlove.theylovesopassionately,crazilyandwildlythattheyhateanyonewhoisagainsttheirlove,andmayevenharmorkillhimifheinsistsonhisobjection.lovehasmagicalpowerthatcanexploitpeoplespotentialabilities,bringpeoplespositivefactorsintofullplay,andprovidepeoplewiththecouragetofacetrialsandhardships,togothroughlifeanddeath,andeventoriskuniversalcondemnation.evenintheancientfeudalsociety,somepeoplewerecourageousenoughtocarryonclandestineloveaffairs.theexamplesinpointwerethecourageousoneswhodaredtolovetheconcubinesoftheemperorsorthechildrenoftheirfoes.lovealsohasmiraculouspowerwhichcanstartletheuniverseandmovethegodsbyattractingtheheavenlycelestialsingdowntoearth(thelovestoryofthecowboyandtheweavinggirl),andbyturningghostsintohuman(strangetalesofliao-zhai).lovecantranscendageandgeneration(dr.sunyat-senandmadamsongqingling;luxunandxuguangping).lovecanshowcontemptforallconventionsandprejudices;lovecanhealwoundsandcurediseases,andlovecanreadjustpeoplesstateofmind.ofcourse,theresultwouldbetheoppositeonceithurts. greatmenyearnfortrueloveevenmorethanordinarypeople.sincetheancienttimes,somanyheroescouldnthelpfallingintothetrapoflovethatthesex-traphasbeenregardedasoneofthe36stratagemsinmilitarytactics.fuchai,thekingofthewustate,couldntbesparedofthistrap,andgeneralsdongzhuoandlubufelldeeplyintoitwhilexiangyu,thekingofthewesternchustate,bidfarewelltohisbelovedconcubineintears.peoplemayhavetopayveryhighprice,eventheirillustriousnameforthelovetheylongforeventhoughitmaylastforonlyaveryshorttime.nonethelessnoonecantearhimselfawayfromlove.peopleoftensaythattheirearthlyaffinityisnotyetfinished,butinfactitistheloveaffinitythatisthemostdifficulttofinish.loveisshapelessandpriceless.wecanblamenobodywhencapturedbyit.lovecannotbeforced,norcanitbepretended.sympathyisnotlove,neitherisgratitude.lovemustbegeneratedfromtheheart,andexpressedinactions.itcannotbecalledlovewithoutpassionsandadeeplongingfromthebottomoftheheart.theresnoimpassablegulfbetweenfamilyloveandfraternallove.somefamilylovemayturnintofriendship.atthesametime,naturalbarriersdoesntexisteitherbetweenfraternalloveandamatorylove.somefriendshipmaydevelopintoamatorylove.thesameistruewithamatorylovewhichmaychangeintofamilyloveafteralongtimeofmutualgrindingandpolishing.theclosertherelationship,andthehighertheexpectationsare,themoredifficultitistogetalongwitheachother.familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylovearethreemainhumanfeelings.ifhandledwell,theycanbringusextremehappiness,whilehandledimproperly,willbringusgreatsufferings.thepresentsocietyisaworldofdazzlingmoneyanddwindlinghumanfeelingcontacts.mostpeopleholdasnobbishattitude.theyonlymakefriendswithpeopleofwealthandofhighsocialstatus.justaszhen