写在30岁的人生建议

Y-Combinator CEO： 写在 30 岁的人生建议 2015-11-23 Sam Altman I turned 30 last week and a friend asked me if Id figured out any life advice in the past decade worth passing on. Im somewhat hesitant to publish this because I think these lists usually seem hollow, but here is a cleaned up version of my answer: 1) Never put your family, friends, or significant other low on your priority list. Prefer a handful of truly close friends to a hundred acquaintances. Dont lose touch with old friends. Occasionally stay up until the sun rises talking to people. Have parties. 重视家庭和朋友。有几个知己胜过一百个熟人。不要和老朋友失去联系。偶尔不妨彻夜长谈。多聚会。 2) Life is not a dress rehearsalthis is probably it. Make it count. Time is extremely limited and goes by fast. Do what makes you happy and fulfilledfew people get remembered hundreds of years after they dieanyway. Dont dostuff that doesnt make you happy (this happens mostoften when other people want you to do something). Dont spend timetrying to maintain relationships with people you dontlike, and cut negative people out of your life. Negativity is really bad. Dont let yourself make excusesfor not doing the things you want to do. 人生不是带妆彩排。要分秒必争。生命有限，时光飞逝。做自己开心并且有成就感的事情。很少有人死后 还会被记住。不要做那些不开心的事（特别是别人要求你做的事） 。不要花时间在不喜欢的人身上。远离 消极的人。消极极其有害。想做的事情，不要找借口不做。 3) How to succeed: pick the right thing to do(this is critical and usually ignored), focus, believe in yourself (especiallywhen others tell you its not going to work), developpersonal connections with people that will help you, learn to identify talentedpeople, and work hard. Its hard to identify what to work on because original thoughtis hard. 如何成功：选择做正确的事情（这至关重要而又经常被忽视） 、专注、相信自己（特别是别人告诉你不行 的时候） 、和能帮助你的人建立联系、学会识别人才，勤奋工作。找到自己想做的事情不容易，开始的想 法总是比较粗糙。 4) On work: itsdifficult to do a great job on work you dont careabout. And itshard to be totally happy/fulfilled in life if you dontlike what you do for your work. Workvery harda surprising number of people will beoffended that you choose to work hardbut not so hardthat the rest of your life passes you by. Aim to be the best in the world at whatever you doprofessionally. Even ifyou miss, youll probably end up in a pretty goodplace. Figure out your own productivitysystemdont waste time beingunorganized, working at suboptimal times, etc. Dont be afraid to take somecareer risks, especially early on. Most people pick their career fairly randomlyreally think hard about what you like, what fields are goingto be successful, and try to talk to people in those fields. 关于工作：你不上心的工作很难做出大的成就。如果工作不喜欢，也很难完全开心或有成就感。努力工作 （可能有人因此不高兴） ，但也不要彻底忽视你生活的其他部分。 目标成为某个专业领域最好的，即使最 后没达到，你也不会太差。搞清楚你的生产效率系统诸如不要无计划、或不在最佳状态工作。不要害怕 职业冒险，特别人生早期。很多人随机的选择职业认真思考你喜欢什么，哪些领域能够成功，和那些领 域的人多交流。 5) On money: Whether or not money can buyhappiness, it can buy freedom, and thats a big deal. Also, lack of money is very stressful. In almost all ways, having enough money sothat you dont stress about paying rent does more tochange your wellbeing than having enough money to buy your own jet. Making money is often more fun thanspending it, though I personally have never regretted money Ivespent on friends, new experiences, saving time, travel, and causes I believein. 关于钱：钱或许不能带来快乐，但钱能买来自由。这很重要。没钱会有压力。大多数情况下，保证你有足 够的钱能交房租，这比有钱能买的起飞机，更能影响你的幸福指数。挣钱通常比花钱很有趣，尽管我从未 后悔花钱帮助朋友、获得新体验、节省时间、旅行或其他有有意义的事情。 6) Talk to people more. Read more long content and less tweets. Watch less TV. Spend less time on the Internet. 多和人交谈。多读长内容，少发 tweets。少看 TV， 少或时间在网上。 7) Dont waste time. Most people waste most of their time,especially in business. 不要浪费时间。大部分人大部分时候都是在浪费时间，特别在生意上。 8) Dont let yourselfget pushed around. As PaulGraham once said to me, “People can become formidable,but its hard to predict who”. (There is a big difference betweenconfident and arrogant. Aim forthe former, obviously.) 不要任人摆布。像 PaulGraham 有一次对我说：人能变得令人生畏，但很难预测谁。 （自信和傲慢有巨大差 别，去做前者。 ） 9) Have clear goals for yourself every day,every year, and every decade. 每天，每年，每 10 年都要有清晰的目标。 10) However, as valuable as planning is, if agreat opportunity comes along you should take it. Dont be afraid to do somethingslightly reckless. One ofthe benefits of working hard is that good opportunities will come along, but its still up to you to jump on them when they do. 计划固然重要，但机会来了不要错过。有时候有一点不顾后果，也不用担心。努力工作的一个好处就是： 机会自然会来。但机会来了，仍然看你能否抓住。 11) Go out of your way to be around smart,interesting, ambitious people. Workfor them and hire them (in fact, one of the most satisfying parts of work isforging deep relationships with really good people). Try to spend time with people who areeither among the best in the world at what they do or extremely promising buttotally unknown. Itreally is true that you become an average of the people you spend the most timewith. 和聪明、有趣并且有雄心的人呆在一起。为他们工作或者雇佣他们（工作最让人满足的一个原因就是能和 真正优秀的人形成深度的关系） 。花时间和那些在某个领域最棒的人一起，或者和那些有巨大潜力但仍未 可知的人一起。和谁在一起花的时间多，你就会成为他们一样的人。 12) Minimize your own cognitive load fromdistracting things that dont really matter. Its hard tooverstate how important this is, and how bad most people are at it. Get rid of distractions in your life. Develop very strong ways to avoid lettingcrap you dont like doing pile up and take your mentalcycles, especially in your work life. 不要让不重要的事情占据注意力。这点怎么强调都不为过，但是大部分人还是做不到。让分散注意力的事 情远离你生活。特别在工作上，你要有方法不要让那些狗屎事情堆在你面前，占据你的精力。 13) Keep your personal burn rate low. This alone will give you a lot ofopportunities in life. 不要随便发火。就这一条，就能给你人生带来很多机会。 14) Summers are the best. 夏天是最好的时光。 15) Dont worry somuch. Things in life are rarely as riskyas they seem. Mostpeople are too risk-averse, and so most advice is biased too much towardsconservative paths. 不要杞人忧天。人生的事情并不像看起来那么危险。多部分人太趋于避险，因此大部分的建议都是偏向保 守的路径。 16) Ask for what you want. 问问自己，想要什么。 17) If you think youregoing to regret not doing something, you should probably do it. Regret is the worst, and most peopleregret far more things they didnt do than things theydid do. When in doubt, kiss the boy/girl. 不做会遗憾的事情，就放手去做。遗憾是最糟糕的。大部分人遗憾没做的事情，远远超过他们实际去做的 事情。迟疑不决的时候，只管去做。 18) Exercise. Eat well. Sleep. Get outinto nature with some regularity. 多运动，健康饮食，保证睡眠。定期去户外走走。 19) Go out of your way to help people. Few things in life are as satisfying. Be nice to strangers. Be nice even when it doesnt matter. 用你的方式助人为乐。人生很少是让人满意的。对陌生人友善一点。 20)Youth is a really great thing. Dont waste it. In fact, in your 20s, I think its ok to take a “Give me financialdiscipline, but not just yet” attitude. All the money in the world will never getback time that passed you by. 年轻是美好的，不要辜负。20 多岁的时候，不妨采取“给我理财原则，但我不一定做 ”的态度。 多少钱 也换不来时光。 21) Tell your parents you love them more often. Go home and visit as often as you can. 经常告诉你父母：你爱他们。多回家陪陪父母。 22) This too shall pass. 这一切都会过去。 23) Learn voraciously. 求知若渴。 24) Do new things often. This seems to be really important. Not only does doing new things seem toslow down the perception of time, increase happiness, and keep lifeinteresting, but it seems to prevent people from calcifying in the ways thatthey think. Aim to do something big, new, andrisky every year in your personal and professional life. 经常尝试新鲜事物。这非常重要。尝试新事物让你感觉时光缓慢、增加快乐、保持生活有趣，并且会防止 思维僵化。不管在个人生活还是职业生活中，每一年都尝试做一件大的、新的、有风险的事。 25) Remember how intensely you loved your boyfriend/girlfriendwhen you were a teenager? Lovehim/her that intensely now. Remember how excited and happy you got about stuff as a kid? Get that excited and happy now. 还记得少年时，你是多么热烈的爱你的男/女朋友吧？请一如既往。还记得孩子的时候，得到一点小东西是 多么兴奋和开心吧？ 请一如既往。 26) Dont screw peopleand dont burn bridges. Pick your battles carefully. 不要欺负别人，不要断人后路。小心选择战场 27) Forgive people. 学会原谅。 28) Dont chase status. Status without substance doesnt work for long and is unfulfilling. 不要追逐地位。没有内涵的地位不能持久。 29) Most things are ok in moderation. Almost nothing is ok in extreme amounts. 中庸，莫偏激。物极必反。 30) Existential angst is part of life. It is particularly noticeable around majorlife events or just after major career milestones. It seems to particularly affect smart,ambitious people. I thinkone of the reasons some people work so hard is so they donthave to spend too much time thinking about this. Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way